I'm bi and I'm male.
once upon a time I had a gay partner and I used to sleep with him and I was badly in love with him and I enjoyed being with him.
but we broke up.
now when I watch gay men getting together it makes me sick and I feel like I hate gay.what has happened to me?
I used to enjoy myself but now I REALLY hate it.
2006-08-10 00:22:48 · 19 answers · asked by dark_mad_shadow 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Now I just feel like I love to date a girl only.
2006-08-10 00:54:59 · update #1
Thank God!!!
You woke up & since you are no longer being poisoned by being in that kind of relationship... You see that lifestyle for what it is.. an un natural, sickness, a perversion!
See you were NOT born gay.!!! ..
You have CHOSEN NOT to live that kind of destructive, un natural, lifestyle....Your Eyes are Opened!
Unlike when you chose to get into it...You were sorta in the dark about the whole thing.
Now you see.. Thank God!
Nothing bad has happened to you!
You have turned away from your sinful lifestyle.
That is GREAT!
You are normal & have morals now!
If your friends don't like it & don't support you living a
normal, natural, life... Then they are not your friends!
Dude,,, THIS IS A GOOD THING!!! I hope you can see that.
Just think about it!
Now that you got out of the "alternative, acceptance, tolerance" Crowd... Get with the program.. Get with God. You will not Regret it.
God Bless You
I am truly happy for you :)
2006-08-10 00:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by Joeysol'lady 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you are still grieving the loss of your partner... it is very common for people of all sexual identities who experience a loss of a partner to be completely turned off by anyone else... especially another guy in your case... because its a reminder of what you had with him... and being with a woman... its a whole different world... so there's no real physical or emotional connection to the feelings you had while you were intimate with him... Your strong emotional reactions of hatred towards gay guys signals unresolved issues of grief which obviously has resulted from the loss of your partner when the relationship ended..
It may have been a phase but it doesn't look that way to me...
You might try and find a local therapist or counselor to speak with a couple times a month for a few months or so... I think it would help
2006-08-10 07:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bisexuals frequently go back and forth -- this is not uncommon. I've known several that did it. Other bisexuals tend toward both at all times. Some bisexuals actually have one or the other sets of feelings fade completely.
My partner of nearly 15 years now is/was bisexual. After he decided to stay with me permanently (which he did not do until our 7th year, and which I never pushed) his interest in women faded away to nothing.
For bisexuals, some of them anyway, there really is choice. It's just that gays and straights don't get to choose.
As long as you don't hate gay PEOPLE -- what you feel at any given time about gay sex is immaterial.
Be at peace.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-08-10 09:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will you achully cared so much about him when you watch GAY guy's or anything BI guy's it will remind you of him and you will feel sick but the best way I will look at is it try and get over him because I remembered I had a boyfriend and we broke-up I didn't eat for like 3 day's only drank water I was terrible sick... Then I guess I started too talk with my people's again and I found another guy so my suggestion is too just got to get over it and move on =|
2006-08-10 07:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is that regardless of whether you are with a man or a woman you still risk getting your heart broken. When your soul mate comes into your life you will know it and won't care whether they are in a man's body or a woman's body. Your soul mate will love you unconditionally in return. Just be open to that! Who cares what body they come in!
2006-08-10 14:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hate the reminder of what you had with him and it's poisoned your outlook. Like Bearable wrote, time'll cure all things. You are Bi so, male or female, when Cupid next strikes I'm sure this will all be forgotten.
2006-08-10 09:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A broken heart is what makes life so wonderful five years later, when you see the guy in an elevator and he is fat and smoking a cigar and saying long-time-no-see.
Phyllis Battelle
Time heals everything matey boy or girl in the end doesnt matter,just be happy ...hugs
2006-08-10 07:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by Bearable 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you are just disgusted for how wronged you felt from that break up. You need to explore what it really is inside of you that make you sick?! What about it gets you upset!? DO you wish it was you Happy and together?! We all enter relationships hoping for the best nothing is guaranteed, its the price to pay for not being alone!
2006-08-10 07:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by david s 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
a broken heart will turn you off to a lot of things. Give it some time for your heart to heal. You'll be back to normal
2006-08-10 10:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Words from God:Leviticus 18:22 (Whole Chapter)
You shall not lie with a man as with a woman; it is an abomination.
2006-08-10 07:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋