how do you meet gay men who dont want people to know there gay?

Answer 1

in gay bars

Answer 2

Are you out for sex, or friendship and community?

Please avoid risky behavior like cruising in public restrooms, parks, and sex shops. If you do not live near any gay bars or near any towns that have LGBT organizations where you can get information or contacts, use Internet sites like gaydar or Yahoo Personals -- though you will probably not have any luck with that unless you put good pics of yourself on your page. A lot of closeted (and married) guys use the Internet (and of course gay clubs).

Without Internet sites and LGBT places, another thing may work, depending on how good you look (and how clean you look and smell). If you have a nice body and decent looks, when the weather permits you can go about (where permitted) without a shirt or otherwise half-dressed. Use deodorant but skip the fragrances. If your physique needs some work, then cut out sugary and fatty foods, drink a lot more water, get a LOT of physical activity, and transform yourself. Once you get fit, act friendly but be very masculine, and you will soon detect who is chatty with you. Never mention any women, and note who also does not mention them.

Among the guys who REALLY want to get to know you are some men who are in the closet. Form friendships, and do guy stuff together where it is normal to be half-dressed (working on cars, drinkin' on the porch after work, playing one-on-one sports or working out, camping, cutting wood, etc.), and show yourself off. If you can, shuck your jeans and wear very skimpy briefs. At a gym or after working in the woods or on cars, hit the shower at the same time. Outdoors or at a bar when someone needs a whiz, say you do too, join him, and really open your pants, standing angled toward him (look around at different things while talking, so that you can look directly his way too). If the weather is hot and you live in a rural area, invite him to find a swimming hole in a nice creek and go skinny-dippin'. Dry off in the sun naked.

Um, sorry, I get carried away. You can figure it out. It just takes some time and a lot of getting acquainted.

Answer 3

Luck of the draw, my friend. Also, hang around with girls that have only one or two guys in their group of friends. You generally meet gay guys easier that way because females are sometimes more accepting when they start coming out on small scales. Gay bars are usually REALLY full of gay guys who are totally out and are looking for a hook-up. It's usually pretty random. I'd say come hang out with me because I am the gay guy magnet, but most of my friends are out. lol

Answer 4

umm Im guessing if they dont want you to know they are gay, its for a reason... and if there is any place you will be able to find them at all... my guess its gonna be by living life and meeting people... getting to know them earning their trust and them telling you in time..

Answer 5

What? Reread and see if this your discombobulated words make sense. And it's "they're," NOT "there." And if they don't want people to know they are gay, then you won't know!

Answer 6

In the closet. www.closetqueen.com

Answer 7

How stupid are you?
If they don't want you to know they're gay, you respect their privacy and not bother them!!

Answer 8

duh... you can try a gay bar or something... but i think it is time to come out of the closet... i mean i guess you already have in a way. lol

Answer 9

Good question?

Answer 10

i dont know whereabouts are you hiding matey....lol