me and my cheating wife have been apart for3 mounts now she texts calls E mails me every day telling me we all miss you at home (4 kids) I know she is my one true love and I think about her 24-7 but how can I trust her again or go back to my home after another guy has been there
2006-08-10 01:30:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once a cheat............... always a cheat.. I say.
2006-08-10 01:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really tough question. Trouble is that if she's done it once, then most likely she'll do it again. I would arrange to spend time with your children as they still need you, but I would break off the relationship with your wife. If you do try to keep together, you will always be reminded of her infedelity. It will be a very strained relationship, and chances are you will never be able to get things back the way they once were. Stay strong and do what you think is best in your heart.
2006-08-10 08:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can completely understand what you are saying. It would seem like my house is tainted. It would remind me constantly. I don't know that I could be that strong. I have been the cheatee many times and once I was the "other woman" because he conveniently forgot to mention that he was married for 3 months,(no ring mark- nothing) but it ended when I found out. I felt disgusted with myself and it wasn't even my fault. CHEATING IS WRONG! I don't care how much a person swears to change. They obviously don't have any morals or they wouldn't have done it in the first place.
2006-08-10 10:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by cabinfeverjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. First you need to forgive her. You won't forget though. I would sugest moving to a new place if you don't want to be in that home with her anymore. My husband and I are now back together and doing great. I still have trust issues, but we are working on them together. Give it a shot, if you love her. It will take time and hard work to get back to where you once were. You may also want to think about marriage counseling.
2006-08-10 08:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by jrs71201 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two really love each other, you can make it work. Try a marriage counselor. You have to get past the infidelity tho. Try not to hold onto that b/c it will kill the relationship. It will be hard at first until you can get past all of the hurt but it needs to all come out b4 you can make things better. You both have to admit your faults, realize that you both did things wrong and go from there. It can work but its a tough road. Good luck!!!
2006-08-10 08:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheat always a cheat thats what a women would say about a man if he cheated on her.no you should just move on cuz there is no love if she is with another man.plus she moved him in then she should keep him.its not worth the pain but always be there for your kids
2006-08-10 08:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your wife back, start attending a Christian church and make God the Head of your hearts and home, serve God and faithfully and if you follow His instructions in the Book (the Bible), you won't believe what He can do with your marriage!
2006-08-10 08:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by john w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier to forgive then to forget. Only you know what you can and cannot deal with. If you've forgiven her and really want her back, moving to a another home and throwing out the old bed is your only option.
2006-08-10 08:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it will never work my husband(ex) cheated i tried going back 3 times every time he left the house it was 30 questions. and we have two kids. if she loved you she wouldn't have cheated. so why would you love someone who doesn't want to love you back?
2006-08-10 08:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by sexione 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did she cheat? tread cautiously and if you cant let go don't go back because your resentment will stop any development but be there for the kids good luck
2006-08-10 09:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by trythis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive her and enjoy. life is too short and precious to waste. Your golden era of life will pass and you will regret everything. To punish the cheater is job of God. Your kids love you, for sake of them please return to home
2006-08-10 08:38:35 · answer #11 · answered by arooon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋