I am wondering why so many people think a 35 yr old man not wanting to drive is weird?

Question

I have a son who chooses not to drive a car, first because of all the expence, second the responsibility and lastly he really doesn't want to. He has a slight learning disability he is a hard worker and does well if he can learn his position in his way of learning. At the moment he is unemployed and finding it difficult to find a job, so many want you to have a valid drivers license. He endures a lot of guff and ridicule for choosing not to drive, which I think is unfair. I respect him for knowing his limitations and making sure he isn't going to harm others, wrongly by driving just to stop the GUFF.

Answer 1

I just finnished a roll for a movie about a 35 year old man who doesn't have his driver's licence yet, it was produced by the producers of Napolion Dynamite. Dude that's cool.

Answer 2

I don't drive, either, but now I'm old enough to have the excuse that my eyes are too bad. My brother-in-law doesn't drive, either, and his reason is that he is an alcoholic who falls off the wagon periodically and knows it would not be safe for him to drive. My mother and my sister never learned to drive, either. In both cases, as also in mine, the main reason was that the only car in the family when we were the age to learn was my father's and he was against having anyone else use it.

Your son needs to develop a stock answer that is acceptable and simply memorize it. He could say, for example, that there was no car available on which he could learn when he was young, and so he got used to using public transportation. He prefers to daydream or read a book or nap on the bus, not have to pay attention to the road and the other crazy drivers. The cost of gas and car insurance and maintenance are also factors.

Even though our decision not to drive is sensible, it is in the minority, so people do ask. We need to have answers prepared, or people assume there is something hidden and sinister in the reason. No, he never had a license that was taken away; he just never had a license. Didn't find the need for one, didn't like the idea of driving.

And I know the frustration about jobs that require a driver's license. It is useful to find that out in the preliminary stages, and not even bother to apply to such positions. In government or large corporate positions, it will be part of the job posting. In any position where that could be a factor (they want him to run errands, for example), it is worthwhile to ask when requesting an application form. Why waste everyone's time?

Answer 3

If your son seriously has a learning disability that makes it difficult or unsafe to drive then an employer should understand that. They do not, however, have to hire him since many jobs do require a valid drivers license.
Now, on the other hand, these people who are high and mighty because they "choose not to drive", that's just stupid. It's one thing if you live in the city where it is acceptable not to have a car and ride public transportation, actually I commend people for doing this. But to just "choose" not to drive and inconvenience your friends, family and employer is just stubbornness.

Answer 4

i am a 38 year old woman who chooses not to drive. yes, i too hear alot about it. i also own my own business thaty requires driving. all i do is hire some one to drive the deliveries. simple, i dont pay the extremely high insurance and car rates, the crazy gas prices or the chance of getting into another accident. brush off what people say and tell your son to ignore any comments. we are the smarter ones.

Answer 5

look i agree with you what you do is your own business but i think you should at least learn

Answer 6

ppl pick on what doesn't fit the "norm" then again society is all messed up so don't take it seriously. don't let words break you.

Answer 7

that's OK he is saving a lot of money