my mom wont let me have a boyfriend or let my friends over when nobodys there and shes like not cool with anything she keeps saying i rush into things too much and that i have a long life ahead so i shuldnt start dating yet(mostly cuz shell think ill end up pregnant)plus my dad has this stupid rule that if i go over to someones house they have to come over b4 i can go back over!! it was all cuz this bi*ch tried to put my dad in jail for 'molesting' her(he didnt) how cani get them over it and accept that im ready for all that other stuff??
2006-08-09 18:35:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do what your mother tells you! Brat!
2006-08-09 18:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. C 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
HAHAHAHAHA this sounds like my life growing up and I'm only 23 my parents were just like that let me give you some advice.First your parents are just trying to do what is best for you if you did start dating and you did end up pregnant I'm not sure how old you are but if your still in school they would end up rasing your child 9Xout of 10 so you can finish and that isn't fair to them so they are trying to prevent that. Second we weren't allowed at anyones house for the main reason why that chic tried to put your dad in jail it is a fact people tell lies to get attention and not realize the trouble they can start innocent people may end up going to jail and or have a bad rep because of it so we couldn't go to anyone's house and plus if you were to go over to someone's house and your parents didn't check them out first what happens when you end up being assalted and locked in a a basement somewhere at (Lord forbid) but at least if they go over there they usualy can tell when something isn't right about someone or a situation.( You will never hear me repeat this again but parents are always right) and that is the bottom lie so don't look at it as if they are trying to ruin your life in the long run you will see they are loooking out for you because they live. Good Luck
2006-08-09 18:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you didn't put how old you are. and your parents are speaking from experience. if you start showing more responsibility and let them know this, then maybe they will let you have more privileges. I didn't like not being able to have friends over by myself when I was a teen, but I am very grateful that I couldn't now. and even if you think that you can make good decisions while they are not around, it is harder than you think. Ask your parents for one thing at a time after you show that you can handle it. Being a teen is not easy, and it does not get any easier later. be grateful they love you and are looking out for you. There are alot of teens getting into trouble right now like drugs and pregnancy that didn't expect to put themselves in those situations. those teens didn't have parents that were looking out for them as much as they needed. your parents just love you. go with the flow. and chill.
2006-08-09 18:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try to understand your parents' feelings. Your parents are most probably overly concerned for your well being with so many crimes going on nowadays. And with the bad experience your dad had with that girl, they would most probably be more paranoid about you having friends over, in case the same thing happen. What you can do is start with a curfew. Let your parents know what time you will be back when you go out and keep to that curfew. Slowly, your parents will trust you and you can start extending the curfew and maybe even get to stay over with friends. Your dad wants your friends to come over first becoz he needs to know who you are hanging out with. At least he will feel more at ease and he knows where to look for you should there be any emergency. On the dating part, it's really dependent on the individual, so, it's up to you how you want to gain their trust on this.
2006-08-09 18:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tsu-chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the best way to keep an eye on you is to allow you to do what is natural for kids/teens now days. Maybe she's really afraid that you might disrespect her or disregard how she feels about premarital sex. Let her know that you respect her and you respect yourself and you don't want to do anything to compromise that, and then be real about it... Actually do respect it and do not compromise it.
You're kind of having to work backwards right now, but once you get her trust the really hard part is keeping it. You don't want to hurt each other and you don't want to see each other hurt... so all you can do is try to talk to her without being argumentative and defensive.
2006-08-09 18:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by crazygreeniis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are less than 15, your parents have a right to protect you against relationships. However, about the friends thing, I think they are a little overprotective. Maybe, you invite your friends over so that your parents will know. Time will change things. Just wait for some time and they will agree. If not, you can talk to them.
2006-08-09 18:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by lx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They love you thats what their problem is..there is just too much sh1t happening out there these days and they are only trying to protect you..Give them a break.....Obviously you must not be too old if your mom is saying you will have plenty of time for going out when you are a little older....and she is right!!!!!! Right now enjoy your self have fun go to the mall talk on the phone or on the computer...Believe me it will go by so fast you will wonder how it did so fast..Listen to your parents and be glad they care what happens to you......Some kids parents could care less...You Don't want that
2006-08-09 18:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents and tell them that you think that you feel you are totally ready to take on these new responsiblities. Maybe dash it up with I'll clean the house while your gone, and you can meet him first, and if you like him then he can come over. Ask your mom to take you to the health department and get you birth control if you wanna have sex, or get a friend to take you. It's totally confidental and they dont care wat age you are and the best part is they dont tell ur parents if you don't want them to find out.
2006-08-09 18:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Erin the ROCKSTAR! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old u r. if ur like 15 or 14, then yeah its pretty reasonable for them to act liek that, but once u get to be like 16 17 18 then it gets a bit over board. prove to them that ur trustworthy, and the dividends will come, trust me. ive been down this EXACT road before i know exactly what ur talkin about
2006-08-09 18:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by retard_detector903 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is right you shouldn't have any body in the house when she is not there some thing may happen you have to look at it this way your mother loves you and she don't want any thing to happen to you.
You shouldn't be thinking about a boyfrien right now your boyfriend should be your school work.
2006-08-09 18:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by Juanita M. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is I've been there and went through it.... as long as your under their roof they call the shots. Until then it may help to know that they have their reasons for keeping you safe and protected. They may know a thing or two about life and not want to see you hurt.
2006-08-09 18:38:53 · answer #11 · answered by kitkool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋