I'm married for 2 years already. Until now, we never had a successful penetration sex. I feel so much pain when the penis is being inserted in. I don't know what i should do. Is it because the hymen is not broken or other reason?
2006-08-10 02:31:22 · 16 answers · asked by scared 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Being married does not mean to be happy or willing to have sex.
The more common reason is a sort of contracture in the vagina's muscles that happened quite frequently in the past all over the world, and still does in couples that were married without having pre-marital sex or when the woman had very traumatic previous experience.
The main reason is psychological, I do not recall any physical normal issue, even though in some very exceptional cases anatomic conditions are preventing the sexual relation.
Since you mentioned pain, and is being inserted, I believe that what is going on is the over mentioned contracture.
Of course, it is possible to cure, sometimes spontaneously, others with the help of psychologist, or a couple's therapist.
My question is: what do you feel about your husband?
Good luck, and try to be happy. Sex is wonderful only if wished and your partner takes care in learning you at the same time you pay attention to your own feelings.
Sincerely, Fro
2006-08-10 02:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Expat Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple of reasons for unsuccessful penetration:
a. You're too tense. Contracts the vaginal muscles so tight that you can't be penetrated.
b. Your partner's tool is too big. Although the vagina can expand to a great extend (think childbirth), but refer to point a.
Therefore, the best way is to relax. Have lots of foreplay to get those juices cumming. Then relax. Spread wide and breath deeply. Lubricating jelly helps a great deal too. And remember not to do it in front of a strong blowing fan or air-con cos you'll just dry up too quickly.
I read in a magzine that some couples' organs just don't fit like a jigsaw, so...
Anyhow, 1st thing 1st. make sure it's the right hole! (i'm serious)
Good luck!
2006-08-10 12:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, from a true story I read out of a book about Medical Mishaps.
Couple had been married for 30 years. Wife always complained that sex hurt and all and was never pleasurable. Turns out he had put his penis into her urethra and over time it did expand but was always painful.
Have the two of you checked to make sure he's going into the right place? Please check with your doctor.
2006-08-10 21:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by hoangnkarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that could be. a gynaecologist could tell you more there, or it could be some hormonal problem, like not enough estrogene in your vagina. there is some ointment for that you could get a prescription... that's the medical part of it... might be psychological too, are you really relaxed before or during sex? if not it can also be a reason if you just cannot relax especially when you so want it to work it can block something....i would either way go see a gynaecologist. good luck
2006-08-10 09:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be many different reasons. One could be the hymen and another could be that your bony structure is too small causing pain. In either case I think you shuld see the Dr. because you would think that by 2 years your hymen would be gone. Good luck to you.
2006-08-10 09:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to a gynecologist about this issue. There are a lot of different reasons why penetration hurts. Have you ever had a yearly exam?? Talk to a doctor.
2006-08-10 09:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you ask anything else, I would go to your gynecologist and have them give you a vaginal exam to make sure that their are no other factors to why he can't penetrate into you. Their may be other issues that you do not know about and it would be best to see your gynecologist immediately. Ask her lots of questions and hopefully you can start trying to make babies soon!:)
2006-08-10 10:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by Got Jesus? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a size issue? Have you try different kinds of lubrication. Make sure your hudband is gentle while trying to penetrate you and use plenty of lubrication. Take it really slow and try to relax.
2006-08-17 20:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by leabone75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to visit your doctor and discuss it with him or her. If he can't help you a therapist might be in order.
For some women, if there is not alot of foreplay then their bodies don't produce enough natural lubricant. A lubricant like KY jelly - if you are not TTC or PreSeed if you are TTC might be in order.
2006-08-10 09:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mustang Gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone. Go to the doctor! I am sure the doctor has seen more people with your same issue- it could be an easy fix.
2006-08-10 09:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Jenks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋