i was with this guy for almost five years,had two kids toghther very young,he then married someone else they had two kids together and are now having a divorce,mutual agreement! he wants me back and i love him to bits but he still lives with her,says they're friends,i don't trust him cause he's always been a cheat,what do i do to make sure he's honest?
2006-08-10 02:20:45 · 33 answers · asked by lushnut 69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you just answered youre own question trust is the cornerstone of any and all relationships and if you dont have that what do you have,the kids right well i can gaurantee you it is much better to be a happy single mother than a miserable mother in a relationship.you would be always asking yourself if hes cheating on you and it may very well drive you insane,do you really wnt to be this fools plan b
2006-08-10 02:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, find someone else. Once a cheat, always a cheat. Sounds like he's shopping around for the best deal. Sounds like he only wants you back because the other woman no longer wants his sorry ***. I know you love him, but here's something about men: they are replaceable. I know when you love someone you think they are THE ONLY person who can meet your emotional needs. This is not true. Finding a man for your life is just like when a company fills a job position. They hire the best person for the job they can find at the time. It doesn't mean that person is the only person who can do that job, or that someone else couldn't do it better. If that person leaves the job, the company doesn't shut down. They just hire someone else. YOU ARE THE SAME WAY! Just hire someone else. Trust me on this. I've been in a similar position. It gets better when you get rid of burdens that just bring you down.
2006-08-10 02:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by elical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't make sure he is honest. You already know the truth. So what you have 2 kids together...he has kids with her too. You leave him alone before you get your self hurt. He will just run back and forth between the two of you for as long as he can get away with it. Ever ask your self why he married her instead of you? Go on with your life and live it to the fullest. Don't move backwards move forward.
2006-08-10 02:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 17:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's always been a cheater, why even bother gettin back with him? You'll do nothing but wonder all the time when somethings not right whether he's cheating on you or not. But if you do decide to get back with him, make sure he is totally out of the house, maybe even living at your house. Talk to his ex wife even if you have too. Hope some of that helps!
2006-08-10 02:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back. Not because he's cheated in the past, but because if you do, think how complex life is going to be. You both have 2 kids. So either he'll go see his kids after the divorce (thus seeing his ex wife again) or bring them with him, leaving you to explain why daddy is back and who the kids are.
Don't do it, if for no other reason that because if he fcks up again, you're left explaining to your kids why daddy came back then left again.
2006-08-10 02:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jack Creighton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's always been a cheat, why would you want to deal with the stress of having to wonder if he's cheating every waking moment. Don't do it to yourself.
Side note- My friend just told me she has Cancer and her prognosis is not good. She's only 30. Why did I tell you that? To make you WAKE UP and take charge of your life and every moment in it because our days are numbered and it's better to live life being happy then wondering what your ex boyfriend and his wife are doing.
2006-08-10 02:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until he leaves...no man who's gone through a divorce still lives with the woman. What the hel! would be the point in the divorce.
once a cheat, always a cheat. find someone you CAN trust and who will trust you. You deserve better.
2006-08-10 02:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by southrngirl2724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen a tiger change its stripes. Once a cheat always a cheat. Don't trust him any farther than you can throw him. Why do you love a man like that is a mystery.
2006-08-10 02:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to do one he cant b trusted it proved that when he married some 1else and fathered 2 kids with his wife.If he still lives with his wife he cant want you back that bad because he would have left the house,he will break your heart and y upset your kids again if the relationship turns sour.find yourself a decent man and b happy good luck
2006-08-10 02:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by mulhollandemily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋