In reality I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 30 and we've been together for 3 years with a some ups and downs but we always worked past them. I sometimes dream about what it would be like to get married and have our own child and raise it along with his 2 kids he has full custody of, and I see myself happy. Yet, I wonder what it would be like if I moved across the country (which has always been my dream) I met another guy and like 10 years down the road he started our own family. Why am I thinking about wanting to spend my life with someone else other then my boyfriend? We love eachother so much and we're the only ones who understand how deep our love is. My mom says that I deserve a fairy tale because she never had it. I guess she thinks that me staying in the city I'm in and shacking up with my boyfriend and his 2 kids, isn't a fairy tale. I'm getting tired of trying to make other people happy and I've lost track of what I really want in life. What should I do?
2006-08-10 03:41:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why don't you travelling for a while, maybe a couple months? I think sometimes that new experiences can be really refreshing, and can also help you see your life from a new perspective.
I am in a long-distance relationship, and I thought we might end up breaking up because we're apart. Instead, just being away from my boyfriend has helped me realize that I do love him, and there's no one like him! But I think it's been a good thing for us being apart for a while.
If you go away for a while it might help you to reassess your life and figure out what you really want.
I mean, the fact that you and your boyfriend love each other so deeply - that in itself is a fairy-tale! Alot of people would love to have a relationship like that.
2006-08-10 03:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Cina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has thoughts like that. "The grass is always greener on the other side." If you decided to go across country and live that life, chances are that you would wonder what would happen if you lived the life you have now. Your life could turn out worse, or it could be better. If you have something good now, stay with it. This could be your fairy tale, you do not know what the future holds, so just do what you think is best for you and stop trying to make other people happy. Besides, you can not make anyone happy, your happiness is the only happiness you are in charge of.
2006-08-10 10:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Icy U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to be happy until you do what you really want to do, but remember the grass is always greener on the other side, but doesn't mean that it will be better. What if you do move and don't find someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. What if you find someone and marry them and then later on they start physically and mentally abusing you. Life is not a fairy tell. Most women want a fairy tale, but maybe one out of ten get it. I wanted a fairy tale, but I wasn't swept off my feet and all that, but I am with a wonderful man who does make me happy and will do anything in his power to make me happy. When it comes down to it, that is what really matters. So if your happy with this person and love him, then you better stay with him. But who knows what the future holds. You may move and find a man that will sweep you off your feet, but are you really wanting to risk it. You have a man that loves you do you want to risk ruining that relationship for something that may never happen. Once you do this, there is no turning back. He may never want to speak to you again. So think long and hard. Go by your instincts. My instincts have never failed me. Good luck.
2006-08-10 10:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him. You sound happy and in love. Love is a rarity and you should feel privileged to be in love at all. I am in a relationship with a guy and we have been dating for a year and a half and I sometimes have the same thoughts. But who is to say that this isn't the man for me. He makes me happy, I am very deeply in love and I love him despite everything. I sometimes think the same things you do, but I think our mind has a way of sabotaging a good thing. Don't let go of a good man, they are hard to find. Unless you know you cant marry him than don't even think about it. There is no such thing as a fairy tail in real life, and if you go searching for it, it will end fruitlessly and you will be mad at leaving a great man. Trust your heart. Its your life, not your moms your friends or anyone elses. They don't live with your decisions, you do. Good luck and give that man you have a big hug and kiss and tell him you love him with all your heart!
2006-08-10 10:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by asdf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking of moving away and being with another man you don;t need to get married to this one. Besides the fact that you are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You are way to young to get married now anyway. Live a little and get some life experiences under your belt before you make any commitment. Trust me in the next 5 years you will change a lot and you priorities in life will be so much different than are now.
2006-08-10 10:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by amy d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fairy tales are just that. Fantasies. They do not exist. You need to do some soul searching & figure out what it is that you really want out of your life & proceed to go for it no matter what anyone else wants. Stop living your life for everyone else & start living it for you & only you. Everyone else will get over it. My family did.
2006-08-10 10:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our dreams can come true even if they don't begin once upon a time....you wish to be married, with the love of your life and have children of your own...your actually living your dream ...all it takes is continued effort to make them happily ever after.
2006-08-10 10:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just follow your heart, let fate take its course...
if its meant to be for u two thing will work out just fine!
everyone have those thoughts, "what if my life is like this or what if i was with that person" its all normal, u just have to take everything one step at a time, it will all pass over i promiseee
good luck hun:)
2006-08-10 10:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by Moe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen to elvis,
you got to follow your dreams, wherever those dreams may lead you.
do you want to live thinking what might have been?
if your truelly happy you would not still be looking.
don't settle out of fear, seek and ye shall find!
2006-08-11 03:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing which I understand..and came out of your's question is you need a kid..and that will sure solve your problem...Best of Luck
2006-08-10 10:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Ashish M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋