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Question

Ok, here is the thing! Nobody please do not judge me please! Ok just to let yall know, I am a christian and I knew better to not do this! On July 18th, my friend and I went to these guys house who were 19,20,and 21. Well we started drinking with them, and I got drunk. I started making out with the 19 year old, and then later he left. Well then I started making out with the 20 year old. We went into his room and I think we did "it". But I am not sure. I kinda think we did because he told me that night that i wouldn't remember him because i was too drunk. And he was right I don't know if we did or not! I was way too drunk... I have been worried that I may be pregnant. I feel so ashamed because i am a christian, and i am supposed to set an example for others. I have asked for Jesus's forgiveness, and I know he has forgiven me, but it is really hard to forgive myself... Can anybody help me? Please I am in desperate need of help! I am only 15!!!

Answer 1

Honey...Christians mess up, we're human. Good girls are not the exception. You made a couple bad decisions, drinking and messing around. But first, they were19 and 20 years old. Guys at that age pretty much have sex on the brain and messing around with a girl of 15 is illegal in most states. You put yourself smack dab in the middle of a bad and possibly dangerous situation. What I hope you learn is not to put yourself in one like that again.

I am assuming that you are/where a virgin. Did you have any blood on your underwear or pants? If so, that is a good indication that sex happened. When a virgin has sex, the "Hymen" gets broken and you bleed. If you didn't have blood, it is possible that you didn't have sex. If your not sure, take a pregnancy test if you should miss your period. Adults activities are for adults. Kids try so hard to grow up when older people try so hard to stay young.

Lastly, You are forgiven! Try to understand that you are going to make some bad decisions in your life as you get older. But living a Christian life will help you make smarter choices. Learn to forgive yourself and learn from this mistake. Never put yourself into another situation that could possibly harm you. Please do not drink again until you are ready and of age. And please don't ever again "give" yourself away. You are God's child. You deserve the best of this life and you need to know who you are in God. You are the apple of his eye.

Forgive yourself, protect yourself and pray. Be Blessed!

Answer 2

First thing is first.

Go down do local clinic, plannedparenthood for example, and get tested for std's and pregnancy. You don't know these guys and who else they been with.

Then you need to contact your friend and ask her what she remembers.

Then you need to contact the 20 year old and ask him.

I would report him as rape if he admitted to it. Two counts of rape which is Statutory rape and rape under the influence of substance.

20 year old adult knows better than to take advantage of a 15 year old girl under the influence of alcohol.

If he won't admit and there is no "evidence" to you being raped (some date rape victims experienced being "sore", "pressure" like feeling in their vaginal location and any fluids like se.men) then you really won't know unless you can "remember" flash backs later on. However, what is done is done and sometimes things are left a mystery for a reason.

As for you and your belief, that is all you can do about that. If you were a virgin before going over there, it is in question if you are still until you find out and have evidence of being sexually assaulted. You didn't consent and any sex acts that wasn't consent is called rape. Rape isn't your fault. You were naive. but not at fault for any sexual acts you didn't consent to.

You need to be WISE and NEVER repeat this again. You could of got hurt and more in trouble.

I am a Christian. However, I was a teen. I done my fair share of stupid things. I was 15 when I first got drunk at a friends house and the guy was 20 too. We only made out but I am glade that other people showed up because he was asking to take me in his room. I was too drunk to verbally correspond. When we got word the cops were coming, we all left (adults providing alcohol to minors is a Felony too). Which was a good thing because if those people didn't come in, no telling what would of happened.

My ex boyfriend (who I thought I could trust) fondled me while I was passed out drunk when I got drunk to "feel good". (very depressed time in my life. I rarely drink!). It carries me through the last few years. Something I have to learn to live with and learn to accept. Also, never to allow it again.

You made a bad judgment call. We all will have bad judgment calls no matter what age, race, gender or religion.

What you did in past makes who you are in the present. But the person you are in the present doesn't mean that is who you must be in the future.

You have the power to change now so you can be better prepared and happy in future.

Goodluck hun.

Answer 3

You should do a pregnancy test that you can buy at a drug store.
You can ask the pharmacist about how reliable they are and whether you need to see a doctor to make absolutely sure.

I'm a Christian also and I know what you mean about having a hard time forgiving your self. I think that if your not pregnant, when you find that out you will feel less guilty. When I feel guilty because I did something that was not only a sin but the consequenses could be very hard to deal with, my fear of the consequences feels a lot like guilt. I worry whether God will be merciful or whether I will have to suffer the consequences of my actions.

I will pray for you and know that God loves you just as much as
He always has. You need to also get checked out for possible STDs. I believe that in every city of any sise that you can get a free HIV check that is confidential. You can get tested anytime
but you can catch HIV and not show positive for up to a year.

I used to work as a R.N. in a hospital and twice had an accidental
exposure to blood or body fluids. The hospital made me (I was glad to) get a HIV test every 3 mos with the last one 12 mos after the exposure.

You have found out that when you have too much to drink that it is much easier for someone to take advantage of you. I don't know what state you live in but in Minnesota, the man who had sex with you woud be guilty of both statutory rape and forcible rape. I think that would be true in most states.It would be rape because if you were too drunk to remember if you had sex, then you were too drunk to give consent to sex.

If you are pregnant, you will have to tell your parents. I don't know your parents or your relationship with them, but if I were your father, I would want you to tell me in any case, so that I could give you the love and support you need at this time. God bless you.

Answer 4

Oh, honey, those guys were SOB's. If anything sexual happened, the 20 year-old is responsible. That experience must have been really scary for you--unfortunately, it's pretty common. So don't give yourself a hard time: concentrate on taking care of yourself, like you deserve! As far as pregnancy goes: take a home ept test. If it's positive, you will need to see an ob/gyn to make sure that the test was right. Planned Parenthood can do that free and confidential. But the truth is, you can't do this by yourself. Whether or not you are pregnant, you need to see a doctor to make sure that you're physically okay--no STD's, etc. Now, listen: I'm 19, and my family is Christian, and my mom raised me knowing better than to have sex or get drunk and all that. If what happened to you happened to me, I'd be scared to tell her. But just this month, I was in a similar situation. I went to this guy's apartment, and he started smoking pot and acting crazy. I was scared to death when he started doing that, and I froze up. He was talking dirty and being sexual with me. Long story short: I got out just in time. I wasn't going to tell my mom, but I did. I was so embarrassed and ashamed that I'd gotten myself into that situation. But she wasn't mad at me: she was furious at the guy, and she made sure I was okay. Everybody makes mistakes, and I bet your parents know that. Tell an adult you trust, and they can help make sure you're okay. If you're too scared to tell your parents, think of someone else to tell. Maybe one of your friend's mothers, or an aunt or grandmother, or a woman in your church? Having been in a similar experience, I know how scary it is: no one expects you to handle stuff like this by yourself! It wasn't your fault. Please talk to someone, okay? Wish I could give you a hug. :(
Another thing: if you want to know whether you actually had intercourse with the guy, an ob/gyn can usually tell you that after a pelvic exam. After intercourse (the first time), a woman's hymen breaks. That's something inside your vagina that's stretched tight until you have intercourse. When it breaks, you usually have light bleeding for a little while afterwards. But anyway, a doctor could solve that part of the mystery for you. *hugs*

Answer 5

Since your 15, I would suggest telling your mom you need to go to the doctor (give a fake reason) and then while your seeing the doctor, ask her if she can find out if your still a virgin or not. They can tell whether your hymen has been torn or not. That's probably the best way to find out, especially since there is patient/doctor confidentiality. I hope this helps!
As far as forgiving yourself - everyone makes mistakes & I know alot of people your age that have done things they consider stupid & it's just one of those regrets that you are supposed to learn from & never do again.

Answer 6

Just because you're a Christian doesn't make you any better than the rest of us, so stop with the bullshit. You got drunk, you screwed around, and now you might be pregnant, it's your own damn fault. Get a pregnancy test, or ask the guy, and go from there.

Answer 7

Everythings happen for a reason..nobody is born to be perffect...like you i also did that sin and the difference is im not drunk and he's my bf..im only 16 that time...i regret that things and now that im 19 i cant still forgive myself...my bf dumped and i feel really devastated. in your situation i cant blame cause you are in the level of weakness and being drunk..ask help to your friend..have faith in god and promise yourself that you wouldnt do it again unless you are on the right age and your making it with rhe right person and in the right time.

Answer 8

Well you did learn one thing that all christians learn, how to fill yourself with guilt.
If you did truly repent, then God says your transgressions(sin) are as far from east as west. What does that mean--if you are facing west, where is east--Behind you. Forgotten. and if you keep bringing them up to Him then you are telling Him that you don't Believe, in Him or that. Get it. I'ts over, past.
So lose the guilt if you've truly repented and have sworn not to repeat it.

Now all you can do is live in the present, and wait and see if your period starts.

And if it doesn't deal with it like an adult. If God has blessed you with a child, well than, dare i say--God Bless.

Worrying won't change a thing, it never has.

You are not in desperate need of help, not yet and maybe never.

Answer 9

I agree, please ask the young man if you had sex with him. Then, I know you prolly don't wanna hear this because you're already nervous but please take safety measures now. You have to save to buy a pregnancy test asap. You might want to ask a parent to take you to a doctor too so you can get tested for STDs. Also, if you need to, talk to a counselor at school or someone you're comfortable with about what has happend so you can start to feel better.

Answer 10

first off HOLY CRAP your only fifteen ,although i dont believe in any religion (but i was raised christian) i was tought that jesus forgives us ALL no matter what you do you can ask for forgivness and u must learn to forgive yourself cuz **** happens. and for the u think ur pregnant part go see your family doctor and confess to him and let him run a pregnancy test on you if ur pregnant get an abortion if ur not well good for u