I found that my husband is hitting one particular porn site multiple times. This is not the first time and we have discussed this in the past. This time when I found the site, I asked him and he flat out denied it. After I told him how I found it and would be more than happy to show him......he stated he had a "weak moment"...what four times in two days???? Is this just a "man thing"??? Someone, please help me understand!!!
2006-08-10 02:21:30 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am dealing with the same thing with my husband. He hides it from me even looks at it when i am asleep. So this is what i did. I installed a free porn blocker called. www.we-blocker.com this things works and he CANNOT access it without your user name and password that you hve set up for the account. I told my husband point blank that I was fed up and told him exactly what i was doing and you know what he cant get on porn sites!!!! I have never been happier, secretly laughing inside because he cant look at porn. And i refuse to take the blocker off. You can also go to a site called www.xxxchurch.com this is the #1 site that helps people who know or are involved with someone addicted to porn. It helped me and recommended the blocker that I have recommended to you. Dont be afraid to step up and put your foot down. I did.
2006-08-10 03:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by 86Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 18:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men are not interested in porn,on Internet or magazines.I am one of those that porn,x-rated movies and books just don't turn on and i don't understand what it does for other guys.He has the real thing there at home why look at something you can never have or want as a wife.My being a christian may make the difference,but lien about anything that is entimeant with your mate doesn't make sense,I think you need to have a serious talk with him and tell him you really want the troth,what does this do to him and try and work from there,Would he want you looking at men this way?No he wouldn't but ask what if you started doing the same thing,but I'm not saying you should ,2 wrongs don't make a right.Hope you can work things out and get your trust in him back.
2006-08-11 05:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by freshstart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea how I would handle my husband doing that. I don't think it is right at all. I would have to have a serious talk. You can not let that keep going on or he may go out and do something he regrets. Please be careful. Love him alot and get him the help he needs. If you can't get him to stop speak to someone from a local church. They would be happy to give you both counseling.
I would 1st try telling him how wrong those sites are. They are abling girls to show themselves when those girls grow up they will regret what they did. I feel really sorry for men who feel it is no big deal looking at porn sites. It is a big deal. I have a friend who is constantly watching porn. I always tell him he is sick. I like our friend but do not agree with what he does at all. You have to set your foot down. Porn leads to problems with marriages.
Good Luck.
2006-08-10 02:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shelly unfortunately ur married to a little boy trapped in a mans body.. Real Men dont feel the need to disrespect their wives by having to look at other women to get aroused or to even seek out curiousity.. Then not only did he do this , but then lied to u.. he's proving that he definately will lie to keep out of trouble.. and that he will substitute u for other things.. and neither is right..
Nip the porn now, no need for u to understand why, it just has to stop.. ive been around awhile on computers and i can tell u 90% of the time that kind of thing leads to no good, usually thats where it starts, then eventually that will get boring, then he'll need to view live cams.. to the point that he enters chat rooms .. then the cyber sex begins, then that gets old then it moves to phone sex , then eventually if the person lives close enough by and they are that aroused by that individual they have to test the waters for real.. So although he or others may say this is not a big deal him looking at porn on the computer, eventually it gets boring and u have to take the next step.. then the next, then the next.. where do u draw the line? when its too late?????? or do u let him know now that this is just flat out unacceptable? if he wanted to look at other naked women he should of stayed single.. but he took a vow to u to forsake all others and thats not what he's doing by needing to do this..
Good luck..
2006-08-10 02:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that I'm not married myself and only 21 I don't know how accurate i can be. This pornography isn't physically hurting anyone and your husband obviously enjoys it. We all crave different things in life but I'm guessing he made a lifelong promise to stick with you at the altar and so far has he kept to it? I suppose you'll need to ask yourself whether you'd rather him satisfy his cravings through looking at a screen or actually going out and physically satisfying them. I bet there are times that you'd perhaps trade your husband in for a newer model and this is a similar thing for him. You might even be able to use it to your advantage and spice your own life up in the bedroom. You have to talk to him and ask what it is about that site that he likes so much and then see where you can go from there.
2006-08-10 02:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a male thing, hopefully it is just a fase he keeps falling in and out of. At least he is home and not cheating! He is not spending cash at the strip club or is he. There is no harm in looking and your sex life may be better b/c of it... He doesn't feel he needs to tell you b/c he is probably embaressed b/c of how you have already made him feel about it, have an open mind and trying watching it with him act like you approve and don't care and as long as he is still faithful you really shouldn't. With this attitude he may not want to watch it as much as he has been. He is looking at a monitor not the real thing live...
Laugh it off if you can... Good luck!
2006-08-10 03:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually there are allot of women that are into porn just like men....You know that men have a hard time expressing how they really feel. Maybe you should watching with him and that can give you some type of insight as to why he loves so much..That type of understanding would come from him and only him....there could be more to the story.
2006-08-10 02:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Toya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at porn will make him want to cheat more, not less. It will make him less satisfied with his ordinary wife. Of course if you stop him from looking at porn he will use that as an excuse to cheat as well. Just because the average male chooses to look at porn doesn't make it right. Child porn and molestation are rather common too, but that doesn't make it right, no matter how many people are doing it. Men should not be excused for their adulterous behavior just because they are men. And women should not be brainwashed into thinking they can't help it so they must accept it.
2006-08-10 03:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like looking at women being naked or not. Men are visual while women are mentally turned on. Do not take it personally it has nothing to do with you. Even if you were a model he would probably check out that site as well. It is upsetting to us women but we also have to think of it this way at least he is not out cheating. If you talk to him about this situation he will probably be even more sneaky and do it where you would not find out. It is just hard to compete with those woman but they air brush every flaw they have in the photo.
2006-08-10 02:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋