Do you? How long does it take you? why?
2006-08-10 03:27:50 · 25 answers · asked by UniQuE 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
If you believe that we all make mistakes and bad choices then you can forgive people for what they do to you. Forgiving someone for what they did means that you understand the reasons why they may have done it and hold no hard feelings and do not wish revenge.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you don't feel pain or that it is ok for them to hurt you again. It simply means understanding.
Sometimes it takes a while to get to a point where you can forgive because you have to work through the pain and the emotions that cloud your ability to understand.
I do my best to forgive because it is more fulfilling to love and help than to hate and hurt.
2006-08-10 03:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kaoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving and forgetting are two different things...yeah sure i forgive those who have done me wrong,no matter how long it may take me to recover from whatever it is they may have done to me...but,theres always going to be a scar left behind after the wound has been healed...which makes "forgetting" hard....
Forgivness comes from the heart...and thats why it takes some longer to forgive than others..and some just dont forgive at all...
I think of it this way...if anyone wants to be a better human being,forgivness should be a quality that they should practise...coz after all,ALL of us make mistakes...we're all human after all...and no person should be persecuted all their lives for the ONE mistake they make...that just isnt right...
For me,im a person thats been done wrong one too many times,but yet,i stand strong and show them that i can be the better person by forgiving...that way i believe,the person/people who do u wrong will be ashamed of what they've done...I dunno,i just dont see the point of holding a grudge...it doesnt feel right...
So yes,forgivness is a must...but forgetting isnt that easy to do...
One love.
2006-08-10 10:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by TitaWidTheGoldenVoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like others have said it depends on the circumstances and if they've really betrayed some of my core principles and values.
But in the end you eventually do , because holding onto a grudge doesn't help you and they probably don't care so why punish yourself.
You can forgive people and both of you move on with your lives, but hopefully you never forget the lessons you learned from the experience.
It varies in time , somethings don't take long to forgive , others take a long time.
2006-08-10 10:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say that apart from about two people I can forgive .... and those two are long in the past. Yes I forgive them.... they both died before me.
Time taken to forgive is a personal thing that really starts with
acceptance.... forgiveness grows out of this
2006-08-10 10:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by jamestuttleuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Saba,forgiving is better said than practiced. But researches indicates that it takes more facial muscles to be angry than to smile.And a clear conscience fears no one,so when you go the extra mile to forgive someone who wrong you,you actually clear your mind from fear whether directed inwards or outwards,meaning you can forgive yourself from the worst hurt and live a free person to face the most challenging things in your life.
Now ,do I forgive people; sure yes. How long--As long as I like to be free.
Why--Well we are not infallible and would like you to give me a second chance.
2006-08-10 11:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is for you not the other person. If you can find it in your heart to forgive someone your soul will feel better. Sometimes it takes a long time. Why? Cause I don't want to carry around all that distain inside myself. It'll eat a person up inside to not ever forgive anything.
2006-08-10 10:37:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should give everyone a second chance, but I suppose it depends on what this person did to you. I try and forgive and forget, but you can only take so much. I just recently told my best friend to fu(k off b/c I realized that she wasn't my best friend, not even a friend and my life has been a lot better with out her. So I guess it is up to how you trully feel, If you can't forget then thats just how it is.
2006-08-10 10:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Lady 27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To err is human, to forgive is devine. I believe it requires too much effort to stay angry for long periods of time, and generally that if you do stay mad you are punishing yourself more than the other person. I believe in forgiveness, but not necessarily forgetting, it depends on what the slight was. While I may forgive you, we may not be friends ever again.
2006-08-10 10:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends on who they are and what they did.
For example I dont forgive my ex for the crap he put me through but I dont think about it or get angry about it. It's in the past and I leave it there. I dont think you always have to forgive a person to move past what they have done to you.
2006-08-10 10:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to forgive people it take me 1 or 2 days for litte things 4 and more for big things why? depends on the thing.
2006-08-10 10:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by casper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋