Was anyone ever molested by an older sibling? If so, how did it affect your life? Are you O.K. now?

Question

Please HELP... I am a 20 year old girl who's going through a very rough time in my life right now... Could use all the advice I can get... The above question explains my childhood. Has anyone out there gone through this horrible situation as a child? What was the age difference between you & your sibling? When did you 1st come out with it? Has anyone pursued legal action against your aggresser, & if so, what was the outcome? How has if affected you and/or your family?

Answer 1

boy,funny you ask this...and all jokes of my avatar etc.aside.
i just started counseling this week for this. when i was young, too young to really remember how things started, i had two older 1/2 brothers. they had sex with me until i was older & they moved out. my parents & whole family didn't believe me. but, tell me, how can you not believe a child when she says "steve peed on my tummy". i can't believe some parents.
as i got older, my dad did stuff to me when my mom left him. i was about 13.
i also had an uncle, 2 strangers (at different times), a grandma, and probably others that i just can't remember.
how have i turned out?? well, i'm a hoarder. i spend money like mad. i'm disorganized. i'm untrusting. i feel like everyone is looking at me, or talking behind my back. i don't have many friends...hardly any. i never had friends in school. i was made fun of all of the time. i was put in a foster home when i was 11 because my mom broke my nose. i was later put in a group home at 16 for what my dad did 3 years earlier. i have only had sex with people that i actually chose to myself with only about 7 guys...and i'm in my mid 30s.
please get help...my therapist said that mine's ready to blow. i cry about 3 times a day now...everything makes me cry.
just know, as i'm sure people tell you, it wasn't your fault. no one has a right to take those things from you.
i don't think i could pursue legal action on my dad...i do love him. but my brothers....oh my god yes. the trauma that i had...and i wasn't close so it wouldn't be a problem. YOU have to decide what you can handle. is it worth it to put these people through legal action? what are your fears that they will do it to some other child? i can't pursue now, because it's been so many years, 20+. so you need to sort that out. i know you're scared...but think about some other child that you may be saving from going through what you're going through right now...if you could save another child from rape, agony, trust issues, loss of innocense....just by taking legal action...would you? YOU are the one who holds the power...not them...trust me on that.
you can email if you'd like to talk.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

The road ahead of you will be challenging. While no two families are alike, there are some common trends.

Here are some links addressing your questions:

http://www.childwelfare.gov/

http://www.prevent-abuse-now.com/stats.htm