he 30 im 19
hes got 2 kids one 7 one 4 and a broken marriage, but thats his past i get on well with his kids and i love him so much. why cant they just be happy for me?
2006-08-10 01:39:21 · 19 answers · asked by sarah 22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because your family wants more for you. You've barely stopped being a child, they don't want you to rush into being a mom and skip out on all the stuff in between. What can you possibly have in common? He's grown, you're working on it. Yes the age difference won't matter so much when he's 40 and you're 29, but you're not there yet.
2006-08-10 01:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One can see why your family would be unhappy. You had me with him being 30. I would have said go for it and forget what other say. Follow your heart.
The kids change the scenario. Perhaps you get along so well because you are a kid yourself. You are somewhat on the same level. God help those kids.
The unhappy response you are getting is from experience, age and wisdom. You are young and are strapping yourself down to an older man who has experienced all the firsts in a relationship. You can't experience love and life in itself when you are being guided by this man and all his baggage.
I think it selfish of him to have even started a relationship with you. Did you ever hear the phase "ROBBING THE CRADLE".
You say you are happy but you are just too young to stay in this relationship with those children. You WILL become frustrated and regret yourself, him and those children if you stay in this relationship.
You are only young once, break free and live it!
2006-08-10 08:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god girl he is way to old for you and has kids too!! You need someone younger to start a family with. I could see you dating this guy if you were in you late 20's, but not 19 yrs old. I would think that a 30 yr old man with kids wouldn't be going after some 19 year old. Hopefully he isn't just using you for a good time.
2006-08-10 08:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by little fairy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
well there is a big age difference between u two but if u feel that the relationship will work then go for it.... your family is against it because they probably think that u are too young for the man... they think he might just want to take advantage of u... try to understand them... sit down and talk this calmly with your family, tell them how u feel and don`t get angry at them... if this guy is serious about your relationship ask him if he is willing to talk to your family so that they can see that u both really care for each other...the fact that he has a broken marriage and already has children may be the fact that your family don`t like... talk to them and show them that u are mature enough for such a relationship... but first be sure that the man loves u as much as u love him because it is not worth to go against your family if he only feels lust for u.... be sure of your relationship first before talking with your family...
hope it turns out well for u
take care
2006-08-10 08:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there! I had a 26 year age gap and my parents didnt like it anyway, what made it better was that they knew him. Introduce him to your family, they wont like it at first but if they see that he is a nice guy and that you are happy together they should come round. Chances are they wont but that never stopped me and if your happy then go for it. You are old enough to make your own decisions and mistakes.
At least if it doesn't work out you will know you went with your heart at the time rather than going with your family finishing with him and then regretting it later in life.
Hope it all works out for you
2006-08-12 16:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Natalie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is so short only you know your true feelings for this guy, experiance life and all it offers, follow your heart, dont do what others tell you to they cant live your life for you. If for some reason it does not work out further down the line, hard luck move on and live the rest of your life, dont be frightened, If your family love you they will suport you and in bad times be there for you unconditionaly. be happy.
2006-08-14 05:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by g spotlad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason why your family are so against the relationship because they think he is bad news and is gonna to use you. My sister married a guy 20 years older than her and my mum wasnt pleased at first but soon came around once she got to know him. My sister and her husband have together 5 years now and are very happy.
2006-08-10 08:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult and your family's probably a little old fashioned! Age is a number,it's about mentality darling,you go for it,the age difference would matter if you were 15 and he was 26,but you're not a kid and if it doesn't work you could put it down to experience.
2006-08-10 08:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by lushnut 69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're family are unhappy because they never imagined their daughter would be a mother figure to someone else's kids at the age of 19. but try and see it from your folks perspective, they want you to enjoy your youth and do things that 19 year olds do, not babysitting someone else kids.
2006-08-10 08:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say, but you should try and see someone your age... i kinda had the same problem (i was 14 he was 18) not as severe, but in the jist of i.. its the same... i ended the relationship becasue i hated being in that sort of emotional crisis, like not wanting my family to be mad with me but loving the guy so much that i didnt want to end it.... but i am much happier now, and im glad that i didnt get stuck in that relationship, it hurt at first, but then i realised how stupid i had been... thats just my advice, you might be different, so dont hold it against me.. thanks :)
2006-08-10 08:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋