i am in school have 2 kids and work 3 jobs. right now i have been ignoring every guy that ever comes around. but how will i know when i am truly ready for a real relationship with someone. will i just automatically be nice to him or will he have to grow on me.
2006-08-09 18:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by hunnie l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Hunnie, at first glance I couldn't see how you would have time to develop a good relationship. You sound so busy I don't see room in your life for a man, I know you are a good Mom and take good care of your kids. He would have to be ready to move in and help you out with the cost of keeping your family right away, so you could leave one of your jobs in order to spend enough time with him to make it worth his investment in your family. I do not know your situation, maybe you could get money from your kids Dad, that would allow you to quit one of your jobs and have time to pursue a relationship or at least spend more time with your kids. At any rate you should be proud of yourself for all that you are doing for your family. hugs
2006-08-09 18:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by eudaemon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your plate is definitely full. 3 jobs, school and 2 children? You really don't have time for a man. I don't know how you are working your children into the picture! When school is over and you have met your goals and are able to get a higher paying job so that you can eliminate the 3 you have, then maybe the time will be right. I admire you for what you are doing, but you are already spread way too thin. Your spare moments need to go to your children.
2006-08-17 18:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having 2 kids you must know what kind of relation you like and obviously you actively participated in creating those kids.
When you are ready for new relation you will know your instinct will tell you. Whether you will be nice to him that is a good question, usually woman is nice to a man at least for the while. For the relation to last you both have to desire to be together and make constant compromise. He also have to like your kids very important.
2006-08-17 13:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can date lots of different people for different amounts of time until you find the one that you want to have a "real relationship" with. Sounds like with everything you have going on it wouldn't hurt to go out and have some fun....that will help you decide and know for sure if you are ready! good luck and no need to rush!
2006-08-17 13:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by lahaina luau 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 kids and you work 3 jobs. I think you are doing your best right now. You should just put dating on hold until your kids graduate High School. Your kids are the love of your life right now and they are your main priority and focus. Once your children are on the their own, then you can concentrate on dating.
2006-08-17 17:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Josie31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being ready to get seriously involved with someone is something that you will know by yourself. You don't have to ask other people. You will just know it right away. If you see yourself being with that person for a long time, then maybe he is the one. But the person must accept you, and your kids wholeheartedly. It's a part of you that he must live with.
2006-08-17 16:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That something nobody can't tell you the only think i could say about it is to follow ur mind and ur heart that how u know when ur ready for a real relationship. When ur mind and heart is ready ur know when ur ready.
Hope this helps
Good Luck
Mara
2006-08-15 09:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by sunsetlove718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart will make that decision for you and when it does, you will be the first one to know. Just try to find some time to go out and socialize, that is the only way you will find Mr. Right.
2006-08-17 15:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at school? and have 2 kids? why ? how?
you have kids means you have been to relationship ! but :
I'm convinced that we are ready but we don't want , I'm working , and not married no kids neither ,, but i have in to 2 relation's before , but now I'm free since last year ,, so its about us ,,
we are ready but we don't want to try !
2006-08-16 19:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u've got ur hands full. but i think when that special someone comes along there will be an automatic connection and u will know rite away. things will then work out. fate.
2006-08-17 15:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋