How do you get a husband to quite lying?

Question

We have been married for many years and this has just been an ongoing problem,we have had many discussions about his lying and the worst part is he lies about the dumbest stuff,I dont know why or how to get him to stop.

Answer 1

Do we have the same husband?! I saw your other question too and it sounds like we have a lot of problems in common. If your husband is like mine, he needs to feel in control and he gets a boost almost like a drug when he gets away with any type of lie. There is nothing you can do to change him, and if you gripe about it too much he'll just become a better liar. You might want to consider how long you are willing to put up with his behavior. Since he probably won't change you are the one who will have to decide if you can deal with him or need to leave him.

Answer 2

I had one of those. It took me years to get away from him.
You taught him it is ok to lie to you.
You might throw a fit or pin him down or challenge him, but you don't enforce it. You let him get away with it.
What he hears is this: She knows I'm lying, she knows I don't care that it hurts her. She would rather put up with me, than be alone, so I can do what I want. I am the best she can get.
If I were you, I would sit him down and say this:
I have been letting you get away with this, and I am done now. I deserve to have an honest relationship.
You deserve to be healthy and able to tell the truth.
I think you have a problem telling the truth. I am willing to help you, but you have to be willing to go to counseling with me. If you are not willing, and can stop lying on your own, then good. I expect you to stop right now. Your marriage depends on it.
Either way, the next time I catch you in a lie, I am going to leave you, and take half of your stuff. I will not live like this anymore.
Then YOU KEEP YOUR WORD and leave.
If you are not ready for this ultimatum, then you are giving him permission to continue.
My best advice is to start packing, because he cannot or will not stop.
Pathological liars often have very low self-esteem, and can be very chaming and enjoyable company. They prey on people who will put up with their sh*&^t.
You have to decide that you deserve a real relationship with a real person, or a shallow one with a pretend person.
My divorce was the best present I ever gave myself.Good luck, hon. ..

Answer 3

my hubby tells if there was a topless barmaid at the pub he went to for lunch even if i didn't ask, but will deny to death that he took $2 from the car (even though technically its his money)!!
strange huh?
Even though it shits me so bad because it pointless and i dont really care about what he's fibbing about - and yes i often wonder why and what else he could lie about... i can tell when he's lying and doesnt lie about big things. I just laugh at him when he does it (kinda mean i know) but he realizes (most of the time) that it is pointless and doesnt do it as often. when i stopped making it into a big deal he kinda relaxed a bit...
but i still dont know where it came from? maybe his ex was really bitchy and grilled him over everything he done, so he developed an in built thing about lying. i dont know many people divorce over who ate the last bit of chocolate but for some reason he still felt it necessary to lie.

but I'd say next time he does it, let him know you know he is lying and say you dont care about whatever it is and just leave it.
see how it goes and maybe when he realizes that there's no need to lie about it, coz u wont get angry or annoyed. he may then ease up. but finding out why is lost to me?
good luck.

Answer 4

ok unlike some others who remain helpless, heres some actual advice..
1. lie to him, see if he likes it
2 hide his stuff, lie about it
3 ask him directly not to lie to you, or you will have to consider your options
4. tell his mother.
5 ask his mother infront of him if his father was like this
6. no sex if he lies to you
7 shake him firmly by the hand walk out the door come back the next morning, and tell him you went on a drive( leave the car on the drive)
8. buy naughty underwear, and dont wear it, but make sure to wash it.
9. buy a puppy, let it have his side of the bed
10 explain how his lying got you arrested..

Answer 5

some people have a serious problem and its called "pathological lying"- my ex husband had this problem and see where it led (hence him being my ex husband)- i always wanted things to work out regardless because i was naive before we were married and didnt realize he was lying about 75% of things coming out of his mouth. i dont think any relationship can work if there is a person who lies constantly in it.

Answer 6

WOW, I think I was married to him too!...just kidding, my ex would lie about what he had for breakfast!! I think the only thing to stop him from lying is to duct tape his mouth shut.....hahaha! sorry, couldn't resist. Usually it stems from deeper issues.....unfortunately with my ex, he was so prideful that he would blow up and break stuff if I suggested he see a counselor. Good luck to you girlfriend, I've been there and I know it's not easy! probably not very helpful, but my heart goes out to you hon!

Answer 7

Your husband is a pathological liar. "Pseudologia fantastica, mythomania, compulsive mendacity, or pathological mendacity are 4 of countless words utilized by utilising psychiatrists to the habit of situation-free or compulsive mendacity.[a million][2] It replaced into first defined contained in the scientific literature in 1891 by utilising Anton Delbrueck.[2] in spite of the undeniable fact that that's a debatable subject count number,[2] pathological mendacity has been defined as "falsification completely disproportionate to any discernible bring about view, may well be extensive and intensely complicated, and would happen over a era of years or in line with possibility an entire life".[a million] the guy may well be conscious they're mendacity, or would have faith they're telling the certainty, being unaware that they are touching on fantasies." "learn have printed that pathological liars have greater white count number than gray count number of their prefrontal cortex, the element of the strategies that helps human beings to stay ethical and sense remorseful approximately for their strikes. intense white count number is what may well be inflicting those human beings to lie, control, and lie to persons compulsively. gray count number is what helps human beings to maintain the ought to lie to and lie under administration. that's in all probability the reason human beings would develop into pathological liars." Oh I knew my ex-husband replaced into mentally disturbed, even nevertheless HE LIED approximately IT. He lied approximately each and every thing. that's what pathological liars do. it generally is going hand in hand with narcissism. SEPARATE. God in hassle-free terms is known with what each and every of the lies are that he has informed to you.

Answer 8

Well men cant do that but you should catch them whenever it happens read some tips on this site onhow to catch a cheating lover

Answer 9

ya, i lived with a man like that. they actually think you are dumb and believe them. like their cell phone was dead and that's why they didn't call at lunch time like they said they would. or "i forgot" when they told you they'd do something, instead of saying they were too tired and didn't feel like it. it's really just pure disrepect for you, like you are some IDIOT. a person usually does that because their parents did it.

Answer 10

He seems to be a pathological lier.
Nothing will change him, unless he decides himself.
Ask him why he lies?