if men say they dont miss their ex and are very happy they are out of their lives cause they made them miserable, then why do they bring them up and the things they did so much , i dont get it
2006-08-10 04:31:02 · 26 answers · asked by LISA M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes i have thought about them wanting to make us jealous and see how we react but all it does for me is make me think he isnt over it and that makes me feel insecure which makes me not want to be with him, so i still dont get it
2006-08-10 04:36:20 · update #1
To make you feel inferior and jealous, and it says more about what type of guy he is if he feels the need to do this he's really saying..."I dont know if im good enough or able to keep a girl like you, and Im kinda jealous of you so I better try and reverse it so you can feel as insecure as I do". Tell em if it was so great then what are you doing here? Obviously it wasnt quiet doin the trick. So shut up!!!!
2006-08-10 06:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by brite star 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, ur instinct is most likely right in that they arent completely over that person and what they had done to them. It doesn't mean that he's going to go running back to her or that he doesn't want to be with you or isn't happy ...but sometimes it does take time to get over those types of things. Granted most people do not want to hear about their partner's ex's but perhaps he just feels really comfortable talking about his problems with you and trust that you won't pass judgement on him for being human and having these kinds of emotions. Maybe his discussing it with you helps vent out those lingering emotions so that he can completely move on from the pain and bs that she caused him. However, if it is causing you to become frustrated or uncomfortable then you should tell him about it. Let him know that you are there for him no matter what but that sometimes when he goes on about his ex, you get the impression that he is not over her. I just don't think you should look too far into this because the case most likely is that he is over the girl just not over what she has done. Good luck:)
2006-08-10 05:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both genders do this, pretty much equally and for pretty much
the same reason: The "Ex" was a big part of their lives and
they still think about them.
Get over it. Its natural.
Yes, people should try control the urge to talk about previous
loves that might make their audience jealous - and some people
have little ability control what comes out of their mouths - but
wouldn't you rather he thought about his loves than didn't?
Don't you want him thinking about you?
Well, people don't just "switch". It doesn't work that way.
Eventually, the behavior goes away OR there is another
fundamental problem with the relationship (i.e. he would
prefer to be with his Ex over you).
2006-08-10 04:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Elana 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all, why do you desire to correctly known? unquestionably everyone has a prior and probably the extra he tells you the extra serious you get. He married you. not them. enable it pass. or you will lose him. on occasion adult men save issues from human beings they love by using fact they dont desire to break them or know the outcomes. what's going to you do with this concepts? look up the ladies to be sure what they appear like? Get extra information? Take this ability making your marriage extra suited and pass on. it rather is going to take it sluggish yet once you do not, you will quickly be an ex that yet another woman will desire to correctly known approximately.
2016-10-01 21:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the guy, some do it because of the first reason most women think of because they miss them or something like a song reminded them of them. Perhaps they still love them.
It could be because they don't want you to make the same mistakes they did.
It could be because they just don't realize how much it upsets us.
It could be just to see if we get upset or if he is like my ex-husband it could be just to upset you.
What you need to do is talk to your man, figure it out from him none of us can give you an answer that it certain because we don't know him or you. It could be a good thing or a bad thing really.
2006-08-10 04:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. My husband gets mad if I bring up an ex, but he brings up his exes all the time even though he is saying how miserable his was in his last relationship. If so then why talk about her all the time and why can't I talk about mine. Men are stupid you just have to keep reminding your self that no matter how old they are they will always be selfish little boys. Good luck.
2006-08-10 04:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They bring up their exes because they are thinking about them, mentally comparing them to you as a means of evaluation.
2006-08-10 04:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Candidus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they bring it up to let you know they are confused and perhaps not emotionally ready to jump into a relationship. They might just be letting you know so that you will gentle on their hearts...but of course most women are just selfish snots and think of themselves.
If you are honest about it, girls do the very same thing, but often they do it to brow beat the poor guy they are currently dating.
2006-08-10 04:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
They bring them up to try to make you feel jealous and see how you will react.
2006-08-10 04:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by volchick2003 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i agree why do they bring them up. i just asked my b/friend why he used to do it. and he couldnt give me a straight answer. personaly i think its because he might be looking for reasurance on something or mabye its just because they like to compare anything they can for example:- cars and the size of certan privet parts.... and posibly even girlfriends
2006-08-10 04:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋