Wife gave a man a ********(oral sex) last year after a party in which she was drunk. She seems remorseful and has made a 180 change in her life. She stopped going out and she now attends church regularly. Should she get a second chance>
2006-08-10 03:26:05 · 58 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happened after the party....suspected something last year....confessed this year after a year of guilt
2006-08-10 05:32:25 · update #1
Said it was more kissing than anything...lasted about 2 minutes
2006-08-10 05:33:08 · update #2
Yes. You didn't need to be so specific, did you?
2006-08-10 03:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 1⤊ 10⤋
Man, that is a tough question. I personally would dump her, but it sounds like you are trying to be the bigger person and give her a chance. I would make her go to therapy with you and relive the situation, maybe she would actually show her true feelings (one way or the other) and you could get a better feeling for her thoughts if she was talking to someone else.
Trust is a hard thing. Just let her know that if you do give her a second chance she is going to have to work double overtime to gain your trust back, and even that might not still work. Get a GPS installed on her car, or hire a PI if you feel that you can't trust her. If none of this works, break it off.
My ex cheated on me, and as soon as i had confirmation of it, I filed for divorce. No one deserves to be treated like that.
Good luck. Hey since she likes giving head so much, maybe there should be some kind of daily arrangement made or something.....just a thought.
2006-08-10 03:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by Highroller 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure she should get another chance, if you decide to be with someone anyway it should not be a sexual reason that you choose them. It hurts a lot, but if you are going to think about it all the time, every few days or months or years, or even hold it over her head for the rest of your time together than you should not give her another chance, that wouldn't be fair to either one of you. Only you know if you can let it go, cause if you get those ugly feelings when you think about it, then it won't work out. However if you can be with her and totally forgive her then go for it. We do all deserve a second chance.
Good Luck
2006-08-10 03:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by will2succeed 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it just depends on how much you love her and trust her. If she seems to have changed as much as you say she has then i would probably give her a second chance. Although it will be hard, try your best to put it behind ya'll and don't bring it up in ANY arguement or disagreement ya'll get into cuz that will only remind you of it and make it harder on the relationship. Everyone makes mistakes...ecspecially when they are drunk.
2006-08-13 09:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by BlazednBlown21 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you already gave her a second chance. If you wanted to leave her you should have left her at the time of the cheating not a year later. As far as I'm concerned you already made your decision. Forgive and live happily ever after.
2006-08-10 03:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well.... thats no excuse " being drunk" why was she drunk at a party with out you ? It would take me a while to trust again, but u did say its been a year and she has changed. I really do think she feels bad and she has done everythin to show you that she loves you and wants you to believe in her. I just wouldnt be able to kiss her. ugh !
2006-08-10 03:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by meme 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain and I see your point about her making a change in her life. Most of us lose our judgement when drunk and this makes it a very hard call for you to make. You have to ask yourself, can you really move on from here with her? REALLY? and are you able to trust her again?. You may love her but do you want to spend your life always checking on her?. Trust me, thats no way to live
2006-08-10 03:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by ButterflyEffect 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude...I can't say I would ever forgive that. It gets me angry just reading it. If that happened to me, I couldn't even stand my wife giving me head anymore cuz I would just always think about the other guy. That would end it for me...call me jealous..but that just ain't right no matter how drunk. If you do give her a second chance, even out the score...
2006-08-10 03:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i dont really forgive on those kind of situations so i would say no. you dont have to be that way though, if you love her and really think she is sorry and wont happen again and you want to forgive and forget then yes give her a second chance. one thing to remember is that will always be in the back of your mind and you will never see her the same.
2006-08-10 03:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Off course she should have a second chance. I am sure that even before the party that you have either had another woman or at least thought about it. Giver her a chance as long as she give you a bj.
2006-08-10 04:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way she going to feel good living with you and all that remorse in her head. The only way to put all that aside is for you to go down on another woman with her knowledge, that way it 's easier for both parties.
2006-08-10 03:48:39 · answer #11 · answered by lucas l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋