2006-08-10 04:53:01 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
look at it this way, people in older times rarely married for love. they had arranged marriages, often to complete strangers. They grew together, they fought together, and built families and homes together. And the divorce rate was almost non-exsistant. Marriages for love often end in divorce because love like any imotion can change and evolve. You may not be in love with them right now but maybe you will be later. Perhaps you can fall in love with them. Perhaps not.
I know this answer is a little different that just no, but I've seen arranged marriages last longer and happier than love matches.
It really depends on the maturity and expectations of each person.
yes it can work but you don't have to settle like that if you are unwilling to.
2006-08-10 05:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By "in love" are you talking about those first months when being with that person made your heart beat fast and your hands sweat. That's the courting stage and lucky is the couple who can keep that kind of feeling/chemistry going for a year or two. After that love becomes more of a commitment. But it doesn't have to be an unhappy commitment. My experience as a therapist is that unhappy people in relationships are often with a good person, or maybe even the right person, but they have developed a habit of looking at the things that irritate them rather than the things they like. Too simple? Try concentrating on what you see in your partner that is good for one whole day. Then take a little time in the evening to see he/she seems to be a little more fun or attractive.
2006-08-10 12:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by onealcharles@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can and I'm sure it happens all the time. Sometimes, this happens after the fact.. ...meaning, you 'thought' you were in love w/ them, but in the long run you realize you just loved them.. ..or sometimes, people may just 'settle' for someone they love instead of being madly in love w/ them.. ..some people don't want to be grow old as a single person and having a spouse (w/ kids in some cases) is more important than having that perfect love. Don't be judgemental of others if this is the case, many people are happy in these relationships.. ..not everyone can achieve perfection in all areas of their lives.
2006-08-10 12:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by dwitejones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love with a person is a combination of emotions including lust. To be in love with a person simply means to have strong feelings for that person....when you love a person it is unconditional. So yes, you can live the rest of your life with a person you love...why? because that is how is supposed to be any way. You fall in love several times during your life...but once you find that person you genuinely love unconditionally then a lifetime is all you need! Best wishes!
2006-08-10 11:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by buford_bargain_hunter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many kinds of love, if you have trust, companionship, security and just the comfort of each other, then yes you can spend the rest of your life together. Blazing passion wears out most always, but true love always finds a way.
2006-08-10 12:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do it all the time. It is what I like to call an empty relationship. It's when there is nothing left to give and you have had all the conversations there are to have and told all your stories several times over. It's when you are comfortable but not overjoyed anymore. I have one of those as a matter of fact, but I don't intend to keep it for the rest of my life.
2006-08-10 12:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is called marriage. your only "in love" until you get married or live with the person for a while then you just love them and that is almost even better. Life doesn't stay in that perfect dating world you can't be that happy for ever, if you love them, you love them and you want to spend for ever then do it if you don't want to spend forever then don't. Its that easy. Better tell them your not ready that way they can move on and so can you. But don't wait for that perfect person b/c they don't exist.
2006-08-10 11:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. The most important ingredient in a relationship is the belief that you are in love with your partner.
The minute you are out of love, everything else comes in.
2006-08-10 11:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea if you want to suffer. Why be unhappy? How can you make love to someone your not in love with? That's just doing the deed then. Good Luck.
2006-08-10 11:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People do it all the time. If youre young though you can wait for the deep love fireworks stuff.
2006-08-10 11:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋