I am six weeks pregnant and i finally told my boyfriend. He had a mixed reaction to it. we got into a argument recently and he said he felt like i was trying to trap him...i didn't knock myself up...so anyways after i told him he didn't have to be there if he didn't want to.I was so damn serious about it because i was always raised momma's baby papa's maybe...which means you gonna always have a mother not always have the father. anyways he was pissed that i said that but i don't see why. was i wrong to say that to him?
2006-08-10 03:39:50 · 15 answers · asked by sierra 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
u shudnt tell ur man to quit his responsibilities,,,,,,,,men like to be trouble free,plz talk to him again,tell him u didnt meant that and blme ur behaviour on pregnancy mood swings,,,,,talk to him patiently,a baby needs both parents,u have to make sacrifices,,,,,try to talk to him,he ll understand
2006-08-10 03:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by shazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you were both angry and probably said things that you didn't mean. I'm sure that when you told him that you are pregnant, he was most likely shocked and overwhelmed . . feeling that he is not ready to handle such a responsibility . . which might possibly be the way you feel.
But at any rate . . you should seriously consider the changes that this baby will make to your life. Really think about it and make sure that this is what YOU want to do with your life. And whether he decides to be there physically for you or not, he should still be held responsible if you choose to have the baby. Go to court and have a DNA test done to prove paternity if necessary. Then file for child support.
This is something that you shouldn't have to go through alone, because you definitely didn't lay down and make this baby on your own!!
2006-08-10 11:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No becuz even if u wouldnt had said it he probably would still feel the same way.Men/Boys so what they want when it comes to a child.So dont feel bad cuz he will be sorry later on for his mistakes.U did not trap him if agreed to lay with u and make the child.If u c that he have u raisin the child on ur own than make sure u r able to get some kind of child support order through the court cuz him juz sayn it wont mean anything unless it is court ordered.GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-10 11:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by dagirl10149 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were both angry and didn't mean a lot of things that were said, I'm sure.
Mama's baby...papa's maybe has two implications. One that the man might not be there to raise him
the other that it may not be his. when a woman gets pregnant you know for sure she is the mother, but, the father is not for sure unless you are in a monogonous relationship...I am sure that is not the case with you but that is what he is thinking I am sure.
which way did you mean it?
Either way, he does need to be a part of your baby's life financially and emotionally.
2006-08-10 10:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you were upset when you said that to him, then again you probably meant some of it. Men always feel trapped when they get a girl pregnant... Did he feel trapped when he had his pants down and you two were having sex???.....didn't think so...
But if he wants to be a part of the baby's life, let him. I too grew up without a father...it was hard b/c I needed him.. Sit down and have a heart to heart with him...
2006-08-10 11:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were just in shock, so try to work things out, cause it'll be good 4 u and the baby have a manly suport', but if he's not mature enough for taking care of a baby and a relatiochip just do it by yourself. I shoure that u can make it.
2006-08-10 11:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not. though he might consider what you're carrying as a 'mistake' he still has a right to know that you are carrying his child, and you did the right thing telling him that while its still early. i'm sure he would also get angry if you confessed to him already too late, like if youre already into labor. what he felt was only natural and expected. he was surprised, he didn't know this would happen. give him a few time; if he's indeed a good guy, he would soon take his responsibility.
2006-08-10 10:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Samarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad that you were raised "momma's baby papa's maybe" like that it's bad. Everyone needs a fatherly figure in their lives hun. I don't think you should've tole u bf that as much as you prolly hate to admit it, you need him there.
2006-08-10 12:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no girl.. sometime guy get scared of having and kid. sometimes they turn around but sometimes they dont. best thing to do is ween you have your first ultra sound offer hime to go to see his baby. if he saids no then girl there no hope for him being there. my friend is raiseing her lil boy all buy her slef and doing great for her slef. the dad stayed for the fisrt year the jetted moved state's away. so you can't make and boy in to and real man they have to do this on there own. hope he wakes up cause my hubby really didnt have much to do with my lil girl ween she was born. but now she 3 and he love her to death.
2006-08-10 10:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both arguing because you are in shock. Im sure things will settle down, involve him in your midwife appointments and scans then he will feel like you still need him and he can become excited about being a daddy!
2006-08-10 10:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by micci c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋