Let's say you are the other woman...you of course know that "your" guy is in a relationship, which he is not planning to end for you any time soon, but you still want to be with him.
2006-08-10 04:51:55 · 26 answers · asked by mami17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay okay...let me clear this up I'm not the other woman...but I know someone who is and she dont care that she is the other woman...she says that just as long as she gets to be with him...she dont care about the him having a girl...that she blocks out that part of his life...cause she really "loves" him...and that she is just gonna wait for as long as it takes for him to leave his girlfriend for her.
2006-08-10 05:16:19 · update #1
I would feel like a tramp....I would feel used....I would feel stupid...I would feel that I deserved my own man, that loved me for me not just the sex, a man that shared his life with me, sad that I would want a man that would get out of my bed and go home to another woman!! I would feel pathetic!
2006-08-10 04:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me say I couldn't see myself been the other woman. Look if he can't leave the other for you then you need to let him be move on. Not trying to be rude or nothing. But, if he didn't tell you from the jump then you know that he's no good. How you don't know if he's got another girl behind both of ya'll back? Remember, what goes around comes around. So, how would you feel if your man was doing you like this? One real man can barely please one real woman so how is he pleasing both of you?
2006-08-10 05:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so sad that your life is that pathetic that you're willing to be his begging dog for the table scraps he tosses your way. As his wife rightly sits at the table kicking you with her new stilettos that she bought with his last check. You need to spend some time thinking about improving your self esteem. What has happened to you in this world that you think you only deserve this kind of treatment. Do you think you truly deserve to be happy? Do you even want to be happy? You're not going to be until this drawn out affair has come to a close and you see the value in yourself. Ending it will give you the confidence you need to make the first steps, but like most women in this situation you'll wait until he bores of you or his wife finds out and he ends it and they spend the next year bonding over what "that terrible home wrecker tried to do to their marriage." What will you do when even the grocery clerk knows you're a filthy lying home wrecker, yea that'll suck. Is a few moments of fabricated affection from someone else's man worth all of the pain it'll bring. You know why he sleeps with you? To do all the things he has too much respect for his wife to do to her, your like a video Sims game, not real and temporary. But to compensate for when you lose him you could just volunteer as a doormat for a local large family, ya know just lay down in front of their door so they can all wipe their shoes on you to keep their home clean, it will be as equally fulfilling.
2006-08-10 05:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lita S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st i wouldn't allow myself to be the other woman.. i have to much pride... i couldn't allow any man to have his cake and eat it to.. i would wanna be 1st in any man's eye no matter what.. be 2nd, being the side chick-it's so degrading.. i have more self-esteem then that and so should u..
if he wants to be w/someone else why would u still allow him to use u and ur body.. if he wants u then he'll be w/u and u only.. why would u wanna share?? that's how people catch STD's, that why women can't get along because of a stupid decision ur about to make..
u'll be w/him and then he'll get up and go see his gf and that is gonna hurt u the most when u notice that he won't choose u over his MAIN GIRL!
u need to suck it up, accept it and get over it.. MOVE ON and find u a new man that will be ur OWN MAN.. it is what it is.. don't make it more complicated then it needs to be..
2006-08-10 04:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the "OTHER WOMAN" and I get lonely alot at night when I am at home with my kids wishing I could see my bf. But I know he has a wife and kids to deal with and i know he wont leave but I woul;d never make him. Its lonely though and I dont suggest any woman get into a ready made relationship. Its not nice your always lonely never have enough of your partners time or attention. so dont you will never get what you want.
2006-08-10 04:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was sort of in this position at one point...except I knew the other woman and oddly enough I was related to her. I knew the guy "loved" me but I knew that she really loved him and he did still have feelings for her (they'd dated for about a month then split, but had known each other for years). So, I broke up with him and told him that it wasn't me he wanted, it was her. She was happy if not shocked and he was just pis**d.
They ended up married, he ended up socializing with myself and a friend of his and it all worked out in the end.
However, they divorced after several years marriage when he decided he wanted someone else, and decided to go with Another Woman :)
So, I like to look at it as tho I saved my butt and I wouldn't have been able to meet and marry the guy I have now...who is incredible.
Not everyone thinks like I do tho :)
2006-08-10 05:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from feeling cheap and used, I think there would be deeper feelings of insecurity, unworthiness and an obvious lack of self esteem and self respect. Why else would you settle for this type of situation and be so desperate for a man who doesn't have real feelings for you? You obviously wouldn't possess the confidence to see you needed and deserved better.
2006-08-10 05:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so lame...why bother with someone who you apparently have no future with...all that is going to do is add some drama into your life that is unnecessary and wrong...its a waste of time and i would never allow myself to knowingly be the other woman bc i would feel like nothing more then just some disposable female for him to use...my advice is to get out of that situation as quickly as possible before the problems really get bad and you have too much emotional investment into someone who clearly has no respect for you or the woman he is with...find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated and who doesnt make you second...good luck and hopefully you wisen up and get out of that mess....
2006-08-10 05:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never lower myself to that level of low. Nor would I do that to another woman. If I was unknowingly made the other woman, I would pity the poor little foolish pathetic man.
2006-08-10 05:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that has been me lots of time in the past. For some reason only married guys wanted me. But that was cool with me because if they were happy (with their marriage) they wouldn't have been looking for another woman. But to answer your question no I wouldn't stay with them if that's what you're asking. I would be with them for a short while then ditch them.
2006-08-10 04:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by minniemm33 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋