I accused my dad of spoiling my younger half brother (who I hate) and he admitted to it. His reasons were because chris almost died when he was born and he had a cleft lip. His lip is healed now and he didn't die, so I guess I don't think my dad has any right to play favorites among his kids. Especially since I was around seven years before chris and my dad left me when I was three.
2006-08-10 03:58:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate favoritism. I don't know why people have to make it so obvious.
My nephew was born with a cleft lip. He had no problems at all. Of course he had to have surgery when he was very young but it was not life threatening. We did not treat him any differently because of this. A cleft lip is no excuse for favoring someone for life.
2006-08-10 04:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound harsh, but you have to get over it. I can understand your hatred towards your brother, that just plain old sibling rivalry, I have still have that with my younger sister. But there is a different connection between you, your brother and your dad. Since your dad left when you where 3, he wasn't there for you as he should have been and that is something you need to discuss with him in more detail and the first question should be "why weren't you around more when i was a child"? The other thing, is that if your dad has always been in the same house as your brother, there they have a different relationship. This is going to sound cruel, but your dad is a dad to your brother and more of a friend to you. You have to learn to accept that and then just make your relationship with your dad blossom from there. Don't hold on to the anger for either of them cause in the long run, you are the only one whose going to get hurt.
2006-08-10 11:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by cubangoddess73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your Dad alone. He will soon find out Chris is not the angel he thinks he is and he's not doing Chris any favors by babying him. He'll be visiting him in jail ! You're going to have to find peace within yourself before you let this situation eat you alive. If you can't change it, just try to love your Dad as he is. I tell you, honey, you won't be able to change it. Find something productive to do with all of that anger and help someone else cope. You'll be a better person for it. God Bless You.
2006-08-10 11:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is in his wrong and not yours. Yet, I was in that situation-except reversed. I was very close to dying when I was born-due to my mom having problems in pregnancy. I was 2 1/2 months early-I was born in January but was supposed to be born at the end of March. I weighed about 3 lbs. at birth and lost almost a lb. after birth. My parents didn't know if I was a boy or girl and I never cried or made a sound when I came into this world. I was placed in the incubator and put on respiratory b/c I wasn't breathing. When they put oxygen in my lungs-they put too much that combusted a lung. I am now of course alive and healthy with some after birth effects-I cannot hear in my right ear and I have asthma. I deal with this and yet I know and realize and saw that my parents treated me basically with safety gloves b/c of my issues. My sister was jealous in a sense but my parents treated us the same-but my sister also had the responsibility as a big sister to look out for me and try to take care of herself b/c my parents were so focused on the possible danger for me later on in years. There were times when my parents would have to rush me to the hospital b/c I wasn't breathing in the crib and my sister would be at my grandparents. So when you do become a parent as I am now-you may look at things differently. But no one should treat the other with less love or less attention-both should be the same and equal.
2006-08-10 11:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hate your half brother for your dad's actions. Your dad will pay for his indiscretions against you without you trying to make him acknowledge them. Everyone pays for their wrongs before leaving this earth. There is a saying that would help you in this situation, "You can kill a person with kindness", which means treat your dad as the Bible request, "honor thy Mother & thy Father" in order not to shorten your days. On the other hand by you being a decent person who tries to treat others as you want to be treated, things will always work out in your favor in the end.
2006-08-10 12:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is wrong for doing that but grow up and get over it. My parents have done nothing but baby my little brother his whole life! Now he lives with his girlfriend and she babys him. If we lived with our boyfriends our parents would never talk to us again. But they still pay for his health insurance and car insurance! We complain about it all the time. But you need to realize that he will depend on other people his whole life, at least you had the chance to be on your own and grow up independently. Now when I think about it I am glad my parents didn't do that to me.
2006-08-10 11:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it mitt be that he a boy and your a girl well if that true don;t worry it happen to me to or maybe he with his mother and that the reason he love them so much
2006-08-10 11:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is in the worng here not you. you have every right to fell the way you do.
2006-08-10 11:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by goldenrose3497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋