chance of getting pregnant if you are staying up late, drinking for a week, smoking and he pulled out?

Question

i just gave birth three months ago and i was so depressed with my life, i was also stressed with work bcuz i work at graveyard hours. so i have been drinking and smoking nonstop for a week. and one crazy night, i did it with this dude (unprotected) on a fertile day, which i totally forgot. he told me that he pulled out but i felt a sudden gush inside me during the intercourse. given the chance that he came inside of me... is that enough to get my pregnant? what are the probability? i am so paranoid so i researched on the net about ways of interfering with pregnancy. i came across Emergency Contraception... however, i took it 108 hours. barely before the time window of 120 hours prescription to take EC's. today is the 9th of aug. i had my last period around july 14-17. i did it last monday morning, july 31. and i took the EC on the next friday afternoon which is aug.4.... i had a take home preg test done monday morning this week, aug.7 and it sez negative...... IM SO FREAKING PARANOID

FYI.... I was taking good care of my baby prior to the crazy week when i was doing stupid stuff.. and i dont do random sex... the dude is my friend. i was just telling him my problems when that happend between us. hes been helping me more than what the father of my kid is. its just that, i dont want to and i CANT have another kid yet and especially not with my friend.

it is now the 12th of aug..... im supposed to have my period anytime now.... i sure hope it comes. im taking aspirins to trigger my period coz some people sez it works... i just took pregnancy test again and it sez "negative".

Answer 1

It is VERY likely that you are pregnant. I don't think drinking or smoking lessens your chances. Unprotected sex, no matter if he pulls out, is no form of birth control. I know many couples who conceived in a drunken stupor. Good luck and get yourself checked out!

Answer 2

Sounds like you experienced post partum depression. This is a clinical diagnosis and tends to resolve itself within 3 month of delivery. But in some patients cases it can take up to 6 months depending on psychosocial factors (such as single parenting, graveyard shifts). Drinking and smoking are not the answers to your temporary depression. In fact the are more likely going to make your depression worse in the long run. I would encourge you to stop drinking and smoking and try to spend more time with your newborn. The depression should resolve on its own, but if you need help please seek out counseling. Another option would be to setup a doctor's appointment and convey your problems and thoughts. If you are a candidate for selective serotonine reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) then he can write you a prescription. SSRI have been show to help women get over postpartum depression. I would also ask for a pregnancy test at the doctor's office during this same appointment. And remember the chances of getting pregnant even when you are trying to get pregnant are only about 20% for each ovulation. So in addition to the Plan B contraception (emergency contraception, morning after pill) I wouldn't worry too much about being pregnant.

Answer 3

Well I got pregnant when I was smoking cigarettes, drinking hard liquor and beer, smoking pot and doing cocaine every single day for months... Of course I stopped doing everything about 2-4 weeks pregnant (I sort of "felt" pregnant, "felt" like I HAD to stop all that stuff for some reason, so I stopped everything) but I got pregnant during one of my most unhealthy binges and didn't even know it. I wasn't eating either, I was anorexic... I had sex and yes, any amount of sperm is enough to get you pregnant... I guess I'm one of those "fertile" ones. Don't know about you, but yes, it is possible, and hopefully you know that "pulling out" is the LEAST ineffective method of birth control (precum!!), for future reference! It is indeed enough to get you pregnant, and even hardcore drug use doesn't seem to affect those little sperms! WOW! I was surprised, in my case.

But since you DID take the EC within the window, you might have prevented the pregnancy... Of course, you'll have to wait a few more days to see if the cycle comes back or not. Hopefully everything will be ok, and this will be a narrow miss for you! Keep up with the PG tests, and have you talked to your OB GYN about any other alternatives to the EC pill? I don't know if there is another pill you can take later, but I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Use protection next time, if you can, sweetie!! It's so much better than worrying about another pregnancy, so soon after the first... Remember, it only takes a single sperm to impregnate you, and they're hardy as crap. Guys let sperm loose all through sex, not just when they "come" so... Pulling out is worthless! But best wishes, honey... You'll pull through ok. At least you're trying to find out as soon as possible, you could schedule an abortion as soon as you know, if that is how you feel would be the best way to handle the situation. Talk to your OB, if you don't have one, go to the Planned Parenthood in your area, or (maybe, I'm not sure) your local Health Department.

Condoms work better than anything, in my experience. Don't use the Vaginal Contraceptive Patch, it's crap. Spermicide works, but use it WITH a condom, or get condoms that have it on it... And of course, the EC pill is out there... Maybe see about getting on the Pill, or something? I mean, a one-time event is not really worth taking pills every day, I understand this. But definitely use some better protection than "pulling out" if you have sex again... I'm sure you know this, and I'm definitely not coming down on you. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

GIRL, how old are you? Second of all where was your baby doing all this sin?
We all make mistake in life, but where are your morals. You just gave birth and the father of the child is no where around (sounds like) and now you are in the bed with ANOTHER man!!!!!!!!
If you were under so much stress, how did having sex with another man help you? On top of that, it was unprotected!!!!!!! Most women shortly after giving birth would be paranoid of getting pregnant again so soon so they would use some kind of protection......not unless you are a religious women and don't believe in contraception's......but it doesn't sound like you are.
Plus, "pulling out" isn't a method of birth control....

Anyway, I think it's too soon to tell if you are preg, if you miss you next cycle, then you should be concerned......till then stop worrying so much and take care of that baby.

Answer 5

I feel sorry for your baby. With a "mother" like you to look up to, what kind of role model is this child going to have? Lots of people are depressed after pregnancy for various reasons...bad job, have to go back to work, financial problems, etc., but they generally don't resort to having unprotected sex with men. WTF is wrong with you? I don't care if this guy was your friend or not...friends don't tell people everything. You want to get HIV and eventually have your child raised by a foster family when you die of AIDS? Wise up, sweetheart, and stop f*cking around. You have more than just yourself to think about now...your baby should be your number one priority, and anything you do should be aimed at your child.

Answer 6

There's a good chance you are pregnant. And there's a chance you aren't too. Pulling out doesn't work. Sperm gets through before the climax, and also, if he came anywhere near your area, it can swim up to the uterus.

Good luck. I think EC should have taken care of it.

Answer 7

of course there is chance, but you are not necessarily pregnant.Pulling out in time had prevented me from getting pregnant for 5 years.
It normally gets 6 months for a normal couple to get pregnant...depends on how fertile you are..how old you are...so there are good chances you are not pregnant too...
And also..did you menage to get regular with your period?
And if you were breastfeeding(which I hope not, as you said you smoked and got drunk)..then there is less chance for you to be pregnanat
Good Luck to you!...

Answer 8

One week of drinking and smoking won't affect your fertility. However, it seems like your peroid is not due yet (?)
Maybe you're fine, after all? Calculate the date when it's due. Relax till then.

Answer 9

i think even though you were depressed that was very irresponsibe and taking ec is like an abortion you should think of all those unfortunate people who WANT babies!!!

Answer 10

Ugh... Your parents must be very proud. I'm sure your kids will be too.