why is it that when l try do find the right girl-friend (girl that is a friend) i always end up putting more into the relationship then the other person i am the kind of person that will listen to your problems and try to be the bestfriend ever but when it's time for them to be friends they just want to talk about them and they don'y seem to care about your problems and your feelings................
2006-08-09 18:08:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It may depend on where you are meeting your friends and the kind of people you and your friends are. Selfish people will normally only think of themselves for the most part. Try meeting people with different values and concentrate on quality instead of quantity.
2006-08-17 17:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with a friend of mine that I have been friends with for 10 years. When she had a problem with her mom or boyfriend I was always there to listen. But when I had a problem I could never get her to answer the phone. So finally I made up my mind that I wouldn't listen to her problems anymore. I got other friends that I had more in common with and I got a life and stop calling her as much. Now she calls me all the time but I don't make myself available as much. Or just pray God understands.
2006-08-16 18:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brownskin82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what you got to keep in mind is that true friends are few and far between and can be counted on one hand. It sounds to me like you are trying too hard to make friends, why not let the people come to you for a change, let them make the first move in the conversation and in developing the friendship. Usually when you are looking and trying so hard to find and make friends, you find only users and takers. Don't be the aggresser anymore in making friendships, let them be the aggressers for a change. See how that turns out for you.
2006-08-17 05:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seems like for some of the answer you been giving people you seem like a very negative and childish person. who wants to be friends with a person like that. stupidity have no choice on who they choose and the way you answer some of the questions from other users. you are the captain and the word you where trying to spell dummy is obesity. I probably would have found that as an insult if it was spelled right but since it came from an idoit that was hilarious. keep up the good job stupid
2006-08-10 01:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by layn22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trying to hard. let it come naturally. you may be putting in more as you may want more out of it than they do. you have to remember that girls have always had each other to share things with and they find it hard to talk to a guy than another girl. gals are only out for themselves. they break a fingernail its the end of the world. its just the way they are. let them know your their friend and someone to call and listen to. one will come your way that cares as much about you as you do them. thats the keeper.
2006-08-10 01:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find that 90% of people are like that. either decide whether u want lots of friends (out of which 90% will be selfish), or just a few quality friends who will appreciate your value. It will take a lot of time to get such friends, especially among girls.
2006-08-10 01:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by good_frnd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An old lady told me a long time ago that you don't have friends,you have associates. Think long and hard and you will see that this is true. I have had many associates,but I HAVE ONLY HAD 1 TRUE FRIEND....Next question-"What is a friend?"
2006-08-18 00:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by dennis p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem... but i dont let it bother me cause im going to be the best friend that i can be ..its not all about you ,some where some body might need that true friend and i might just be that friend...ohh yes i have my times that i need some one to be there for me as a friend but thats what GOD is ... my best friend
2006-08-16 20:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by the1andonybump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new friends (maybe at a bible believing church).
Romans 10
2006-08-10 01:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making friends is easier than keeping them, you're absolutely right.
2006-08-17 22:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by gemini_1995 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋