hi, my name is sheri and i'm 22 yaers old. I ran away from home when i was 13 yaers old, and i got hooked on drugs. i've been to rehab twice. but this past time i relapsed, i did it on my own!!
i guess wanted it bad enough.well, all i know how to do are the old fashioned things that wemon are supposed to do.[cook, clean,and try and raise my son. (he's 20 months)] anyway's, i got sober my 35 year old boyfriend hasn't kicked the habbit yet.we live with his mother. she pays for every thing. i try to help out as much as i can, cooking and cleaning the house, i try to work for her and put in my part, well because i ran away so young, i became homeless addicted to crack cocaine, here in miami, fl. i say that because i havn't seen nor even herd from any one in my family in almost 10 years. i have god, and the greatest gift i could ever recieve, my son. my boyfriend's abusive to me. physically, emotionally, mentally. i want to face my fear and go out on my own. i'm scared.
what do you sugest
2006-08-09 18:57:46 · 17 answers · asked by affluencesoul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you are afraid of is the same thing we all are afraid of....the unknown. Get out of there....if you have to go to a homeless shelter, just get out of there. You will never get your life back on track as long as you are with him. And you deserve a better guy.
2006-08-09 19:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by opjames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Sheri. Firstly, sorry about your messed up life, drugs, running away, abusive boyfriend who still uses. This is no environment for you OR your son. What is your fear? Your fear that your boyfriend will chase you? Your fear of going out on your own? Do you have access to Women's Shelters where you live? Or Lifeline? Or any other form of assistance? Maybe counselling is also the way to go given your horrific past. As a teenager we all think we know everything. Do you know where your family lives? Try contacting your parents. This will be a big step for you. And you have the most important gift in your life .... GOD. Pray to our Lord Jesus that all will be OK, hand this problem over to Him and listen for an answer. He will guide you, He won't let you down. I certainly wish you luck on your journey from this moment on. When you are ready there are many beautiful men out there.
2006-08-09 19:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by dolphus42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are trying really hard to get it together. You owe it to yourself and your son to stay on the right path. If your boyfriend is 35 and still living at home and doing drugs...it is unlikely he will ever amount to much and he's not treating you right to boot. As your son grows he will learn that it is okay to treat women badly because that is what he sees. You don't want that do you?
There are many agencies that can help you get out on your own. You may even qualify for tuition help to go back to school and learn a trade. For instance I went to Medical Assisting School and now own my own home in California. It just takes will and determination.
Try Catholic Charities
WEAVE (Woman Escaping A Violent Environment)
Contact your local community college and set an appt. with a counselor who can hook you up with options.
Talk to a pastor of a local church.
Try Narcaholics/Alcohols Annonymous or Alanon
As scarey as it seems, maybe you should try and contact your family. I don't know what brought you to run away but if they were generally good people they are probably hoping that someday you will contact them. So give it a shot.
If you want to talk more or need a friend who was in a similar situation a long time ago...trailscout1@yahoo.com
myspace.com/bebegalini
Stay strong...you can do it.
2006-08-09 19:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Trailscout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THERE or ur son will become abusive and maybe a drug addict even tho he is so young this is the time babies develop words and copy wat they c for example daddy hitting mommy they might copy that and u will divorce ur husband later so u should do it now because if the child can remeber it it will affect the child emotionally, until they are grown, and u r now old enough to go alone or u could go back to ur family who probaly think the worst after ten years of complete absencene, giving them hope will be great so i would stay there let them ketchup on the past ten years of ur life and everything or u could since u r now a legal adult move into an apartment and get a job and pay for daycare but for just a while cus from age 1-4 that is when children make bonds and stuff and if u arent there that is wat the whild will remeber, not c-ing u so i wish u the best of luck
2006-08-09 19:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by wowpriestmage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. First, have you tried contacting your family? If you haven't, you should. What do you have to lose? What about a friend you can stay with? And a last resort...there are shelters for battered women. I live in Cali., but I know they have those shelters all across the nation. There are most likely programs that can assist you as well. Through a type of welfare program, they can help you go to school, find a job and even pay for a daycare. Most of all, you need to get out of that environment, for you and the baby. You are clean, you need to stay that way for your child. And for yourself....don't stay with a guy who is abusive. In most cases, it only gets worse. and if he is still on drugs, he is a very volatile personality. Listen, it's scary....but so is the situation you are in now. You can do it on your own and there are places that can help. Get a phone book and start looking and calling. You'd be surprised at the people who are willing to direct you in the right direction. You are so young. Don't waste your life, or endanger it or your baby's. You can do it!! Have faith in yourself and it God. Remember that you truly NEVER walk alone and you really do have the power it takes to change your life...you just need to believe it!!! Good luck to you...peace and God bless you and your baby!
2006-08-09 19:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by taraleighsg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheri, Wow! It really sounds like you've had a rough life and I would like to say I'm sorry you had to endure all that you have. However, do you want your son to experience that same kind of life. I mean if your boyfriend is still using and being abusive to you that is not the type of environment to raise a child. You stated that had God and honey that is all you need. Pray and ask God for guidance and I promise you he will not mis-guide you. Look at all his done for you this far. I mean you're living in a home with man is addicted and you have been able not to use. Please stop thinking of your fears and begin to think about your son, he deserves a life without drugs and without abuse.
2006-08-09 19:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by KIKI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you baby....not only for the condition you have put yourself on, but also for your inability to think and get out of it....
You left home when you were 13.....you did drugs.....went to rehab....strated all over again...now have a baby.....a good for nothing boyfriend...and you are still confused.....i wonder what made you have the child in the first place...what did he do wrong in his previous life that he is blessed with such a loving & caring parents.
The only way you can fix it all right is repeating your history once again....just take off may be right now...exactly the same way you took of when you were 13....nobody should be able to get you...head north (Just a suggestion)...but this time do everything right....
I was a drug addict for 8 Yrs....i kicked the habit overnight...without rehab or help.....just threw the bud one day and said this cant be my weekness....there is more to life then just being selfish....
Dont be worried bout this world - if you have the heart to face it then this world will definetely welcome you....rest all will be taken care by God...
P.S. - Dont think of going back home....mostly it gets worse...its better if you shape up your and most importantly your kids future...
My Wishes be with you...
2006-08-09 19:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Myles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's never too late to start a new life...think about your son if you will raised him with that kind of atmosphere...remember that you should love yourself if you want changes in your life...Please have all the means to contact your family...they will surely help you...give your life a break...leave your man...and ask for God's guidance to give you more strength and the wisdom to get all through the hard times...God is waiting for you...talk to Him and have faith...God Bless You!!!!
2006-08-09 19:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by stein 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋