I don't have any extended family, its just me. The family i will have will be the family I build with my future husband, and his family I will become apart of. Is that a problem with most men? Do they expect or have to be with a woman who has parents and siblings of her own to join with his? Is it ok to have no family in the eyes of society? Just wanted to know others opions, I don't think its a problem, if it is then I have a problem..... Just wanted some points on this view..... thanks for your answers.
2006-08-10 04:56:58 · 13 answers · asked by shy&gental 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Family and the importance of family has changed very much in the last fifty years, especially the last twenty.
There is nothing wrong with a large family, but the larger it is, the less closeness you may experience. However it really depends on the roots, morals and ethics of said families.
I've known large families who are very close and small families who are not even on the same page.
I believe most men, primarily most young men are a bit intimidated by large families because it sometimes gets in the way of his relationship with you, and/or they wonder if they'll ever fit in as a part of that family.
For now, I would be happy with your current position, and focus on building your own immediate family.
Maybe the large family you do not have now, will come to exist in the future through your children.
2006-08-10 05:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by dork_hollywood 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My personal experience on this is if you're family is a bunch of bums and scumbags, but you want a better life, how important can any of them be? I blew my family off about 10 years ago, and I have done some pretty cool things with my life without them dragging me down. Some families are just not happy, supportive people. Why do you think so many teens run away from home? I would love to find a relationship where the girl did not have a family causing trouble and butting in. I've always had the saying, " I fell in love with you, not the rest of your family."
2006-08-10 05:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nc Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what is okay in the eyes of society. The 60's and 70's threw out all the guidelines we used to have. Yes, it is okay not to have "blood" family. Personaly, I think it can be a plus, because some family can cause problems between spouses. And this way, you get to choose and make your own family, instead of being born into it.
I'm very sorry you don't have any blood family, but it sounds like you might have built up a good network of chosen family/friends.
Good luck and good karma to you.
2006-08-10 05:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think extended family is important in life if you have one. But if you do not have one then you just cut out all the ugly arguements of a marriage like whose house are we going to for christmas this year and which grandma is better and so on. I think if you do not have a family then your husbands family will be that much more eager to make you a part of theirs.
2006-08-10 05:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all types of family is REALLY important. With the relationship between you and your husband, you will really need someone to fall back on even if its not your immediate family. When you go through life you will realize how important family is...
2006-08-10 05:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a problem. My husband's parent's disowned him for marrying me. I have a brother that lives 2000 miles away and I am not close to my mother at all. So, our family is basically what you said, the one we created together and we are perfectly happy and have been for 10 years now.
2006-08-10 05:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he would have any problem with that but I think you might develop some issues of your own, not understanding certain obligations to family that may require your time and money to assist with...depending on how tight the family is...you marry your husband...you marry into his family and any of their imperfections that come along with it.
2006-08-10 05:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to an extent yes but some people cant have that. So dont worry. I know someone whose Dad committed crimes and he moved to Indianna so he never sees him at all. My parents died when I was very young. I have my kids and my husband and grandbabies and one brother I see. The other brother I dont see. You will be OK...
2006-08-10 05:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, no worries. I don't see it as a problem, either. Every family has to start somewhere, right. :) Chin up!
2006-08-10 05:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends upon the circumstances that you face. in modern life, change is fast. hence, to stick to it is difficult.
2006-08-10 05:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋