well, here goes. I am pregnant, and since my last pregnancy 2 years ago, I of course have lots of hormones that I am dealing with. I have been having daydreams/fantasies about making love to women. I have been curious to see if these new feeling are something real. Is it appropriate for me to ask another woman to be with me so that I can see if my feelings are real? I dobt that they are just fleeting.
I am not doing this for any other reason than these feelings. My husband does not mind that I feel this way and is actually encouraging me to find out this part of me. So I tried to see I still felt this way after looking at some female couples on the web being intimate and I was still very interested, even more.
does anyone have any suggestions as to where/how I would begin this process? thank you very much in advance.
2006-08-10 03:05:59 · 9 answers · asked by hazel eyes 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
thank you all for your answers. I was truly not trying to offend anyone with this question. I am a thoughtful and loving person who really just wants to understand this, and more of myself. My husband and I are very close and I would not give my heart to anyone else. He was wanting things to get more interesting in this department, but did not tell me until I told him about this. A few of you have given me some advace that I think I can use. again thank you
2006-08-11 21:03:57 · update #1
I am glad that u have a supportive husband..But what happens if this fantasy becomes a reality and U get more involved with the person of the same sex?...There is too much at stake..Many persons have that yearning to discover what it feels like..Just remember before U do anything, that the person must be tested...and please do not lie about you being married...g luck!
2006-08-10 05:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by quizzed 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 32 yrs my husband wanted to be swingers. I didn't . but we did anyway.. I met a woman i fell head over hills in love with. she and i was together 2 yrs and yes i was married to my husband .. when she and i broke up i thought i would die.. i would have done anything not to lose her but my husband would not give me a divorce .. he had always been very abusive to me mentally and physically.. so when i met this woman and she was so good to me it was just a natural thing to fall in love with her.. i got to where i didn't want a man at all so i finally got a divorce and went thru a lot of hell but i only dated women.. now after being divorced 5 yrs and only dating women ( who by the way are just as crazy as the men some even worse)now i am dating a wonderful man and I really hope to marry this man.. yes i still like women but i will never get that envolved again with another one just sleep with them and that is really great.. if you go thru with this watch your heart don't get it broken. take care ..live your fantacies but don't act on them your marrige will suffer i promise and if you have children they are the real ones who suffer.. think befor you do it.. do you love your husband and children ? if so either work on your marriage or be prepared for divorce .. swinging or a 3rd person in a marriage is not worth it. i've been there .. .
2006-08-11 02:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by SANDY KAY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is too close for home.. 9 years ago this is how I met my girlfriend. She was in a gay bar with her aunt who was gay. The moment we locked eyes she was already getting a divorce. She had these same dreams when she was pregnant. Her older brother was gay so it wasn't that she couldn't have come out earlier. Needless to say we went through a huge custody battle and she lost her kids. She cheated on me and I never forgave her. She is now still with women but have put her family and kids through so much. I feel like a home wrecker and our relationship was destine to fail because our relationship was on wrong terms in the first place. I say don't go to the unknown, it could possibly ruin your family. If I had to do it all over again, it would have never happened. There is too much to lose.
2006-08-10 07:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are only fantasies, but actually doing something about it (having sex with another person, whether male or female) would in my opinion be a mistake and damaging to your marriage. You could either explore these fantasies as part of your sex life with your husband (movies, fantasy, masturbation, etc) or you could just not encourage it and see if it passes eventually. It is quite possible that you are bisexual and just discovering that. If so, it's understandable that you would want to explore this new-found part of yourself, but you are already in a committed relationship and have children together! Do you really want to risk damaging that relationship?
People I have personally known who have actually done threesomes with their spouse or had an "open marriage" have all regretted it. Fantasy can be great, but the reality is often not so great! Just my personal opinion.
2006-08-10 03:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by mellexical 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for a threesome then don't look here, that has nothing to do with lesbian or bisexual women. That's just a fantasy you are thinking about. Real bisexual women are looking for true relationships with another women OR a man, not both. Asking people where you should look for a woman to cheat with is cheap. Think about what your doing and asking. Also don't insult the GLBTQ community by bringing it here.
2006-08-10 06:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's probably due to hormonal fluctuations from your pregnancy. If you really value your marriage, forget about this stuff and it'll pass.
2006-08-10 03:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on you are married with 2 kids i.e. you must be an example to your children, you are a mother
2006-08-10 03:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with quizzed.
2006-08-11 22:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by reme_1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Control..n it will go..
2006-08-10 03:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by en 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋