My boyfriend has been acting very strange lately and I think he might be thinking about proposing....then again I could be completely wrong....anyway what do you think is the right age?
2006-08-09 17:49:30 · 19 answers · asked by sarah_live4christ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Age differs from individual to individual. I am happily married and was married at 19. A few people warned me against it, but I'm proud to say that both my husband and I are very successful, happy people. On the other hand, there are some people that if they get married that young it will be a total disaster because they are not mature enough. You have to look at yourself and your boyfriend and figure out if you guys are to the level you need to be. You need to talk about the important stuff- kids, finances, in-laws, values, and beliefs to find out if you will be happy. Personally, I recommend talking to your parents, or another older person you respect because they know you and can give you probably the best advice. If he does propose, I recommend premarital counseling before setting a wedding date. This allows you as a couple to make sure that you are ready without the pressure of a date. If you find out that you are not through the counseling you can break it off without having to cancel wedding plans. Marriage is a really big step and is much more than a question of age. It is a life long commitment that should be taken very seriously, but if he is the one for you and everything checks out for you guys, it is not impossible to get married at an early age and be happy.
2006-08-09 18:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Britknee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think women are very fortunate for the era we live in as it offers us an opportunity to do something other than marry straight out of high school.
I suppose it depends on your circumstances and your ambitions and desires for what you want to do with your life.
I personally married at 30, mostly because I wanted to make the right choice and basically no one measured up. It was worth the wait, and in the meantime I travelled, worked my way up to a great position, and was able to buy a house long before I married...which came in handy as now I can stay at home and raise my kids and I work from home too so I have the best of all worlds. It isn't easy though...we're not rich, but certainly better off and not struggling. Those things often can ruin a marriage, so think about what you want out of life.
Not everyone is the same and there are pros and cons to all sides when you think of it. I feel kind of old having had my kids in my 30s and it's hard to keep up with it all sometimes...but they are better off in other ways...many friends have kids all grown up who are my age and have some freedom....so you just need to to make those choices depending on what you want.
If you're not ready for marriage you don't have to say yes just because your boyfriend proposes. If he loves you he can hang in there as you got all your lives to be together anyhow.
2006-08-09 18:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing your age I cannot hazard to guess what answer you may be looking for. But being married previously I can tell you that I first married at 19 and wasn't ready for it as still wanted to party and have a good time and not accept the responsibility that accompanies marriage.
Married second time at 28 and was a mistake as she was pregnant and I was getting hospitalized and wanted my son to have my name in case I should not come out of surgery.
Married for a third time at age, actually to be truthful cannot remember age so obviously was the biggest mistake I'd ever made.
And finally am getting married again on May 20/07. At this time in my life I will be 51 years old so I'd say that is the best age for me to marry at anyhow. Because with this woman I know I will remain until the day they plant me.
But for you the right age may be different. So best of luck to you in trying to decide at what age to marry. My only advice would be to communicate with the man you marry, and do so openly and honestly. Because both his and your looks will fade over time, but as long as you can communicate then you have the world by a string.
2006-08-09 17:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies by the person. I had a classmate married for 21 years who married in jr. year of high school. I married at 22, and have been very happy for 16 years. Some should never marry!!
2006-08-09 17:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by hagren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-09 17:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure it's an exact age. I would DEFINENTLY be sure that i could afford to buy a house and completly support myself before i got married. If i had to choose an age it would be between 25 -29
2006-08-09 17:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by chairkiss_silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it's the same age for everyone. A person as to be ready for the responsiblities that go along. You have to be old enough to compomise. You have to be sure that he's the one you want to have in your life for the next 50 years or more.
2006-08-09 18:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by davidandmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 - 21
2006-08-09 18:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the people involved. I was 27 and I did a good job of screwing things up because I probably was not mature enough. Even though I was sure my wife was the one for me. Now my wife has alot of resentment issues with me. If you are questioning yourself, you may not be ready. You should feel confident. I wish you luck.
2006-08-09 18:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by john_s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-09 18:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Rams N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋