I made a HUGE mistake by moving in with my boyfriend a year ago. He is a nice guy, no huge problems in the relationship, but after a lot of soul searching I realize he is not the one for me. A couple months ago we talked about the problems we were having - little fights, all the housework being put on me, etc - and he has really worked on all of these things. At that point he pretty much begged me to give him a chance to try to make things better, and I agreed. Now things ARE better, but I have realized that the problems weren't "the problem" to begin with. It's a matter of compatibility, and I just don't feel it. I have to break up with him for my own sanity, I can't wait to not live with him, but I feel SO guilty about probably breaking his heart. However, I know it's not fair either to continue to act like everything's okay when it's not. On top of all this, we live together and are both going to have to move. Any suggestions on how to gently and practically handle this?
2006-08-10 02:20:38 · 2 answers · asked by M K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him what you just told us. It's never easy breaking up with someone. How long were you guys together? It's better to do it now then down the road. I would just tell him that you lost love for him and you thought he was right for you but you found out he's not. Tell him that you would like to still remain friends but this relationship just isn't gunna work out. Or it isn't going anywhere. Tell him that you need to find yourself before any commitment. Say your sorry and move out. I hope this helped and GL!
2006-08-10 02:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I have been dumped and I dumped before plenty of men. I just dumped recently and my advice for my ex and for you is:
1. If you are going to dump someone, do it direct and clean cut. What this means is dont say "Oh I cant committ to anyone right now." or "Im in a depression and dont want to share this with you or anyone." or "I still see you as my confidante and want you in my life."
THIS IS BULL! Especially if you or the dumper already has someone else in the woods and/or move on really quickly to someone else in less than a month. hmm
2. Just be direct and move out immediately. Any breakup will be painful but dont sugar coat it!
2006-08-10 02:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by MsBeautyLuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋