how can i make a 1 year old stop crying when his mom leaves?

Question

how can i make a 1 year old stop crying when his mom leaves?
i babtsite a 1 year lod but he crys when his mom leaves and i acn get him to stop. can you help me?

Answer 1

if you havent had him that long .get toys and have cartoons on tv, and play with him awhile to get his attention off of his mommy leaving .let him see that u can be fun to be around, and soon before you know it .the crying will stop.. may even start crying to stay with you when she comes to pick him up ...has happen to me when i babysit...with giving attention playing with him and lots of love it soon took a turn the one i kept cryed not to leave .
and if hes not the only one you keep .hey have to play with all of them.of course cant give all attention to just 1 . but make it so he likes coming there and likes you.. by making it a fun and loving place for him to come to

Answer 2

never!!! you really only have 2 options, (1) not let the child know that his mom left but know that he will later realize that she's gone and may start thinking that his mom will later disappear and get more clingy than ever, or (2) suffer thru his crying for sometime until he gets used to the fact that when she leaves and says goodbye, she will always come back.

i did option 2 with my son. i always told him that i was leaving and suffered the consequences at that time. now, he is usually ok when i leave. even asking to bring him home "surprises" once in a while. there is still the occassional tantrum when he's in a lousy mood but otherwise, we're good.

i worried about option 1 cause believed that this may eventually cause psychological problems for the child when he gets older when a parent just all of a sudden "disappears" he may start to think that he gets left behind and would rather hold on to things before they disappear

Answer 3

You can distract him, but there's just no getting around the fact that children of that age often suffer separation anxiety when their mothers leave the room, let alone the house. He'll cry for a little while and then be okay. Just be gentle and calm, because if you freak out he'll be able to tell.

Answer 4

my daughter is almost 2 and does the same thing. It is seperation anxiety. You should probaby sing silly songs and play games with him to get his mind off of it. Taking him for a walk outside will surely relax him and he can look at trees, birds and other things.
Another thing that will help is if youspend some time with the baby while the mom is around. Maybe when you arent babysitting go to their house and have dinner. THat way the child will see you and associate you with his mother and family.

Answer 5

As a mother of a 1 y/o (and a 7 y/o)......

I make it a point to make bye bye time part of the routine..
I never run off on my kids... Sure they are going to get upset.. but they won't last forever...

Perhaps it might work for you if you can get to where you're babysitting a little bit earlier... Start interacting with your child (I know its hard to keep them interested at 1) and then say bye bye to mom.. and then go do whatever they like to do.. Whether it be, take a bath, eat a snack, fav toy.. ect ect.....

Maybe if they SAY goodbye, but not actually have to watch mom leaving, that might make your job a little bit easier..

Good luck!

Answer 6

A good beating.

JUST KIDDING!

Seriously, distract him with a game or toy, or a cookie and juice. Lots of kisses and tickles might work too. Whatever he likes.

Remember, he's not crying from sadness. He's angry that his mother's not there. To a baby, the world revolves around him. Trying to reassure him won't work - he's too little to understand. If all else fails, put him in his bed, close the door, and let him scream. He'll calm down soon enough.

Answer 7

Make an absolute mess of yourself. Pretend to hurt yourself and cry. Stand on your head and fall. Run around like a crazy person with hands above your head like a monkey. Take his hand and let him pretend hit you and scream and cry like it hurts. Do front rolls and jump up in the air. Be very visual and goofy. That will do it.

Answer 8

Maybe take him out of the room to play/distract while she leaves. This always worked for me- out of site, out of mind- they don't cry if they don't realize she left them.

But, like the other person said, act extra silly for a few minutes to get their mind off of mom.

Answer 9

It's not something you can stop, but it is something he will grow out of. Just reassure him that his mom will come back and distract him. Never let mom leave without saying goodbye. He has to make the connection that mom leaves and that mom will come back.

Answer 10

Distract him with something - or get the mum to play for 5 minutes and mom is to explain that she has to go to work ut when she gets back she wants him to have done something for her - like paint a picture or something and she will bring him a surprise back whether it be chocolate or a little game or something.