I am an university student, nearly 20...but I found that I am pregnant few weeks ago, I am too scared to let my mom knows and breaking her heart...baby's father is a student too, should I have a termination..? I really wanna finish my study...and dont wanna be the burden of my love
2006-08-10 01:45:47 · 29 answers · asked by Ms.J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
PLEASE DONT HAVE A ABORTION!!!!! I was 20 when i got pregnant with my daughter and i was in college also ( nursing school...3 -12 hour days a week) and also worked full time(32 hours a week) I did that through having VERY BAD morning sickness then still went to school after having my daughter..only missed 3 days! I'm telling you that if I could do it anyone can! If you need someone to talk to just e-mail me.
2006-08-10 01:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try this site. I have been told many times that terminating a pregnancy is not a good thing for a women emotionally or physically. the woman usually regrets it for the rest of her life.
you can go to school and have children. I am prego right now and i am attending this coming fall semester. I also have 2 kids and work full time. You have more options than you think. There are many couples that would love to adopt a healthy child.
blessed be.
2006-08-10 09:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by hazel eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all abortion is not the way out...you are 20 years old and should be responsible enough to deal with this. As a matter of fact knowing that you are in school and trying to do something with your life...you should have taken the precaution to prevent this...no turning back now. Have your baby, you can either raise it or let someone adopt but do not KILL it just because you did not do what you were suppose to do to prevent this.
2006-08-10 09:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen first of all the baby didn't ask to be conceived, you shouldn't kill this child just because as you say it will be a burden. Honestly not to be or sound rude but you are 20 years old and are fully aware of the consequences of having sex. Furthermore having an abortion increases your chances of never having more children. If you don't want the child give it up for adoption please don't take an innocent life.
2006-08-10 09:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by aratliff06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, see there is nohing to panic about. but u r too young to bear a child at d age of 20 & when u r studying. take the guy in confidence tell him, if u both can talk to ur parents then there should be no problem convince them to accept u. u have nt committed a crime but loved. try to make them understand u. abortion wont be right but talking to parents with each others consent would be better. so talk to each other take the responibility of being adults & then take the decision. dnt let the unborn creature to suffer because of ur negligence.
choice is yours baby or abortion.
abortion is a crime & baby is divine.
all the best
2006-08-10 08:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by i am alive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think of the people in the world that are not fortunate enough to have kids. You can handle this and I am sure your mom will help you any way she can. If you get an abortion can your conscious handle it? And when you are ready for one you may not be so lucky next time. If anything think of adoption, but talk it over with your mate. Trust me kids ARE a blessing YOU are here aren't you. Your parents I am sure think you are a blessing and you have achieved college
2006-08-10 09:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by penny_cowart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to the father about what he thinks is best. There are many day care centers that take care of babies once they have reached a certain age. I am sure there is also a person who works out of their home, babysitting kids, typically these people do not care the age of the child.
Terminating a pregnancy is a horrible thing to do, especially when you are 20 and can probably take care of a baby.
However the choice is yours.
2006-08-10 08:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by crazyy4youu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely talk to your Mom about this. That's what Mom's are for. Sure she may be upset- but in the long run you both will be glad you talked it over with her and decided together what to do. The father should be involved, too.. Good luck!
This happens all the time - it is NOT the end of the world - no matter what you decide to do!
2006-08-10 08:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by verdes0j0s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted to finish Schooling and not be a burden on your love then you should of been more careful while having sex.
This is NOT the babies fault that he/she was created and should NOT be terminated because you were not careful!
I say have the baby. There are plenty of people out there that have 2-5 kids and can still finish School. It's not impossible.
2006-08-10 08:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What if that is the only child you'll have?
Please do not terminate, The're many couples out there who cannot have children and can welcome a child at anytime.
Parents are human, so they do understand this things better than we think. Yes your mom will be disappointed but she'll get over it.
Ask your aunt or close relative to break this to her, that way she'll understand it was a mistake and your ready to take responsibility.
Remember is your choice, just offering advice.
2006-08-10 08:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lomrtb2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋