my husband wants me to talk not to understand me but to know my mind then he uses against me. What to do?

Answer 1

Mr. Chivalry says, "If he really cared about you, he wouldn't try to manipulate you. Let him know that he is wrong, and you want it to change. If he does, then good. If not, then it might not be a good situation for you, because it could possibly lead to other things. Good luck to you."

Mr. Chivalry has spoken.

Answer 2

I remember doing that to my wife and my wife has tried to tell me thousand time until I understand and hit my brain finally understand what I was doing is wrong. WHOA! So, Now I change so much and we talk and after that I never used anything against her... It not fair for my wife to not tell me or anything when I am going to uses against her.

I told my wife how sorry I was and How stupid thing I did. Best thing don't say anything just nobb your head like bobble head yeah yeah ohhh yeah yeah.. like that then he will really get pissed off and you can simply say this. I just tired of you using against me when ever I said something. so i just listen what you have to say and that is it. He will give in and learn something. That how my wife did. I get mad for doing like bobble head. and that really got me understand that she didn't want to talk becsaue what ever come out the mouth to use against her. so I hope this helps.

I am glad that I change that to make our marriage better smiling.

Answer 3

Only tell him what U want him to know. Seems like U should be able to tell ur husband anything but in his case only tell his selfish *** what U want and he needs to know. Other than that he will continue to do it because U keep telling him things to tear u down later. I think that is so mean...Good Luck!

Answer 4

I hate when people do that. I love getting to know people but would never in a million years use that info against them. My advice is to stop talking to him, stop telling him things, and tell him exactly why. Tell him when he stops using the stuff you tell him against you then you'll be more willing to share with him, but until then, you only share your secrets with people who prove they deserve to hear them.

Answer 5

Stop telling him stuff that he can use against you at a later date.

Answer 6

I hate that, it is a very cruel thing to do. Watch what you say, so he can't use it against you. He will give up on it eventually.

Answer 7

stop talking to him until he agrees to respect your voice. If after that he continues then ask him to go counselling, and remind him that he broke the agreement.