2006-08-10 04:55:08 · 37 answers · asked by starkizz4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be there. Be confident, honest, and real with him. Give him love and respect, (make sure that you are getting it beck...) and ask ?'s. Find out why he is so insecure. Just, be there.
2006-08-10 04:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by bijjiggitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends - it's either insecurity or jealousy.
If it's insecurity, there's not too much you can do. That's a personal issue that he needs to deal with. He needs to work on boosting his confidence. Perhaps he has too many bad experiences. My bf was the same way. I just proved that he wasn't going to lose me by being there and not dwelling on the what if's. Heck, I moved out of state to be with him. If that's not proof, nothing is.
If it's jealousy - beware, this can turn ugly. If he tries to alienate you from your friends, belittle you, or anything like that, then he SHOULD love you... immediately!
2006-08-10 05:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tyana. It is a sign of insecurity. I dated a guy like for 3.5 years, and it ended badly. He was so insecure about everything, it did nothing but bring me down! It took me a long time to figure it out though, so please be careful! Step back and look at the relationship from a different point of full. Maybe it'll show you something you're not seeing now..
2006-08-10 05:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just insecure. If you like him, I'd suggest staying with him and not leaving him over this, if you do leave him it will simply reinforce his fears and ruin his chances of having a relationship. On the other hand, you should be happy and comfortable too. Get him to talk to a counselor, maybe go with him a few times.
2006-08-10 05:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he feels so insecure. It's a problem of him believing he is not worthy of you. Hear him out, and then let him know that his fears of you leaving him someday are far more likely to make it happen, because it will cause him to think, act and react in ways that might make you want to leave. Sometimes our reality is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
2006-08-10 05:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY. If a man is insecure about you and his relation with you, he can never be happy or keep you happy.
He Will begin to doubt you because of the fear of loosing you. He might start imagining you are not in love with him or there is somebody else on your mind.
The basic structure that love stands on is faith in each other.
His insecurity only shows that he is not confidant of his own self. Just let go.
2006-08-10 05:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our relationships with others should not compromise our faith. It's in the Bible, II Corinthians 6:14, TLB. "Don't be teamed with those who do not love the Lord, for what do the people of God have in common with the people of sin? How can light live with darkness?"
Our relationships with others are made possible through Jesus. It's in the Bible, Ephesians 2:21-22, TLB. "We who believe are carefully joined together with Christ as parts of a beautiful, constantly growing temple for God. And you also are joined with Him and with each other by the Spirit and are part of this dwelling place of God."
We become like the people we associate with. It's in the Bible, Proverbs 13:20, NIV. "He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm
2006-08-10 05:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by rodmanbig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest he has every right to feel this way. No one can really re insure there lover that they will stay forever ,sometimes people change,But you Two could get Married (depending on age) that may help with the insecurities on both side's
2006-08-10 05:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by Eonix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That may be a sign of Depression or a severely damaged self-esteem; tell him that he should get advice from a counselor if he can't trust you enough to believe when you tell him that the relationship is fine.
Bet u a nickel that he's a child of divorced parents.
2006-08-10 04:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over time, he will realize that you aren't going anywhere. Do things for him to remind him that you love him and are thinking about him when you are apart. Send an email, leave notes for him. Send cookies to his work or home. He will see that you are into him, and not getting ready to run away from him.
2006-08-10 05:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there isn't much you can do it's something he either has to believe in his heart. But maybe he should go to counseling cause maybe someone really close to him left him in his past. There is something going on inside of him that's making him feel this way. You should really sit down and talk to him and see whats really bothering him.
2006-08-10 05:12:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋