im 14 and gay but now i really wanna be a girl too. me and secret bf dress up like girls for fun and i just really felt good that way. what do i do?
2006-08-10 02:19:07 · 15 answers · asked by Zac 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Start by being happy with yourselves. You may want to be girls -- but if you have a boyfriend it is likely that you actually like your penises, in which case I would say enjoy them -- and stick to drag. You can feel good that way and still keep and enjoy the best part of every male.
However, first and foremost believe in yourself (by the way, it is extremely uncommon, statistically, for you to be gay and actually interested in transsexuality -- rather than just [for some] dressing as girls. Actual transsexuals are nearly 96% heterosexual.).
Love yourselves.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-08-10 02:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Zac, I'm not sure if you're just very curious, gay, bisexual or serious about wanting to be a girl. It's a shame that the people who answered were *ssholes.
please contactpflag.org --it's a wonderful educational supportive US org for LGBT people andt their families/friends. Ask for info about homosexuality, bisexuality, crossdressing and transgendered people. And ask them to send it unmarked. They will send you booklets. and lists of organizations to contact. There are a lot of people- gay and trangendered - out there who can help you thru this. You need to understand yourself first, then talk to your folks.Hurry. make the calls. Write to pflag asap. My best to you. One of my new penpals is a male to female transperson. She's very nice but waited much too long to take care of this problem, even went into the marines to try to make it 'go away'. So make the contacts, they'll help you find a psychologist who specalizes in transpeople, some one who will understand you and guide you in the right direction. Lots of love
2006-08-12 04:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just like effeminate behavior. Not anything that requires surgery. God made you homosexual you are choosing to express it this way.
I am not into drag or drag queens. To be completely honest they kind of freak me out but to each his own. Clowns freak me out too so you queens don't have a cow! OK.
I personally like masculine men and feminine women. If I want a man I want a man who has a pair. You know what ai am saying? You need to explore your sexuality and see what makes you you. I hope you find your true self and it is someone into healthy choices.
Peace man
Randy W.
2006-08-10 11:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Zac...
Since you are 14, I'll assume that you do not have the money for the operation, and probably not your parents' blessings, either... It costs a lot of money and your insurance does not cover it... it's considered an elective surgery. So finish your education, and save your money... remember also that once they cut it off, it won't grow back. Good Luck....
2006-08-14 00:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by taterliquor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that must be truly thought out and is full of self discovery and self research. Only you can answer this question, and you should take a good long time getting to the answer. No need to rush anyway. You've got plenty of life left to live.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 09:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by vvxxzzvv 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You are only 14 and still have so many years of self-discovery ahead of you. Find a good counseler/therapist to talk to. With all the advancement in tolerance, it is still hard to be "different". Also, try not to put too much emphasis on your sexuality. Try to just learn as much as you can in school, so that when you graduate you may have less problems with regular life (job, housing, etc.) to deal with. That way the problems you will encounter with your life-style won't be as hard to deal with.
2006-08-10 09:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Whooooaaaa! You've got some serious issues there, and at such a tender age. You ought to seek help for counselor before you really go over the edge. At your age you should be focused on a being a kid, enjoying life, going to school, and having fun. Not dwell on sexual confusion and sexual disorientation. Please, seek help.
2006-08-12 07:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by EDDie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14. You're *supposed* to be confused. How ELSE are you supposed to learn about yourself except by experimenting?
Keep safe and keep playing. The confusion will lift like fog in the sun.
2006-08-10 20:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Luis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, you don't have to rush things about yourself.
Maybe you're just into crossdressing, which a lot of guys are. But you have a lot of time to figure out about yourself yet, you're only 14.
2006-08-10 14:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by Adam G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I really feel you need to be just what god made you,If you didnt come with girl material then I dont think you were meant to be a girls,know what I mean
2006-08-10 09:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋