Can you help me in my problem that I asked about before, but this time with a clear explanation?

Question

I am an 18 year old guy, I am not gay, but I get attracted to cute and handsome and athletic guys. But I don't like to have something with them ( disgusting ), I like to have that with girls.
But I always search on the net about pics of naked guys and like watching them, but when I deal with guys I deal normally as a normal guy. And my appearance is normal ( guy appearance and clothes), normal behavior. But these feelings and watching guys is the problem, what can I do to remove these bad feelings that I hate in myself, I want to be totally straight, what can I do ( I like to go with girls and have sex with them not with guys and get attracted to girls )?

Answer 1

This is a good question, and I'm sorry you didn't get an adequate answer before. It is a controversial subject. Our sexuality is not fully developed when we are born, there are many factors that go into it as we age. When we are born our sexuality is diffuse and not focussed. Everyone can be bisexual. As we age and develop there are factors that influence us, and this is so even up till our 20's and on, tho less. The word 'conditioning' means to form habits and associations. We are constantly being conditioned by circumstances and events and people in our environment Once we form a habit, it is really hard to change it,, but not impossible.

It is actually not so abnormal for a person of one sex to notice and appreciate a person of the same sex, though in balance. Girls notice what other girls are wearing, and how they look and act, and admire some, and want to be like some of them, and want to be friends with some of them. This is true for males also, and is called 'male bonding'.
It is also not uncommon for random sexual feelings to pop up once in awhile, especially at a young age when sexuality is still diffuse. No need to get phobic abut it. It doesn't mean that a person 'is gay'. A young person who has such a random thought or feeling can just let it flit by and dismiss it without worry and move on.

But sometimes we might get stuck on something. That means that something is unresolved,, and needs to be resolved to be able to move on.

There are people who would have us think that one homosexual experience at a young age means that we are gay forever, but that is not so,, but it is a part of exploration of the still diffuse sexuality. There are also people who would 'cure' a person who is tending toward homosexuality by forcing them into superficial heterosexual acts, which only makes more confusion. There are people who totally reject any person who is not very macho or who is confused because of lack of a male role model, who is usually the father,, and this makes the situation worse too, when the youngster needs male role models. Perhaps you are looking at the others as possible role models, as is common to do,,, don't worry about that. If you see a guy who is buff, and you admire that, and want to get buff yourself, or wish you were,, nothing wrong with that. If you look at a guy, and he looks confident and classy and you admire that, and think he is cool, and want to be like that too,,, nothing wrong with that.

Answer 2

hey, it's not like you're looking at kiddie pix on the internet...there is nothing wrong with appreciating the way a hot guy looks. Even if you're a guy.

sexual orientation is a continuum, which means that it is not just black and white, straight and gay, but many shades of gray.

it is likely that even though you say you only want to have sex with girls, that you enjoy looking at men, you are not alone. It doesn't mean you want to sleep with men. What would you think of a woman who only has sex with men, but likes to look at women? Those are out there too.

I'd even say that to be "totally straight" is not nearly as common as something a little closer to the middle. I'm not saying you are bisexual, just that you are probably normal, like the rest of us. Don't beat yourself up over it!\

You know what else? if you do find yourself physically and emotionally attracted to somebody, it shouldn't matter whether they're a woman or a man. In a perfect world, anyway. We all know one way is a lot easier than the other, but forcing one's self to live straight when they're not is a waste. So take a bit to see who you are after all.

Answer 3

Ok, well it really just sounds like you're straight, but seem to appreciate the male form a little more than normal, but then again, a normal guy thinks other guys are disgusting, and therefore that isn't totally normal. To tell you the truth, all guys deep down inside do look at other guys, but don't admit it because they will fear others will think they're gay when they're not. I know because I am straight, and into competitive bodybuilding which is all about what you look like, so I am constantly looking at other guys, but not in a gay way, I just see the male form in good shape as apealing, and what I want to look more like. So guys in my sport are more comfortable at looking at eachother, and even complementing eachother on how they look. Right now I'm getting ready for a show, so I'm lean, and guys in my gym come up to me and complement me on my legs or arms and stuff like that, I don't freak out, it's kinda cool, in a straight way. I think you just need to not dwell on it too much, I don't think you're sexually attracted to good looking guys, but you appreciate how they look, and maybe want to look like that yourself.

Answer 4

I think what you maybe have an admiration for cute, handsome and athletic guys, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you are emotionally or sexually attracted to them. Your habit of always watching those types of guys is probably just because there is a part of you that admires them, that wants to be like them. There probably isn't anything sexual about it at all. I think its best to consult a counselor who can help you understand your feelings better. Good luck!

Answer 5

Be true to yourself. At 18, you have a choice, and your whole life to struggle with that choice. Whether you are gay or not, the fact that you like and seek out other pics of other men and it bothers you. To the point you need to ask this question out loud tells me right there maybe you need to do more soul searching to understand where you are coming from.
Be true to yourself.

Answer 6

I don't think it is abnormal to be attracted to the same sex, I think you may admire their appearances. That is one way to look at it or maybe you are told it is "bad" to be attracted to the same sex and you are in the "closet" and may not know it. Don't think of these feelings as "bad feelings" and see where it leads you. Life is too short to be alone, maybe get some counseling so you can get your true feelings out. Good luck to you!!

Answer 7

I think it's rather strange you demand a clear explanation this time. It seems to me that you are not getting the answer you want so you keep asking till you get it. This also means you know the answer. I say you are gay or bi. It's that easy, but not in your head. To you, it's wrong, so until you get over that in your head you will have this struggle.

Answer 8

Dude you can either put the thoughts out of your mind, Women look to other women for style and stuff. There are a lot of attractive women ( myself included ) be that as it may, I am aware of this and can appreciate everyone with out being gay and so can you! You are ok.

Answer 9

i'm not an expert but you maybe bi-sexual. or maybe you look up to the athletic, well-toned guys and you want to be like them. and so you look at their picture and watch how they do sex so when you do it yourself, with a girl, you know how to please her. or maybe you're just confused on who you truly are. best find a guy you like and a girl too, see where you become happier and then go for it. i hope i helped you.

Answer 10

You can't force yourself to like girls. To like to see pictures of naked guys without being gay would be very strange. I won't do it. Just be honest with yourself and be whatever you were born to be. Good luck.