Can best frnds be lovers ???

Question

Hiya to one & all
OK here's my prob and I'd like only honest answers
I have been good frnds with a girl in my class for the last 2 yrs
Since we were the best debaters of ur school we always got to go to competitions together and thus got to know each other very well
We know each other so well that we can almost predict each others emotions & thoughts
Now this girl is he one who likes hot dudes and I'm not exactly Mr. Hercules
She always likes to be in the limelight
She's had a break up with her boyfrnd of 2 yrs 2 months ago & is saying that she doesn't want to have anything to do with boys anymore
Problem is that in 2 months I might have to leave my country to study abroad
However I once want to tell her what I feel bout her
I can't live all my life with the regret of not having her no my feelings
Do u think that is a good idea ????
And if u say yes then when should I tell her?? right now or when I'm about to leave
I really love this girl and haven't looked at another for 2 yrs
Help!

Answer 1

never

Answer 2

All good boyfriends/girlfriends/wives/husbands ARE your best friend. If you're not friends with the one you love, it's not gonna work out.

Some problems that arise, though, out of friends who begin to date is what happens if it doesn't work out.
If one or both partners are immature, then that's the end of it all. End of the relationship, end of the friendship.
Same thing goes for approaching her... if she's not mature enough to take the compliment and respond accordingly (gently let you down and not freak out over your feelings, or accept it if she's for it) or if you're not mature enough to handle a let down, that'll end the friendship right there without even dating.

Another thing to consider is your leaving the country. If the two of you are meant to be, the distance and temporary time apart won't hurt the relationship (although, that's not to say it wouldn't be hard on ya). However, distance is a true test of love... if one or both of you can't handle it, that's another clear sign it won't work in the long run, even if you weren't leaving the country and were still close to each other.

Also... just as I said she would have to be mature about it and not freak out over the compliment and gently let you down if she didn't feel the same, you have to give her that opportunity. You can't act like you have no feelings for her and then all of sudden come on strong - that might just make her freak out anyway, no matter how mature she may be, it could be too much too fast for her. So I certainly wouldn't recommend the last minute idea.
Start slowly expressing your love. See how she reacts to the small things first - if you are as close to her as you claim, you should be able to pick up signals to see how she feels about you showing a bit more love than just friendship.
I'm not saying you have to be a mind reader, by any means. But you did say you can just about predict each others emotions and thoughts. If you find she's withdrawing as you show more affection, she's probably not interested in more than friendship. If she feeds into it and perhaps shows you more affection, too, then she probably is interested.

You will eventually have to actually speak the words and make direct communication with her - but start subtle - and see her reactions. Don't dive in head first and possibly scare away a good friend. You may just have a crush or infatuation that you're blowing up into something more because she's always there.

Answer 3

Well it seems you already answered your question. You can;t live your life with the regret of her not knowing your feelings.
And looks aren't everything. You may not be Hercules but thats because he was half god. Its tough to compete with a guy whose father is Zues.
Im currently dating my best friend of 4 years. She had a nasty break up and was saying the same things, apparently she was just hoping that I would be the boy.
Like you said you have two months. Go for it.
Dont go crazy on her, she may get freaked out, just tell her that you love her, and that the friendship is most important to you, but you were wondering if she felt the same way. You can still be friends after that, dating or not.
Good luck with your life and her.

Answer 4

You know her really well maybe even better than her other guy friends or her bfs. Well I think you should tell her how you feel. Since you liked her for 2 yrs. I think you need to tell her now than before you leave, because if she likes you back; then you get to spend some time with her before you leave.

Answer 5

i cant tell u how it will turn out be shell take it pretty good or very badly theres no in between. since she just lost a boyfriend of 2 years then i would guess she would take it badly because u would mess up something thats solid (your friendship) and u would turn it upsidde down by asking. but i definatly think u sould ask because itlll be bugging u for a while. but dont ask for a relation ship becauz ur leaving and tell her sooner then later

Answer 6

If u love her,go for herand tell her right now u love her very much.It is nothing wrong to love a best friend as long as both of u love each other,care for each other,understands each other and don't cheat each other.

Answer 7

sure that's greater durable. You seem at one yet another in a distinctive easy. Like on Friday night's while neither of you have a date lol...that is like ok see ya later yet you the two are thinking the comparable element lol...

Answer 8

Best friends can be the best! Romance isn't your entire life. Wouldn't it be nice to go through life with someone you like, trust a
and can talk to?
Casually ask if she thinks you could be more than friends and why.

Answer 9

yo man u r in love. go get ur chance don't be late .
if u do say tommarow so there is no tommarow in love.
say to her rite now .
hay man i want to ask some thing is she is beautyful .
but if she is so don't b a fool b a Mr. Hercules.

Answer 10

I wasted 10 yrs of my life being in love with my best friend!
We finally got together & it was great!The sex was fantastic & I thanked God for blessing me with him finally realizing he loved me too.
Then the stupid,self centered ,dimwit,went looking elsewear & told me he didn't love me like that!But he still wanted to hang out & be friends! He destroyed me!
Look for a girl who will love you for you.He wishes he had stuck with me now instead of in a lie of a marriage with a mentally ill,cute little blonde!

Answer 11

yes! I do beleive you can be together you just have to be homest and tell her how you feel! don't live in the what if's cause you may regret it.
good luck!