We are dating and have been for some months. We both have been married once before and i have been divorced for 6 years and he i think mabey 2.
I am ready to move to another phase in the relationship to lead to marriage. I am ready to marry and pretty much waiting.
I am afraid to bring it up to see where he stands on it for fear of him becoming distant.
What should i do?
2006-08-10 01:50:04 · 12 answers · asked by !@#$$ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's nothing wrong with knowing where your relationship will go.I think those who have no intentions on getting married should be upfront nearing the beginning of the relationship so the other knows what they're getting into. Just my opinion. Be very subtle about it. Maybe asks questions like how does he feel about your relationship or can he see you guys growing old together. See what his reaction is, kind of test the waters first. Since it's only been some months you might want to ease into these kinds of questions without scaring him. If it was like 5 years then yeah I would say to ask him where this is going. Just enjoy your time together. :)
2006-08-10 02:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by TA 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since you've only been dating for months, it may be a bit early to discuss marriage. However, if he's in love with you, and you with him, then subtly ask him if he will ever consider marriage again (you'll know the right time to bring it up). If he becomes distant when you talk about it, then he's not ready and perhaps never will be. Then it's time to rethink the relationship and whether you want to continue with it.
2006-08-10 09:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You state you have been dating for some months now. Don't bring up marriage (this is a serious commitment and life altering commitment), until you've shared all the seasons and holidays together "twice!". That means 2 years. Then it is fair to ask, where are we going.
Remember the old saying "haste makes waste". This applies to marriage as well.
2006-08-10 08:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating for months. And you THINK he's been divorced for maybe 2 years, but you don't KNOW.
You don't even know this man well enough to be living with him let alone thinking of marrying him. Yikes!
Why rush into making another marriage mistake? Just relax and enjoy the relationship.
2006-08-10 08:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask him how he feels about getting married again and ask whether you'd be a potential candidate.
He's been married so he's not going to be totally afraid of marriage. It's not bad at all to bring it up.
2006-08-10 08:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mama R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you want to marry him you than already know the answer when he ask you, but he may not be ready. He might not want to be hurt again and is going to take it slow. you will know when he is going to ask but don't try to pressure him. continue to love him and show in nonverbal ways that you want to be with him till death do you part.
2006-08-10 09:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
bring up lil things like watch bridzilla and make comments like i would never do that at our wedding or i would get this instead at our wedding. or drive by a nice place and say how that would be the perfect plasce for a wedding
2006-08-10 08:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should now. If he becomes distant, you have your answer about moving on to the next level.
2006-08-10 08:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-10 08:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by girly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should wait a little More until u r sure u want that guy...
then he will also be sure...
don't rush...
good luck...
2006-08-10 08:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋