I don't understand this need for online porn. I have also found out that he has subscribed to sexy type chat rooms. He is always home. He is not taking any secret phone calls or leaving me home alone to go out. Maybe it's me, but what is a wife to do? I simply can not compete with all the women in the internet. How should I feel about his having a secret little world?
2006-08-10 01:49:33 · 34 answers · asked by Stephanie W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
talk to him and tell him how it is making you feel seriously babe confront him xx
2006-08-10 01:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is searching for something. Your job is to find out what he wants, what he feels is lacking from your life together and how you can help each other be happy. this will take a lot of communication between you but it is well worth it.
This thing he is looking for is not necessarily sex. If he is always home, why is that? What should he be doing at home, perhaps running his business or looking after the kids? Doesn't he want a job or to go out with his friends? He might simply be bored.
Don't try to 'compete' just try to be understanding and listen to his point of view so you can find a solution together.
2006-08-10 02:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to him without him being emabarassed. From a male point of view, we are always fascinated by porn and the internet is awash with it. Usually it is harmless and it's something most blokes do. Watch out for the chat rooms, though as this may indicate that he's looking to actually meet someone. as far as competing with the internet women, don't worry they are all just imaginarry fantasies. In all seriousness though, you do need to have an honest and open talk with him.
Good luck.
2006-08-10 01:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by voodoobluesman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lets be honest mate. Hows your sex life, he may find something is missing from it, he may like something and you don't like it. He may have a higher sex drive than you. He may feel there is no spark left in your marriage and he wants to flirt on chat rooms. He may feel that you are not as attractive as you were. These are things you need to discuss with him. As for competing with women on the web, its not always the women he may be looking at. It may be their bodies ( of which you should be able to complete with - get yourself to the gym if you are slightly over weight), or the situations they are in. Most likely the situation they are in. Wear nicer clothes etc.. It works both ways. If a male starts to let himself go, puts on weight and starts to wear **** clothes women look elsewhere don't they?
Porn is a release for men. they cannot do the things they fantasise about so they watch it instead.
2006-08-10 02:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy two times 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably needs more from you and won't communicate it with you. So rather then cheat, he is masturbating to online porn. You should be happy. As a man, I think it's because the women just isn't making sex exciting or fun anymore. Why not watch some videos with him and get some ideas on how to spice things up. If you do, maybe he will stop.
2006-08-10 01:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by rab2344 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It'snot how you should feel, but how DO you feel? and let him know!
I think you need to let him know that his secretive behaviour is making you miserable. If he is hiding it, it's very possible that he is addicted to to and then you have a real problem.
Pornography addiction can not only destroy a man's sense of intimacy and effect his emotional responses but it can also decimate your self confidance. The lies that an addiction or compulsion live on are incredibly harmful to your relationship
You must speak to him frankly about it as soon as you can to find out exactly what is leading him to these places of the internet and why he feels compelled to do it.
this may be helpful
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/heartaches_cyberaffairs.shtml
i wish you well
S
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2006-08-10 02:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 06:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by falls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-21 00:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol you are getting spam and welcome to the internet. If this can be a yahoo account there's no doubt about it! I get tons of that crap an I do not need an ex husband! I never aplied for a payday mortgage and i do know all of the free porn web sites.
2016-08-09 10:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by gaudioso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am qualified to answer this unfortunately.
from my experience when a husband chooses to use on line adult sites he may be trying to fulfil a desire he may not have access to within the marriage.
perhaps you might think about your sexual aspect of the relationship and ask yourself if you are satisfied with what you have together .
i am pretty sure he is not so satisfied and even if he is unsure what he wants, he wants something.
dating or chat sites are a total dead loss and the genuine regular users are the ones whom wish to chat instead of having face to face conversations and the weirdos!
the only solution i can suggest is to talk openly about it and if he is willing to open his mouth , hopefully he can share his needs with you. some men pass through a phase in their lives when they may want a more "pornographic" twist to their sex life and i am quite sure men would feel a lot better if their desires are met by their partners.
if it is oral sex he wants, for example give it to him. take control of him. if anything this is an opportunity to deepen the relationship.
in my previous relationship we had a lousy relationship that lead us both to be with other partners and that happened because we did not talk.
good luck
2006-08-10 02:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by viikos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he has ANY secret world is a problem. You don't need to compete with these women. They are there purely for fantasy and thats how most men see it too, when they're not working, their at home looking like the rest of us, with hang-ups of their own. I would be devastated if it happened to me but it's normal to look at porn..just most men grow out of it before they're married...I'd be more concerned about him feeling he has to lie to you. Ask him why he has to decieve you and why he doesn't suggest looking at porn with you instead.
Don't stand for the chat room business though...if he does it again kick him out and well done for snooping him out!
2006-08-10 01:57:46 · answer #11 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋