I'm 18, single and I want to have a baby but I don't know how to take care of it. how do I?

Answer 1

If you don't know how to take care of it then you are probably not ready for a baby.

Answer 2

Why the need to have a baby now? Do you have any clue how hard it is to be an 18 year old mother. Do you have any clue how hard it is to be a single mother? Can you imagine how hard it is to do both?

I had my boys when I was 18 and 20, I was married and had a very close and wonderful family to help me, but when you have a child you have tough choices to make. You are responsible for this child, I could'nt just pass off my baby and go out with friends. I could'nt go buy the great pair of jeans at the mall, I had to buy formula and diapers. You don't mention if you work or not. How do you plan on paying for this baby, medicine and doctors visits are very expensive if you have no insurance.

Think about this, do you realize what a bad idea it is for you to have a child. Go out enjoy life, grow up, become a responsible adult and the when the time is right, have a baby.

Answer 3

IN my opinion you are too young to have a baby. But if you really think that is what you want to do then I suggest that you take a prenatal class. That should give you a lot of info about pregnancy, labour, and caring for a new born. I also suggest watching someone child for a weekend.
Do all of this before you get yourself pregnant. Also I think you need to go shopping figure out all the stuff that a baby needs, how much is that going to cost and how you are going to afford it.
And lastly look at the real reason why you want a baby. Is it because you want someone to love you? If that is the case then you are wanting a baby for the wrong reasons. Try starting with loving yourself and then go from there.
Babies are a very expensive and time consuming responsibility. They aren't something you can just look after when they are cute and put aside when they have been cry for 4 hours non stop.

Answer 4

You dont want to have a baby now. Number 1, it isnt all it's cracked up to be - it's not just something cuddly to play with and love you - it is ALOT of work - sleepless nights, tears, sickness, etc..

Number 2, having a child is an extreme financial burden. Children cost an average of 10,000 dollars per year. At 18 you most likely to not have a career. Get a career first so you can support your child financially. You dont want your child growing up without being able to provide for their necessities.

Number 3, you dont want to be a single parent...not only is it extremely difficult for you, but studies show children raised in single parent households are more likely to have psychological difficulties, commit crimes, have unsuccessful marriages, and the list goes on. This is not to knock single parents. Many of them are amazing parents, but there is no doubt that they have an uphill battle. Children do far better in families with 2 parents with a stable marriage.

Number 4, you have to think about what's best for the child, not just what you would want. The best thing for a child would not be to be raised by a single mom who is only 18 with no professional career. To be a good mom, you must first be able to put your child's needs above your own. Having a baby in your current situation would not be putting the baby's needs first. Thus, you are not ready to be a mom if you would do that.

Try babysitting or working at a day care to get some more experience with little ones and to fill that "baby itch" that you are having...you'll see it's not all it's cracked up to be...

Answer 5

This is not a lecture by any means, but I think you should definitely wait until you are more prepared for a child. The responsibility of another life is more overbearing than you can imagine. I am a mother of a now 3 yr old I had my son when I was 19 and I was a single parent. I am still a single parent and the father of my child wants nothing to do with him. That is something that is going to be hard to explain when the day comes and he asks "where is my daddy?" How would you be able to look into the eyes of such an innocent person and tell them the truth.
But if you are dead set on having a child now you need to know that it will change your life FOREVER!!!! You can't have a child 9 months from now and then say well I don't want it anymore. You need to be prepared to take responsibility for your actions. I hope you have support from your family and you know that they love you. If you want to have a child to love and it to love you in return, please wait until you can give the child a life it deserves. Best of Luck sweetie and think things through.

Answer 6

Don't have a baby at 18 and single. Wait (you have plenty of time) and enjoy the remainder of your youth. When you find a guy you really love and want to spend the rest of your life with, than you can talk about a baby. You will have the support you need hopefully at that time as well.

Babies are a huge responsibility and expensive. Take care of someone's infant for them for a few hours or even overnight, that will make you change your mind.

Answer 7

You just answered your own question. No one ever feels completely ready to take care of a baby but you admit to not knowing how.
You are not ready to have a baby especially at 18 and alone. Babies are A LOT of work and it only gets harder as they get older. You should be thinking of getting an education, dating, and experiencing new things before you have to settle down.
Getting pregnant at this stage of your life when you have yet to live will cause you to resent having to be tied down so early.
My advice to you is wait until you are older and have a proper foundation to bring a child into the world. Get an education so that if you do decide later on to have a child alone that you can be a great provider this child. Babies are expensive and time consuming so do not go into this blindly. Please, please, please wait until you are at least 24 and feel ready to have a child. Now is definitely not the time.

Answer 8

If you really are 18, then you def. should wait. Wait until your married or in a solid relationship! Make sure you can take care of a baby. That you and your companion both have jobs, live on your own, and can pay your own bills and take care of yourself first!!! A baby is a big responsiblity, a baby isn't a toy! You have to be serious about it, and it seems like your def. not ready for a baby if you can't take care of one!!! Wait awhile!!! You'll know when your ready! Your young, don't rush it!

Answer 9

Are you currently pregnant? If you are then you'll have to work really hard to do it all. Babies are A LOT of work, but they are also the greatest gift in the world. You'll need to sit down with family and explain the situation and ask for support and any help you may need.

If you are not currently pregnant...DON"T get pregnant!! Babies are the greatest gift in the world, but it's better to wait until you are more financially stable, more mature, in a committed relationship, have job security, a good education... Waiting will be much more beneficial to both you and the child.

Answer 10

Babies are a LOT of work!! You need to enjoy life a little longer before making that committment. Babies are not a doll that you get to play with and dress up and put away when you are tired of it. They tie you down 24/7. You can't do anything at all without taking into consideration your child. It is even harder if you are single. So please just enjoy your life for a few more years, burden-free. If possible, look after other people's babies for awhile.

Answer 11

HF is an idiot because obviously thats not the predicament your in, and definately not what you asked for. I'm 19 and i'm pregnant, now hun believe me you dont want to be single for this, you dont have to be married for it either unless you are old fashioned or a bible thumper. But your going to need the support of someone. As for taking care of it, if you have a support system then you should be fine taking care of it. I wouldnt advise you go out and get pregnant just for the sake of having a baby. But do as you wish.