Are parents unreasonably justifying putting there kids in day care? please read below and think before reply?

Question

My mum stayed off work and brought me and my sis up unitil we were old enough to go to school, alot like most people in my age bracket (30)
More kids these days are prone to violence drugs teenage pregnancy being abusive to their parents etc. (thats just fact, things are getting worse)
My mum made sacrifices so our lives had balance and love.
Aot of people put there kids in daycare (often alot of money) and claim they have to pay the essential bills but drive around in really flash cars and expensive clothes, thats fine but are these things more important than having happy children? and are these parents who spend 2 hours a day with there kids causing a negative effect on our society

Answer 1

My mom sacrificed, too. I'm glad she did.

My wife stopped her nursing career for 5 years to raise my daughter...the money was tight, but I would never change anything.

Young people today seem to use the baby boomers (me-me-me) generation as an example. The parents never knew what sacrifice was, so both work to make more money to drive that big car to have that big house...who pays? The kid who is never raised by their parents...rather by a paid person as a glorified babysitter. Not only that, these young children often spend more time in day care than the parents spend at work...were you ever dumped like that?

I hope the generation X's don't make the same mistakes...you cannot pay someone to love your child like you can. And if your not going to be their for them (for young kids do not grasp quality time like us...quality = quantity) why have kids in the first place?

They are a blessing...make the sacrifice for them...stay home at least for a while to raise them when they are so young...the money and jobs will always be their, but once the time is gone, you can never buy it back.

Answer 2

I have wondered this my self (33- 3 kids)...i stayed at home for 5 years until they were all at f/t school because i had them close together and didn't like the idea of someone else looking after my kids ,whats the point in having them if you never spend time with them when they are little .Believe me I am no earth mother and am glad to have my part time job now!! I think people need to take a step back and look at what is more important to them,money v waiting a few years for that new car etc.
But i don't think that's causing the problems its more to do with a total lack of respect brought on by softly softly do gooders and no deterrents.Teachers have no authority in schools any more...how many of you remember the board rubber whizzing past your ear if you didn't listen(before white boards).we simply didn't dare do some things that are considered acceptable today..A 41 year old man was beaten to death very close to were I live by a group of 16,17,18and 19 year olds ..he was simply walking home with his wife after a night out.Will they be sentenced according to there crime..probably not and they know it.
i am not saying all teenagers are bad either we only hear about those ones...not the good.

Answer 3

I run a Beaver Scout colony for 6-7 year olds, and its amazing when new kids start and they are not used to doing things or not joining in team games.

But, after 2 years, when they leave for Cub Scouts, you can definately see changes in the majority of the kids.

Children not only need mental stimulation, but they need to be involved and given responsibility.

My two kids actually cook Sunday lunch on their own, except getting the hot pans off the cooker or the meat pan from the oven. They really enjoy it.

Getting back to the question, If a parent has to work, then day care may be the only option. The government has made it easier with tax free childcare vouchers.

Both of my kids did go to day care a couple of days a week when they turned three, This gave them a good start prior to starting school.

Answer 4

I agree. Some people really don't have a choice though and I feel sorry for those people. I would hate to have to leave my kids with someone else and go off to work (even though the latter would be far less stressfull). Some people have financial commitments before they have the kids that force them to go out to work. But as far as having a flashy car and expensive holidays...I'd rather look after my kids til they go to school and drive a crap car for a few years and holiday in Wales for 2 weeks a year. I want my kids to have my influence, not some nursery nurse who doesn't care partiularily and is just there for a wage at the end of the month.

Answer 5

As a divorced and now single mother, I work full-time and daycare is a necessity for me as my children are not old enough to remain home unattended. I think the impact, be it positive or negative depends on the environment of the center you choose for your child. My children are school age so at most they are in daycare for about 2 hours a day, five days a week. The center my child attends is small, family owned and operated, and reasonably priced. If you maintain a loving environment for them at home and also put them into a loving environment away from home, you will most likely have a child that knows right from wrong. If you put them in a violent and dangerous environment, then violent and dangerous children is most likely what you'll get.

Answer 6

I totally agree with you. Although I turned out ok, both my parents worked full time when we were kids. I think if people feel it's more important to drive in flashy cars than look after their children then maybe they should have thought of that before they got pregnant. I think having kids is a major decision and comes with consequences. Only those should have kids who are then prepared to change their lifestyles and give up on certain luxuries that they had previously. If they are not happy like that then their kids will sense that unhappiness so they'll become unhappy.

Answer 7

this is a broad question, your opinions below outline alot of areas so I will just answer the question.

Sometimes but not always, have you seen house prices recently, it has become increasingly unavoidable for both parents not to iwork unless you have alot of savings.

Kids in daycare are not necessarily worse off than any other kids, kids can be ignored even by parents who are supposedly looking after them, they put the kids infront of the tv, and chat on the phone or whatever. Thats called bad parenting, the two are not the same.

Answer 8

my mum was the same (im 22, my bro 20 and my sis 16) and i loved having my mum around. i do think some of them genuinly need daycare i.e if they are in high paid jobs like my aunty. she makes so much money it would be stupid for her to give up, so she works from home 2 days a week. also ppl like nurses etc. but then some of them do just want the nice cars etc, cos usually the wage only just covers the cost of the daycare. all my mates are nursery nurses and sometimes they get 3month old babies in, which i think is definately wrong. depends on the situation really tho

Answer 9

well i think you are very lucky and have great parents but some parents must have both spouses work just to feed, house, and clothe their kids. many parents also wish that they could spend more time with their children but cant support a family with just one person working. I went to a babysitter until the fifth grade and then became the babysitter of my 2 younger siblings. I think this is a good alternative for parents to use their older children as babysitters. I see alot of famalies were the older siblings have no responsibility for the younger ones and often cant even be left alone together.

things may seem to be getting worse but i dont think its because parents dont spend enough time with their children anymore it is because our culture has turned very materialistic and technology like video games and the internet have take over alot of kids lives. i think if anything we should focus on taking some ot these technologies away from our kids(or limit their use) and get them to do more things like team sports, cub scouts, girl scouts, church groups etc. i think technology is isolating alot of today's youth and limiting their social skils.

Answer 10

I agree with you 100%. My mom had a really nice job in a big business, and left to raise me and my sister instead of dumping the role of raising her kids on somebody else. I am very grateful of that and my fiance said she would leave her job to do the same for our kids. Allot of kids are in daycare and parents complain about not having money. but then I hear them talking about the new shoes and clothes they bought during their lunch hour and never packing a lunch they always go out to eat. Well if your doing all that then money must not be a problem in that family. I have never done violence or drugs and thought it was cool to drink underage and stay out till 4am.

Parents don't want to assume responsibility for their kids and point else where about their kids weren't brought up right and that they had to work. If you cannot take care of kids then don't have them, and if it was an accident then that's your fault because if you don't have sex a kid doesn't just pop inside of you.

Answer 11

Every child and every parents situation is different i was lucky enough to be able to stay at home and only work partime whilst mine were very young and child care was done by thier father some mums dont have that privelege, But its lack of discipline from a very young age, parents are frightened to say NO, to there children.You have to balance it out wether they are in child care or not, just because a child is looked after at home doesnt automatically mean it is well loved and well disciplined, and well mannered.