so my wife takes the cell phone and comes home last night from shopping and tells me immediately upon exiting the vehicle, your boss called and women have called the phone all day.
later on when she had unpacked her things and the kids were asleep, i asked her about this and wanted to talk about it.
she accused me of being a child reacting as if he had been told he could not have a new toy to play with.
I'm a grown adult and was given the phone to use at work as part of my business. i'm not sure what to say to my boss, my wife says i can't have the phone because she can't control who calls and who i call.
so this went on into the early morning and i was tired and ready for bed and she kept asking me why i couldn't understand her point. (See previous posts about going through my desk, etc.) and i told her she was acting crazy.
wrong thing to say. she's now talking divorce, hatred, etc.
she's not crazy, but i just don't see her behavior as being rational.
????HELP
2006-08-10 02:57:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the bi*** is crazy. she probably cheating on u if she thinks u r. tell her u think a divorce mite be the rightidea, then she what she says.
2006-08-10 03:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mike Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me? Whoa, back up & answer the initial key question here - who are & why were other women calling you cell phone in the first place? I notice a big, suspicious side-step of that part of this equation! You want to focus on her taking your phone because you need it for work -a valid concern - but really, why are women calling on your cell? If you can't give legitmate reasons, maybe she has cause to be suspicious. I DO understand her point - maybe she is going about it in a childish, knee-jerk reaction way, but c'mon, how would handle this if you took HER cell & other men kept calling it? Be realistic. From someone who has been down this road, honesty is the best policy - the truth WILL come out, and you will never be forgiven if you are up to no good & compound that by LYING. If you have something to admit, just do it. If you schedule marriage counseling (very important that YOU take this initial step), stop the shenanigans & truly seek forgiveness, you MAY be able to work things out with her. If not, make it easier on both of you & the kids & just get the divorce. Don't draw it out till everyone is mentally scared by all this drama. It is horrible to play with someone else's emotions. Do the right thing, one way or another, please.
2006-08-10 10:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be stressed, depressed and feeling left out of your life, if you confided in her more maybe she wouldn't be so insecure. Treat her like you just met her. I think more is going on with her then you know & some how you have to reasure her & comfort her & build up the trust that she lost, for some reason even if you haven't done anything wrong she has reason in her mind to believe you have. It might even be her own guilty conscience, maybe she is going through life changes or a chemical imbalance. I will read part III and add more... As far as the phone offer her to take it when she leaves the house, let her add phone numbers, let her be a part of it and ask her that if she answers it and if it is for you that she be business like and to take a message for you tell her that is fine if she ask whom and why they are calling. Reasurance, compassion & romannce are the key here... Even though you may be feeling a little recentment right now set that a side, if you want things to get better, the power is in your hands unless it is a medical problem and tell her you are concerned of the mood swings and ask her what she could do to improve that and if she'd like to counsle or talk with a Dr. about it. (without upsetting her).
2006-08-10 10:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to realize even though she is at the top of your priority list, your world does not revolve how she says it should(.Also though if you have strayed at all in the past or lied then she might have a reason to be suspect. )Women want to be in controll and when she doesn't have controll over that phone she doesn't like it and wants to get rid of it. Your boss gave you a phone to use and she needs to accept that. Tell her if it would make her feel better she could look at a copy of the bill at the end of every month to see what calls are going in and out.
Also point out that she can call the phone at anytime to check in and see where you are at and what you are doing. Sit down and ask her what it would take for her to be happy and you keep the phone.Its called communication and comprimise...
2006-08-10 10:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this but you're going to have to put the pants in the family back on. That phone is WORK RELATED. Your company approved your use of it. It's company property and if she won't give it back to you, that is stealing and she could get in legal trouble. It sounds like your wife is VERY insecure...you need to find out what the root cause of her behavior is. I suggest going to a marriage councilor...good luck...
2006-08-10 10:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever think that women are rational as they are definitely not. If your phone has been "stolen" tell your boss so the number can be cancelled and you can have a new one issued.
2006-08-10 10:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that she's trying to control your entire life... she has NO rights to that phone.
She's also insecure...jealous... she's the one who needs the help (therapy).
YOU could give HER a choice of either getting help or>>> of YOU divorcing HER.. & see how she likes a taste of her own medicine.
2006-08-10 10:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You now have to take the offensive.
Talk up the divorce angle
2006-08-10 10:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow a set of balls and slap the *****. She is a control freak. dump her.
2006-08-10 10:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by kd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋