Opinions everyone, should your spouses needs and wants come before your parent's needs and wants?
2006-08-10 02:07:25 · 15 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Glad to see all of you are coming with me on this...my husband's mother (he lost his father fifteen years ago) is a sweet woman but anytime she questions something about our marriage, he starts questioning it as well...
2006-08-10 02:19:58 · update #1
My wife will always come first for a couple of reason.
I married her and not my family. I love my family but they have no ability to make me sleep on the couch. LOL!! Plus, my wife is my best friend. She and I wear the pants in the family. I am the head of the household and she helps me make choices for the family.
Tell the hubby to cut the apron strings.
2006-08-10 02:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that when you get married, your spouse should definately come first. If your parents are sick and need you, that is a completely different situation. Then again, when you have children, they should come first- however, you should always make time for your spouse no matter what the situation is, whether you have children or not.
2006-08-10 02:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK here's the deal........you married her too! No she should not have any say what happens in you marriage....however she is his mother! Did you think he would be more like his father or what? Just Smile and wave and take everything "she said" with a grain of salt. She is your mother-in-law.......they are problem prone. He is your husband and he could just be looking out for the two of you in the long run.
2006-08-10 02:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your spouses needs and wants should come before your parents needs because once your married you are no longer your parents responsibility but your spouses but that is not to say you no longer care for your parents and wouldn't be their for them, that wouldn't be showing respect and honour to them for what they have done in raising you up.
2006-08-10 02:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by jaci 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the situation. Both of my parents are gone, so all we have are his parents. I do everything I can for them. I believe that their NEEDS should come before our/his wants-but again, it would depend on the situation. We live about 4 blocks away, and see them every day. There have been many times when their needs/wants have come first.
2006-08-10 02:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by ifeedkids3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the husband or wife should always come first. Alot of times this is where you hve problems with the in-laws because they are used to coming first.
2006-08-10 02:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. After going Through marriage counseling, that is what they tell you is the most important thing to keep your marriage strong. Your spouse should always be #1.
2006-08-10 02:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by lookingforanswers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes ur spouse should come before everyone says so in the Bible, even before your children UNLESS its a life or death situation
2006-08-10 02:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spouse first, your children and then outside family members, to include mom & dad (in-laws)...take care of number one first and then do with what you have left over for others.
2006-08-10 02:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people fulfill their spouses' needs first, some fulfill their parents' first.
But in my opinion, we should keep them in balance. We must fulfill our spouses' needs because we have committed, but make sure not to ignore our parents because they have raised us.
2006-08-10 02:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by r083r70v1ch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋