my hubby is emailing girls and making dates, he say he not but aim one of them, that are email him.?

Question

we have been married 15 yr he say hes not but when i found out he was looking at sites to find a girl friend, he says he was just playing aroud so i made a email add and he wrote back, he dont know its me yet what too do

Answer 1

Keep the emails going... arrange a date with a very specific signal (like a yellow rose) and go meet him

You will catch him red handed so to speak.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

What do men think when they pull this kind of crap? I know what they are thinking with and it's not their brains. My husband did this, and I did what you did too. It was all talk. He didn't actually meet any of these girls, he just pulled their strings. But that didn't make me feel any better. It's wrong, and sick! We are working things out. I did make a date with him, without him knowing it was me, and I went, but he didn't show, so I e-mailed him and asked what was up...he said he decided to get back with his wife. So, if you are brave enough to see if he would go thru with the "date" that's what I would do. I would meet him, and he wouldn't be available to lie about it, because you caught him red handed. I am not saying your marriage is over, even if he does go out on the "date", but at least you would know. Not knowing was my best worry. I forgave him, and he doesn't go near the computer, because I check! I trust him, but not totally yet. You got some big decisions to make. Is he worth fighting for? If not make the date, and don't show. Just leave him a note at the resturant, and tell him goodbye. Make sure you are printing off all your conversations, play with him, find out how low he will go if you plan on leaving him. I wish I had the words to make you feel better, because honey, I have been right where you are. The only thing positive I can tell you is. You DON'T deserve this, there is too many good-looking men out there that are looking for a good woman. One that they can shower with love and be faithful too. So, he's not the end of world, this can be a new beginning for an exciting life. It's not going to be easy, and but dry those tears and make those hard choices, and don't look back--look forward--with him or without him! God bless us all.....

Answer 4

I'd set up a date with him. Show up at the restaurant before him and have the waiter seat him with you when he arrives. I would smile and act like you would on any first date. You could ask him questions that you would ask anyone on a first date. Make it his fantasy. Then depending on how you feel ... I would either just not say anything more about his wrong doings. (that is only if you want to remain married) or I would give him a kiss good night and hand him divorce papers. It's really up to you and how strongly you feel about the situation. I guarantee that if you shock him by being his date he will not attempt it again. The two of you could pretend you are different people on dates in the future. It could be fun. But, if he's a jerk and you have issues anyway I would consider the latter. Good luck to you and God bless you and your family.

Answer 5

Don't stop talking to him. Keep doing it and then make a date with him or see if he wants to met up. Find someone that you know that he doesn't know and send him a picture of her. Set up a meeting with him and you show up. That should do it. Give him what he deserves. There are not anymore room for cheaters in this world. Don't give him another chance. I am a man and don't know why people cheat. I have never understood it. I am 32 and have 2 kids. I have been cheated on before and thought the worst about life. Then I met someone, she is the love of my life and soon to be wife and I really hope soon. There is hope after a divorce. Stand tall and keep your head high. Everything will work out for you. But first thing is first. Catch him doing all of this. Set up a meeting with him and I bet he will be surprised. Good luck

Answer 6

Remember the song "Escape" also known as the pina colada song, where the wife puts a personal add in the paper and the husband answers not knowing it's her? Then they both end up meeting each other.

If you two meet, it could be interesting. He'd be caught for sure and couldn't get out of it, OR you two could end up rekindeling a romance that faded a while back. A little romance helps a marriage.

Also, there are programs online to track any internet usuage, where they are going, what they are saying in emails, chats, ect. that run quietly in the background and the other person doesn't know they are there.

Here are few program URLs
http://www.download.com/3120-2001_4-0-2-0.html?qt=kids+internet+monitor&ca=2001

Answer 7

You started something that I think is worth finishing. If you do not go thru with it you will always wonder because he can still lie his way out of it. But if you follow through and set a date be prepared for the outcome. If he shows up I would not actually comfront him. I would snap a picture from a distance and have a black rose delivered to him. With a note and the picture. He will probably turn it around on you saying that he knew it was you all the time and he did it because you were spying on him. You know men they always have to turn the table. But just be careful because would it be ironic if he really did know it was you thinking that you thought he was someone else and you were planning to cheat on him cause you thought he was cheating.
***SOAP OPERA DRAMA***** So fill us in on what happens. Ok!!! Good luck. Make sure you have a support buddy. Ok girl.

Answer 8

15 years is a long time. if he is just playing around then if you set up a date with him he will not accept it, he will have an excuse why he can't meet you. if he does arrange a meeting be careful because it can backfire on you and he can accuse you of doing the same thing that he is doing. but if you set up a date and he does show then you have to leave him and get a divorce because if he does it once you will again and again and this is probably not the first time. you will survive because GOD made someone for everyone and there is someone out there that will love and respect you, maybe he is that special one you be careful when you set this date up to find out if he is true or not. take care!

Answer 9

O dear, I'm so sorry for you. Is he actually meeting these girls? Or is he just playing around? I would confront him. Tell him you know what he is doing, and ask him to stop. The only thing is that now the trust between you has been broken. You need to talk to him, explain it upsets you that he is making dates with other girls. If he really is just messing around, he will have no problem stopping the game. If it is more serious than that, he will make a fuss. And if he makes a fuss, i would seriously think about your relationship.

Good luck ,I hope it works out.

Answer 10

You should follow through with the "date" with him. It would let you know the truth about him. Also, it might even spice things up for you too! Follow through but don't get upset when you find out he shows up for the date. Be polite, use this as a tool to grow from. Either discuss that it will never happen again, or do it as a couple. Good Luck

Answer 11

I agree with a few other answerer's, keep emailing him. See how hot and heavy the emails get and set up a time to meet. When you go to meet him make sure you do have print outs of all the emails and then see what he has to say for himself. I hope you have more self composure than I do, I would probably pull a Loraina Bobbit on him! lol