My best friend and I have been friends for 13 yrs, I'm 25, she's 26. We have always been like sisters, but for the last few yrs our friendship has been different. I don't feel that I can trust her. If I say it's somebody's birthday, she'll say oh yeah, I forgot and then try to outdo me with presents or try to call that person first. If we go shopping and I don't have any money, but I say that something is cute, she will buy it. She will also lie on me to get info from other people or she will try to make me look bad, but she does it in a way that doesn't seem like it. Anytime I am doing bad, she is right in my corner, but if I am doing good, she will separate herself from me. I used to tell her a lot of my business because she gives good advice, but I found out that she was telling others my business. She will give me money and she even gave me her old car when she got a new one, but it's like it's nothing to her, what I want is to be able to trust her. What do you think?
2006-08-10 00:29:52 · 5 answers · asked by caramel_angelkiss 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have already tried talking to her about this and she actually stopped talking to me, so I apologized to her (because I missed her and I didn't have any one else at that point in my life), even though I had nothing to apologize for.
She was very quick to let the friendship go because she said that she could not take the accusations.
When I apologized, she was still hesitant to be my friend and now she is saying that she values our friendship so much. So I haven't talked to her about it again.
2006-08-10 01:06:37 · update #1
Wow 13 years is along time to be friends. It sounds to me that your friend might have had some of these qualities long ago and because you are getting older and more mature you are realizing that she isn't the person you thought she was. She may also be depressed and not happy with her own life so she gets satisfaction out of giving others things and helping them through THERE pain because there own is to much to deal with. She might need anti-depressants.
2006-08-10 00:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by nickychute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you need to do is talk to her about your concerns. She probably doesn't even realise what she is doing to you. You have been friends for way to long to just turn your back on her. Every relationship goes through a sticky patch, but you need to work on it and you might even come out at the other end with a stronger bond. Please don't let things become messy unnecessarily. This is obviously worrying you greatly, and you should express this to her.
2006-08-10 07:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by amzalama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her tell her everything you feel and sit and listen to her side of the story, because if you dont things will just manifest and blow up and you could lose your friend forever.
2006-08-10 07:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet_Miss_Toni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i really don't know...but i think you should give her a call and talk to her tell her everything you feel ....every thing that you wrote to us to give you advise...tell her every single detail...and she will hopefully understand...and yah will become friends again...but if you don't talk to her and you just leave it be you will loose your best friend forever...and i don't think you want that.....
GOOD LUCK...
2006-08-10 07:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by shy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds annoying but she gives u free stuff. im gonnna have to say no on this one.
2006-08-10 07:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by supraman126 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋