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In the past few years i commited some grave mistakes of which i am really embarassed and ashamed of. When i think as to what the people must be thinking of me gets me more upset. Usually i dont have the habit of discussing my personal problems outside but i have done it two or three times and now idont like it.Wht to do?

Answer 1

Sam, Whatever your mistakes were, in recognising them as mistakes and wanting to change. You are on your way to wholeness. We don't know who your mistakes hurt. I do know that you are hurt and in need of healing.

When we make mistakes, It usually sounds like a good idea at the time.

If you are a Catholic, please go to confession. It is the most healing experience you can have. Often after confession I feel light like my feet don't even touch the ground.

If you are Christian or another religion, Follow what you do to be reconciled to God and to the people you may have hurt.

If you weren't raised in a faith, A councillor will help answer some of your concerns.

Remember, It's not where you start it's where you finish.

Some of the Greatest Saints committed some horrible sins.
God is always there waiting for you to come back to Him.

Keep taking steps in the right direction.
The song, Amazing Grace

Amazing Grace

"Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me....
I once was lost but now am found,
Was blind, but now, I see.

T'was Grace that taught...
my heart to fear.
And Grace, my fears relieved.
How precious did that Grace appear...
the hour I first believed.

Through many dangers, toils and snares...
we have already come.
T'was Grace that brought us safe thus far...
and Grace will lead us home.

The Lord has promised good to me...
His word my hope secures.
He will my shield and portion be...
as long as life endures.

When we've been here ten thousand years...
bright shining as the sun.
We've no less days to sing God's praise...
then when we've first begun.

"Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound,
That saved a wretch like me....
I once was lost but now am found,
Was blind, but now, I see.

It is God's Grace, God Calling you which helps you to see your mistakes. Resist the urge to defend yourself. Your healing is waiting for you.

God Bless You, ;-)

Answer 2

The first thing is that it is really really good that you realize what your faults/mistakes are. I don't suggest staying in a miserable state since we all have made silly mistakes that we're embarrassed and perhaps ashamed of. Here are my suggestions to you:

- If one of your mistakes involved doing something wrong to someone, get in contact with them to offer a sincere apology (unless you have already done so). Regardless of when the event occured, a late apology is better than no apology at all. You can preface your apology by saying, "I am incredibly embarrassed for taking so long to do this, but I'm sorry for ____. I didn't mean to (do whatever) to you, I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me." If the person forgives, great. If they don't fine - you did your part, now you can just move on.

- I think a lot of mistakes are made because people don't think things through well enough. This is normal since things often happen at a fast pace. Try to remember to take your time and focus on being as graceful as you can in any situation. Don't overdo it to the point that you can't enjoy yourself, but when you think positively you're more apt to doing things the right way the first time.

Ok, I'm done - this wasn't mean to be an essay. Remember you will continue to make mistakes, but hopefully they will always be new ones (you learn from the old ones, remember?) Good luck.

Answer 3

Listen we ALL have done some really stupid things in our lives that we regret. It's called living and growing up. The important thing is that you learn from your mistakes and try not to make them a second time.

I wouldn't harp on the fact you have made mistakes in your life. You gotta look and move forward all the time. Don't get caught up in your past it will only slow you down. Just remember your past enough to learn from it...but don't beat yourself up over it. Life is learning and you will always be learning and making new mistakes.


Can't let it bother you so much....this is how I look at it and it's seems to help me. For one don't be so judge mental on yourself and other ppl....try to except yourself and others the way they are. That doesn't mean be naive...just excepting and letting bygones be bygones. Secondly, I always think that there's someone out there that has done or will do something more stupid than I just did.....and they are O.K. So if all these ppl are walking around (and there's ALOT of ppl on the face of this earth) and making mistakes and they seem to be O.K. then I should be too and just move on with your life.

Answer 4

I've made some pretty embarrassing mistakes myself. I just make it a habit to keep my personal issues to myself, that way I don't have to worry about anyone judging me. I confide in one or two very close friends, but the rest of the world doesn't need to know everything about me. If you live in a small community, you might have to move away to get a fresh start; that's what I wound up having to do. Most people really don't care about your past, though. You are just so worried about it that you feel like everyone is judging you. Take a deep breath, and relax. Over time, chances are, people won't even remember what happened.
Hope this helps!

Answer 5

there are no mistakes in life... see, whatever happens, bad or good, has to happen in that way. I never watch back to search for mistakes I've done... i search for lessons I've got. So should you.
I wouldn't be there where i am right now, without those so called mistakes... it means i was doing right. Probably you realized something, that most people will never be able to understand even. And it is a part of your destiny. You experience right now a transformation of your self, handle it as something sacred. This is a spiritual death and rebirth... and your life, your mistakes brought you to this point. Nothing happens without sense...

Answer 6

What's done is done and you cannot get back what ever you have said or done no matter what. One thing for sure is that you can be more careful in the future and don't bother about what others may think of you cause it will not help you to come up in life. Be positive of yourself, believe in what you do, put your past behind and go forward.

Answer 7

i would say face it. Sometimes we don't like what we have done in the past, but hey it is there and nobody can change that . I would say look back at you errors and learn about them. Yeap you probably were not the best person in those days but I am sure that you learned something. Don't talk about them with shame, instead show the other people that you are learned from your past and that just made you grow stronger. We cannot change our past, but we can use it in a positive way to learn from it.

Answer 8

Don't worry about the past,we all have made mistakes in the past,some worse than others and don't worry about what they may be thinking, they have probably got some one else to talk about by now,just show them your good traits and they will soon forget your past if they haven't already.

Answer 9

No matter what you think youv'e done that's so terrible someone's done worse. The difference is you won't make those same mistakes again. Don't be so hard on yourself, your'e allowed to make mistakes, it gives you an edge

Answer 10

it's has happened to me as well, according to our friend Dr.Freud you need to talk about your trouble and the symptoms should disappear. yes, but actually you need to talk about it with someone you don't know at all, and won't see this person in your everyday life anymore. the problem I've had is to confessing to wrong people , people i know and see everyday. so i can easily understand your discomfort, you just chose the wrong people to talk about your privet troubles. next time you would find someone you'll never see again, which is good thing....