Thanx all... Re: love/hate... I find myself ?ing, do i truely love him? Yes, unconditionally- 6yrs still here, but Is it fair to him that i stay in this relationship secretly hating him? Should I even care? Not a day goes by one of the many painful memories play in my mind- and they hurt as much now, in my heart- as the day it happenend. I do love him.... i do hate him... Why do i worry bout being fair to him instead of being fair to myself??? That unconditional love... all the things he's done, all the pain and hurt he's put (still) me thru, i wont hurt him. Only now, I hate myself... What to do??
2006-08-10 04:34:37 · 1 answers · asked by SoBay5150 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your post is very confusing, but I'll try to answer based on how I interpret it...he's been mean and hurtful, and you hate him for it... yet won't tell him, because you love him... can you say "enabler"? I never fail to be amazed at the idiotic females who want to stay in dysfunctional relationships and confuse their partner's demeaning behavior with some kind of sick "love". And by the way, in all that sappy flowing verbiage I never once saw you say that he loved you.
The answer? It depends on what kind of "pain and hurt" he's caused... if it's cheating (that's my guess) or physical hurt, LEAVE HIM. And if you still want to stay with him because you think you can change him, you are wrong. It'll never happen. He doesn't respect you and will never respect you, because you let him use you for a doormat. I can tell it from your post.
If you are in a relationship that causes you to hate yourself, it's long past time to END IT. Unless you are just a masochist who wants to stay in a sick relationship like that.
I'm outta here.
2006-08-10 05:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋