Let's say you're dating a same-sex person for a while, and you've shared experiences, are attracted and excllusive with each other. Then say that you want to take on unsafe sex, but he/she doesn't want to until you get an AIDS test. Does this offend you because it's a sign that he doesn't trust you or do you feel appreciative because it means he is responsible?
2006-08-10 02:41:38 · 27 answers · asked by Kookoo Bananas 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, I don't get offended.
Face it, everyone has a past and this isn't the 1960's anymore where when you caught 'something' you could get a shot and all would be well.
For myself I would respect the fact that my partner thought enough of me to make sure I was 'safe', and in return I too would know my partner was 'safe' as well.
Aids takes only seconds to get, and a life time to die from.
And thats not a chance I'm willing to take.
2006-08-10 05:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by illusive_fantasiez 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't offend you! If you and your partner care for eachother in any way, it shouldn't bother you that he/she wants you to have an aids test. Especially if "you want to take on unsafe sex"! Not that unsafe sex is a good idea, but I'm at least glad you've talked to your partner about it!
Imagine what could happen if you engaged in unsafe sex, and then brought home just a regular STD....which is nothing to sneeze at....could you live with yourself or the consequences?
My partner and I have been together for 8 years. We have a wonderful relationship, and sometimes we have threesomes and sometimes we have sex with other partners without eachother....but we always engage in safe sex because we don't want to harm eachother or anyone else.
Please don't be offended and do as your partner asks. It will save you, and them, a lot of grief in the future.
2006-08-10 03:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely not be offended. Aids takes months to develop enough to be seen. A partner could very well have contracted Aids before being in this relationship.
Your partner is consenting to have unprotected sex with you - which is trusting you with his life. If there is any disease in you, your partner will be infected.
Why would you not want to be absolutely sure that there is no disease in you so that you don't cause pain to someone that loves you? Why would you not want the same for yourself?
I would advise that you both get tested.
Also, if you ever do stray on your partner, don't have unprotected sex with them. I could forgive someone doing a casual fling and then coming to me and repenting. That would be fine. 3 months of protected sex and then an aids test and then we could go on like normal. But I could never forgive someone who gave me aids because they lied to me about a roll in the hay.
2006-08-10 02:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok look at it this way buddy! If someone told to to put a gun to your head and pull the trigger would you do it without making damn sure it was unloaded first? This is the same situation you cant blame someone for not wanting to accidently kill himself. If your offended then your wrong or maybe you already know you have aids and this will put an end to your lil gay romp. Or then again maybe he does have aids and is trying to tell you that he just gave it to you. Either way its disgusting. My advise is that both of you get tested or better yet stop humping dudes and maybe go with the gun idea!
2006-08-10 02:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should be tested regularly. I would not be comfortable in any case in a relationship where we had not mutually agreed to testing.
In an open relationship, it's important to continue regular testing. No-one should be offended by this request from their partner. We are all responsible for looking after the health of ourselves and our partner.
2006-08-10 03:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think this is just a same sex issue in this day and age. When anyone enters into a long term relationship this should be just a matter of course.
2006-08-10 05:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by PARKERD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very responsible step. Every couple, once they are totally monogamous and comfortable, if they decide they want to relax some safer sex practices, condoms in particular, should both be tested.
2006-08-10 04:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In today's world, that's just part of being in a relationship. The two people should go together and both get tested.
2006-08-10 06:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sign of mistrust, it's a sign of caring and wanting to have safe sex.
If I was in a serious relationship like that, I would get us both tested for our own selves, so something stupid doesn't happen.
2006-08-10 07:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were gay, I'd feel reasured by both myself taking an AIDS test and having my partner take one. That's supposed to be what couples do -- look out for one another.
2006-08-10 19:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Candidus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋