i do love her very much and the eating disorder has slowed down. it went from violent retching when we were first marrieg (no pun intended) to binge eating but laxitives have always been a method even though i didn't realize what she was diong. we have an older daughter caught up in the same thing.
the "crazy" comment (See Part 2 or 3) has really gotten me into trouble. i shouldn't have said it but i was pushed and got angry and said it.
back in March I messed up her birthday and didn't give her the day she expected, she yelled at me for about 4 hours off and on. i finally got tired of the yelling and yelled back. when i did, I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS WRONG.
i said some things that really upset her, including i was glad i had a job where people appreciated me, because she didn't seem to appreciate me.
because i was kind of turned off by her "fit" we didn't make love for a few days and then she accused me of having an affair at work.
it seems i can never win.
2006-08-10 03:52:18 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you need some marriege counsling if you and her really want this to work . And well yes you should have yelled back but you should always think before you speak .this way it dont become something else. evrything you tell her tell her with love . let her know how much you love her and how much you want to live the rest of your life with her . She needs help especialy if this is afecting your dauther . you cannot must not let this affrect you kid i know you might not watch oprah but next tuesday they are giving a show about how mothers sickness is tranfering to there dauthers i sugeest you take a morning off and if she works for her also and watch this together. let her know your concerns in a loving matter and if she would be willing to sit and watch this with you . or tape it and watch it later.
you sound like you really love your family and want to work this out. but to tell you something she has to put a part in this also not only you .
2006-08-10 04:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by mary_llinas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you never will. She's from disfunctional family, has eating disorders, which only tells you that emotionally (upstairs, in her head) there is something very wrong with her, she's got big issues and she's taking them out on herelf, your, your family. And living with your wife, I'm not surprised to hear your daughter has an eating disorder. Any chance your wife could be bi-polar? My step-dad growing up (I'm from a disfunctional family, so I see a lot of myself in your wife....she's just taken things to the extreme) was bi-polar and she sounds just like him. He used to do a lot of the same things your wife is doing. Working too many hours a day was overwhelming, couldn't keep a job, was very distrustful of everything and everybody, went off in rants for seemingly no rational reason.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. I imagine your life must be hell some days. Keep your chin up. Don't listen to the nasty things she says out of anger. Sounds like you're a good man, who obviously loves his wife. Someday, hopefully, she'll see that she's lucky to have you.
2006-08-10 11:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the whole family needs some counseling, eating disorders r something serious and scary. U need to get them some help and urself too. Good Luck!
2006-08-10 10:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋