Okay. I love my g/f more than words could ever say what I feel in my heart. We've been together for over a year now, and I hope we're going to be together for many years to come. There is just something I would like some help with to make her feel more at ease.
9 times out of 10 when we have any sort of sexual intimacy, she bleeds a lot. I don't mind, and check with her all the time to see if she wants to stop, and do so every time she asks. She gets very upset and angry at herself. I console her, but she still hates herself for something she can't control.
Have any of you girls ever experienced this? Do you know why this would be? She is still technically a virgin. Is it because her hymen isn't broken? Or because she is relatively new to sex?
Your help and maturity would be much appreciated. Again, I sincerely ask this for the concern of her feelings, not for my own benefit. Thank you.
2006-08-09 17:43:18 · 7 answers · asked by Franko Unamerican 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I know the first time i had sex and for awhile after I would bleed some but not a lot. After time it went away. I would suggest that you talk to her when your not intimate that you are concerned you are hurting her and that maybe she should see a OBGYN to have a check. It is important once you start to become sexually active you see a OBGYN yearly. I would even offer to go with so that she knows you are there for her and it's nothing wrong with her in your eyes. I truly wish you the best. I also enclosed some links that may help you more.
2006-08-09 17:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had sex she is no longer a virgin. It sounds there is something wrong with her. Go with her to a doctor. If you had sex at all her hymen should already be stretched enough to accommodate. There is something there that needs to be checked. Is this her first time? It could be a normal occurance if so. Some people their first time bleed others don't. And my hymen was stretched enough I didn't bleed at all my first time. I was an athlete. In all sincerity if you have did it more than once it should not be doing that. It is not normal bud.
2006-08-10 00:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex never hurt me when I started because I had gotten fingered a lot before. And a tampon broke my hymen. So... it's scary and I definitely understand her blaming herself... I've done similar things... blaming myself for things beyond my control. That's wonderful that you care about her that much to ask if she wants to stop or not and you seem really sweet.
I don't quite understand how her hymen's not broken yet... but you may want to just... yeah, finger her a lot for a little while. Or it may just be that she's not used to something that much bigger than a finger. In that case, use two. And it'll still feel good as hell for her. And eventually, once she gets more used to bigger things inside of her, it'll feel good as hell for you too! hoorah.
2006-08-10 01:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyofthflame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely encourage her to visit a gynecologist and stay out of sexual situations. It's unusual for a female to bleed in the way you described, so dont do anything to cause it.
Be there for her emotionally and let her know that this doesnt change the way you feel about her.
2006-08-10 01:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by angelfyre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how much blood you're talking about. Dark, red blood-not good. Light red/pink when she wipes (sorry to get graphic) just may mean you may be a little large for her vagina. That happens to me. It usually is gone within a day, right? Anything more than that and I would have her see her doctor.
2006-08-14 21:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you had interource or just foreplay if you have sex if she is still a virgin she might bleed she might have something wrong she should see a doc
2006-08-10 00:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by curiousokiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOCTER BUDDY
2006-08-10 00:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by RO_dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋