My dad walked out on me when I was two. He walked out again when I was three, four and until I walked out on him at sixteen. Now I have b/f John who is lovely but should I try to find out my Dad's problem before he dies?
2006-08-10 02:47:36 · 12 answers · asked by poppy vox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe the problem was with your mother and not you... see him..
2006-08-10 02:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know whether you want to or not but i'd say you should because after all, it is you dad and maybe he can tell you his reasons for walking out and you can get some closure before he passes away.
2006-08-10 10:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be good advice but I feel if a person was not there while they?I was well then don't use an illness to reconnect with me. My Father's Mother was like that then when she was dying she wanted to get to know me, but she had all those other years. So I never spoke to her. I still feel I did the right thing I don't regret it at all.
2006-08-10 09:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will be very nice to find out maybe its not you, probably it was the strains of fatherhood and responsibilities--you were lucky tho to at least know your dad---so give the guy a shot see what excuse he has although it will not be good enough to "abandon" you--then forgive but do not forget.
2006-08-10 09:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by rocco j b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you as this is a tricky question. I always think it is best to treat your Father with respect and give him change to go over history with you. For you need to pick the right time, set the mood and be happy to listern.
Only then can you make your choice but remember as a Father myself we do not always get it right and sometimes we cannot deal with History very well.
Please make note of my name and let me know how it goes please. I am going through same problem with my Son.
Good luck.
Tony.
2006-08-10 09:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tony Hi_teck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you might feel hurt you should try and find out cos toherwise your always gonna wonder.jst because they are adults doesnt mean they doint have issues of their own maybe your dad had problems that made him walk away still its not nice
2006-08-10 10:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually,tats ur father and u should care for him although he did not care for u.His ur father.May be he walked away but pls do care him cause when ur grown up maybe 1 day ur child will do it to u althought u never do it.It happens generation and generation.B/f always come after family so think about it carefully.
REMEMBER,FAMILY COMES 1ST AND THEY HELP U WHEN U FACE ANY PROBLEM.
2006-08-10 09:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Frendlygal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes please do because you will only regret it later if you dont you need to put that part of your life behind you once and for all so you and your b/f can move on with the rest of you lifes good luck!.
2006-08-10 10:48:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would as you may regret not doing it just give him a chance
2006-08-10 09:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by pat e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't, you'll always wonder why you didn't ask. Simple.
2006-08-10 09:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jack Creighton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋