is giving birth painfull?

Question

im 8 weeks pregnant and im really stressed out ALREADY because im not a good one with the whole pain thing. for woman who have been through labour, is there anything more painfull? and is there anything that you did to ease the pain during labour. thankyou...

Answer 1

I have had 3 births:
1) without an epidural
2) with a partially effective epidural
3) with a fully effective epidural

After birth (1), I can definitely say that giving birth is the worst pain possible. However, Lemaze really does help a lot. You still feel the incredible pain, but you are able to live with it. Still, it took me two years to recover emotionally from this birth.

After birth (2), I can say that even a partially effective epidural is better than none. Lemaze came in handy here, too.

After birth (3), I can say that childbirth is the most wonderful miracle! If you're feeling no pain, you can enjoy every moment of the birth.

To summarize: Do not be a hero -- there is nothing wrong with having an epidural. It is your body, and only you can decide whether you need or want an epidural.
There is no "superior" birth, and "natural" does NOT equal superior.
No one has the right to judge your birth. It is yours to enjoy or suffer through as you choose.

Good luck, and thank God for epidurals!

BTW: I'd like to point out that your pains do not miracullously disappear after the baby is born. Smaller contractions continue for the next several days, to enable the uterus to shrink back down to its normal size. You might need pain killers for this.
Also important: bonding with your baby might not happen immediately. This is a myth.

Often enough, a woman expects automatic bonding and pain relief after birth, and then she is sorely disappointed by reality. She may feel like a failure, like she is not a proper woman or mother.
It is important to realize that automatic bonding and pain relief are a myth, so that you do not judge yourself unfairly. I did not know this after my first birth, and as a result I sunk into depression, full of guilt at my "failure".
I hope this information helps you avoid such suffering.

Answer 2

Yes giving birth is painful, but there is a procedure called an epidural that is the greatest thing every invented for women. It is a shot that is administered into your spine, that numbs your abdominal area just enough to slightly feel the contractions but certainly eases the pain. I highly recommend it! I had 12 hours of labor, and for 10 hours out of the 12 I had absolutely no pain. During the two hours of pain, a woman's body has a mechanism that is pretty amazing. As the pain of the contractions continue your body adjusts to that pain. You actually get used to the labor pains. Now there is an exception, if you have to be induced by either having your water broken, or having to take medication to start the contractions your body does not have time to adjust, and that is when you will feel the most pain. Once the contractions start and time goes on, your body will adjust and the pain will ease.Nothing feels better, than when the birth is over, and you get relief. Remember, ever birth is different.

Answer 3

Well you aren't exactly squeezing something as big as a baby through a hole the size of a lemon like one guy said. Your cervix is dilated to a full 10cm *in normal childbirth* I am sure natural childbirth does hurt but you can opt for an epidural. Keep in mind an epidural is pretty much a morphine shot right in the spine. So the chances of feeling much pain after that is minimal. I am pregnant with my first child so I haven't actually done it yet but every mother I have talked to said contractions are only like a really bad cramp until you get the epidural and once you get that it's not bad at all. Good luck with the baby I am sure you will do just fine..

Answer 4

I don't think there is anything more painful. With my first child I tried the Lamaze breathing thing....for about one contraction. It did not help, so I started meditating. That helped a lot. My husband said I even smiled through a couple of the contractions. With my second child I knew to meditate from the beginning. Ofcourse, I have been meditating since I was a child, and I do not know how helpful it would be to someone with less meditation experience. If you are too terrified, you might want to consider an epidural. I wish you well!

Answer 5

My sister recently had her first baby, and she was really worried about the labor process, too.
Afterward, she said it was not nearly as bad as she thought it would be. She said it was like really bad period cramps, up until the very end, and then it was just a bit more painful. She had a natural childbirth, too. No pain meds at all!
To ease the pain, you can always get an epidural which completely numbs everything past the waist.
Hope this helps!

Answer 6

I must have been lucky, because the contractions were quite uncomfortable, but that was only as bad as it got. I didn't have any of the unbearable, feels like your insides are on fire, type of pain everyone describes. Felt nothing when pushing, and when delivering. No drugs or anything at all. Apparently this is rare to happen, I'm guessing? But like with any other pain, it's one of those things you know will be over eventually, you will live through it, and forget all about it.

Answer 7

I was in labor for 24 hours before they finally decided to do a C-section. That was 35 years ago and I know I was hurting because my husband said so. But to tell the truth, I can't remember the "pressure" to this day after looking at my son for the first time. Just remember to pant like a dog when that "pressure" comes, like you see in the movies. Bless you and your child, I know you'll both come though this wonderful time with flying colors! They say that passing a kidney stone is the worst pain, and all you get is a tiny stone!

Answer 8

I did 4 times, you can do it too. Ask for an epidural, it makes it 90% painless. If you really want to know what it feels like--- pull on both sides of your mouth until it feels like it is going to tear, and then keep on pulling it. That is the God's honest truth, if you don't have an epidural.The contraction part feels like the worst cramps you have ever had, and the pushing part hurts the most. Just like I explained in that exercise with your mouth.But, it is so worth it. If it was too awful the human race would have died out long ago. I slammed a door on my finger- and I think that may have hurt worse. I hated the pregnancy part more than the labor part-- the labor is a breeze compared to the 9 months of discomfort!

Answer 9

yes it is painful... but nothing you should really stress about.

The doctors will be there and they have all sorts of pain management help.

The pain is intense but you are so focussed on your baby it becomes secondary on the importance scale. You want that baby out so you can see it.

I recommend you ask for a mirror. sounds gross I know but it really helps with the motivation once you see the head. Pain is forgotten and you have a mission!

don't stress, enjoy the pregnancy! Go and hire a video of child birth.... yes she is in pain during labour ... but then look at the mother's face afterward... hopefully that will give you peace of mind.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Stick it out. Giving birth to a child is an experience that can never be adequately expressed by words. Yes, you would feel pain, you will feel stressed out. You will have to sleep on some specified posture, cut out on a lot of Junk foods that U love, depend on others for even the simplest of tasks. But, when you see your beloved child, nothing ever matters. All this pain will seem like the snow under the sun. The joy of seeing your child will wipe out the entire memories of pain.

Dont worry, just 24 more to go..... Best Wishes for a Normal delivery and an Angel to decorate your home.